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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.

This is satire, right?

I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.

Funny because in corporate America Duke alums have a reputation as being the best to work with because they have people skills, unlike Ivy League nerds, bookworms and strivers. Agree that there are plenty of D-bags from Duke, but there are many who are not.

DDMF.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.

This is satire, right?

I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.

This is satire, right?

I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate posters who use the word “strivers.” Any legitimate university will have students who work hard and those who don’t.

Google party school if your kid is the latter.

I dislike it, too, because it’s pejorative of good students, ergo used only by someone whose kid is not = biased discussion so no point in participating

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Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that use the word "striver" when talking about teenagers?

I guess Muffy and Buffy now actually need to study. Tragic. The world is collapsing.

One can study hard and do well without being a total stress case who is constantly saying "what did you get?" and running over peers in order to be #1.

Either 1) you are a striver, or 2) you have been fortunate not to encounter too many of them. They are truly miserable.

Whatever. To strive, if you actually look at a dictionary means, to make a vigorous, determined effort to achieve a goal, often involving hard work, perseverance, and overcoming challenges. Being a striver is a good thing.

I feel like some of these "anti-striver" posts are coded from people who don't want their kids around too many Asians (the way some people didn't want their kids to go to school with Jews in the 1950s.)

Again why is stiver only linked to certain race?

I’m Asian, and even I feel uncomfortable being surrounded by this kind of environment. I see a lot of toxicity—people humble-bragging (like saying they “did terribly” but still got a 99), constantly chasing teachers to curve grades, and complaining about homework and grades while simultaneously demanding to be placed in the most rigorous classes.

Not everyone perceives the world as a zero-sum surviving game.

It's not linked to a certain race or ethnicity. It's more of the "haves" being threatened by the work ethic of the have nots who have to work harder to increase their economic and social status.

You are ignorant and not reading the posts of those who are trying to intelligently describe what a striver is. Being a striver means feeling the need to broadcast the fact that you think you have the world's best work ethic to the world. One can have a great work ethic and not feel the need to constantly be advertising it. Or one can just be super smart and not have to work as hard and still do great. Getting the same results while working less hard is actually a good thing, not something to be ashamed of.

A lot of people don't want to be around other people who are constantly telling the world how smart they think they are, and are constantly sucking up to professors. As someone else said, act like you've been there before. And work smarter, not harder.

It is sad that this concept is so difficult for some people to understand. In the professional world, a lot of bosses don't want to hear how hard you worked and how smart you think you are. They just want the work done and done right.

Anonymous wrote:I hate posters who use the word “strivers.” Any legitimate university will have students who work hard and those who don’t.

Google party school if your kid is the latter.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.

This is satire, right?

I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.

Anonymous wrote:Wake Forest, Holy Cross, Colby, and Colgate.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.

This is satire, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that use the word "striver" when talking about teenagers?

I guess Muffy and Buffy now actually need to study. Tragic. The world is collapsing.

One can study hard and do well without being a total stress case who is constantly saying "what did you get?" and running over peers in order to be #1.

Either 1) you are a striver, or 2) you have been fortunate not to encounter too many of them. They are truly miserable.

Whatever. To strive, if you actually look at a dictionary means, to make a vigorous, determined effort to achieve a goal, often involving hard work, perseverance, and overcoming challenges. Being a striver is a good thing.

I feel like some of these "anti-striver" posts are coded from people who don't want their kids around too many Asians (the way some people didn't want their kids to go to school with Jews in the 1950s.)

Again why is stiver only linked to certain race?

I’m Asian, and even I feel uncomfortable being surrounded by this kind of environment. I see a lot of toxicity—people humble-bragging (like saying they “did terribly” but still got a 99), constantly chasing teachers to curve grades, and complaining about homework and grades while simultaneously demanding to be placed in the most rigorous classes.

Not everyone perceives the world as a zero-sum surviving game.

It's not linked to a certain race or ethnicity. It's more of the "haves" being threatened by the work ethic of the have nots who have to work harder to increase their economic and social status.

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Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that use the word "striver" when talking about teenagers?

I guess Muffy and Buffy now actually need to study. Tragic. The world is collapsing.

One can study hard and do well without being a total stress case who is constantly saying "what did you get?" and running over peers in order to be #1.

Either 1) you are a striver, or 2) you have been fortunate not to encounter too many of them. They are truly miserable.

Whatever. To strive, if you actually look at a dictionary means, to make a vigorous, determined effort to achieve a goal, often involving hard work, perseverance, and overcoming challenges. Being a striver is a good thing.

I feel like some of these "anti-striver" posts are coded from people who don't want their kids around too many Asians (the way some people didn't want their kids to go to school with Jews in the 1950s.)

Again why is stiver only linked to certain race?

I’m Asian, and even I feel uncomfortable being surrounded by this kind of environment. I see a lot of toxicity—people humble-bragging (like saying they “did terribly” but still got a 99), constantly chasing teachers to curve grades, and complaining about homework and grades while simultaneously demanding to be placed in the most rigorous classes.

Not everyone perceives the world as a zero-sum surviving game.

It's not linked to a certain race or ethnicity. It's more of the "haves" being threatened by the work ethic of the have nots who have to work harder to increase their economic and social status.

You are ignorant and not reading the posts of those who are trying to intelligently describe what a striver is. Being a striver means feeling the need to broadcast the fact that you think you have the world's best work ethic to the world. One can have a great work ethic and not feel the need to constantly be advertising it. Or one can just be super smart and not have to work as hard and still do great. Getting the same results while working less hard is actually a good thing, not something to be ashamed of.

A lot of people don't want to be around other people who are constantly telling the world how smart they think they are, and are constantly sucking up to professors. As someone else said, act like you've been there before. And work smarter, not harder.

It is sad that this concept is so difficult for some people to understand. In the professional world, a lot of bosses don't want to hear how hard you worked and how smart you think you are. They just want the work done and done right.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that use the word "striver" when talking about teenagers?

I guess Muffy and Buffy now actually need to study. Tragic. The world is collapsing.

One can study hard and do well without being a total stress case who is constantly saying "what did you get?" and running over peers in order to be #1.

Either 1) you are a striver, or 2) you have been fortunate not to encounter too many of them. They are truly miserable.

Whatever. To strive, if you actually look at a dictionary means, to make a vigorous, determined effort to achieve a goal, often involving hard work, perseverance, and overcoming challenges. Being a striver is a good thing.

I feel like some of these "anti-striver" posts are coded from people who don't want their kids around too many Asians (the way some people didn't want their kids to go to school with Jews in the 1950s.)

Again why is stiver only linked to certain race?

I’m Asian, and even I feel uncomfortable being surrounded by this kind of environment. I see a lot of toxicity—people humble-bragging (like saying they “did terribly” but still got a 99), constantly chasing teachers to curve grades, and complaining about homework and grades while simultaneously demanding to be placed in the most rigorous classes.

Not everyone perceives the world as a zero-sum surviving game.

It's not linked to a certain race or ethnicity. It's more of the "haves" being threatened by the work ethic of the have nots who have to work harder to increase their economic and social status.