If you're not attracted to him, then you're not attracted to him.

That's sad, I find your quote, that he must be at at least 5'8 a little odd considering at the age of 39 and this would be a first date. Are you still planning to have children? At this age I would think you're looking for a lifetime companion. But of course it's important to be attracted to your lifetime companion height equals attractiveness to you then you have your answer.

I ended up marrying a tall man, but that was never my criteria. I dated short and tall men. The man I ended up marrying was smart and funny and made me laugh. That was my criteria. He had to be as smart or smarter than me and funny. It didn't matter what package it came in because if he met that criteria, I found him attractive.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m petite I don’t want a petite man too!! He should at least be 5’8!

I was with you until 5'8". That's still a little on the short side.

Silly discussion. A person should only date or marry someone to whom they are strongly physically attracted, in addition to being a quality person and the "right fit" on paper.
Attraction is very subjective and personal and nobody should be judged for whom they are or are not attracted to - not by others, nor should somebody judge him or herself.
A man who thinks a woman is unattractive and doesn't want to date her should not be judged for that.
A Black person who is not attracted to Whites for purposes of dating, or vice versa, is not a racist.
A heterosexual person who doesn't want to date a gay is not a homophobe.
If you are not attracted to this man for whatever reason, then let him go and keep searching. It is ok!

Anonymous wrote:If you had a short son who got rejected for his height, what would you think of that girl who rejected him? Nothing good, I’m sure.

Please do share what would you think about the boy who rejected your ugly daughter for being ugly?

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Anonymous wrote:You’re too old to let petty shit like that get in the way of being with a great guy. But you should probably cut him loose because he deserves better than your shallow self.

+1!
Op is acting like she's in middle school and I'm embarrassed for her and him for having to deal with that. She needs to find a tall contemptuous scrub and leave this guy for someone else.

Would you tell a man he is acting like a petty middle schooler for preferring to date a pretty woman? You’re just a pick me misogynist perpetuating the patriarchy. Grow up.

“Pretty” is in the eye of the beholder. What women think men find “pretty” and what men actually find “pretty” are often different. Women tend to equate “attractive” with looking like a Disney princes with petite facial features. Men routinely find women attractive that other women think are plain, and vice versa.

Everyone knows that there are both universal and cultural standards of beauty for both men and women.

Men don’t apologize for seeking sexually attractive women and women shouldn’t either.

You know that you don’t prefer a 5’4” man, stop lying.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re too old to let petty shit like that get in the way of being with a great guy. But you should probably cut him loose because he deserves better than your shallow self.

+1!
Op is acting like she's in middle school and I'm embarrassed for her and him for having to deal with that. She needs to find a tall contemptuous scrub and leave this guy for someone else.

Would you tell a man he is acting like a petty middle schooler for preferring to date a pretty woman? You’re just a pick me misogynist perpetuating the patriarchy. Grow up.

“Pretty” is in the eye of the beholder. What women think men find “pretty” and what men actually find “pretty” are often different. Women tend to equate “attractive” with looking like a Disney princes with petite facial features. Men routinely find women attractive that other women think are plain, and vice versa.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is height always so important for women?
Even short women reject men because of their height. It doesn’t matter that they are taller than them.

Why is weight important to men? Why are breasts and butts important to men?

Weight is at least somewhat changeable, especially today with GLP1s.

Men are nowhere near as picky about “breasts and butts” as women are about height.

Says who? Have you been fat before?

Yes.

Losing weight is not easy, but it is easier than getting taller.

Other than having one of those medieval operations where he is bedridden while his legs are broken in multiple places and then stretched out for several months, just to add an inch or two, there is nothing men can do to get taller.

So what if men can't control it? Why should that change what women are attracted to? Men judge women for all sorts of things we can't control or can change only through similarly medieval means.

You may be confusing me with someone else. I am Team “women shouldn’t settle—for the man’s sake.”

If you had a short son who got rejected for his height, what would you think of that girl who rejected him? Nothing good, I’m sure.

Anonymous wrote:Men are allowed to not be attracted to ugly women and women are allowed to not be attracted to short men.

Proceed accordingly.

This. Move on OP

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Anonymous wrote:You’re too old to let petty shit like that get in the way of being with a great guy. But you should probably cut him loose because he deserves better than your shallow self.

+1!
Op is acting like she's in middle school and I'm embarrassed for her and him for having to deal with that. She needs to find a tall contemptuous scrub and leave this guy for someone else.

Would you tell a man he is acting like a petty middle schooler for preferring to date a pretty woman? You’re just a pick me misogynist perpetuating the patriarchy. Grow up.

Men are allowed to not be attracted to ugly women and women are allowed to not be attracted to short men.

Proceed accordingly.

He is taller than you. What’s your problem?

That said, if you aren’t attracted to him, don’t waste his time.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is height always so important for women?
Even short women reject men because of their height. It doesn’t matter that they are taller than them.

That’s biology. Women prefer tall men, like men prefer pretty women even the dumb ones.

Its also biology that this person just does not mate. Nature is fine with it.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m petite I don’t want a petite man too!! He should at least be 5’8!

Why? You're short, a short guy matches.
I'm 5'8... Leave the tall men for us long legged ladies please.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is height always so important for women?
Even short women reject men because of their height. It doesn’t matter that they are taller than them.

Why is weight important to men? Why are breasts and butts important to men?

Weight is at least somewhat changeable, especially today with GLP1s.

Men are nowhere near as picky about “breasts and butts” as women are about height.

Says who? Have you been fat before?

Yes.

Losing weight is not easy, but it is easier than getting taller.

Other than having one of those medieval operations where he is bedridden while his legs are broken in multiple places and then stretched out for several months, just to add an inch or two, there is nothing men can do to get taller.

So what if men can't control it? Why should that change what women are attracted to? Men judge women for all sorts of things we can't control or can change only through similarly medieval means.