Anonymous
Post 11/17/2025 11:21     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

I have ‘helpful’ neighbours. They are a retire couple and they often do things to ‘help’ me as I have a busy life. About 80% of the time it’s actually helpful (I.e. they will bring in any packages left at the door) and about 20% of the time it isn’t as helpful as they think. But I always thank them and try to not get annoyed.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2025 11:12     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't touch anything on a neighbor's property without their express say-so.


OP here
Exactly!


I wonder why people like you need to crowdsource since you are already so confident about your take on the situation. Go handle your husband however you want, lady. Why do you need us?

I personally would have appreciated your husband's gesture and think you are the weird one.


Ditto this, and the same goes for everyone agreeing with OP.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2025 11:09     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

Anonymous wrote:OP, it was a nice thing to do. Why on earth create a thread about this? It says a lot about you as a person. Or you and your relationship with your husband. Did you fight over this and need a thread to show him to demonstrate that his behavior was weird. It wasn't. I do this for neighbors all the time. I think your need to post here and call his behavior names is weird.


Actually, my husband was the one who asked me to create this thread. "Go ask your message board," he said.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2025 11:08     Subject: Re:My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

Anonymous wrote:Yup that would be classified as weird - - especially since you have not met them yet.


OP here
We have met the husband and had "small talk" conversations. He has a wife but haven't met her yet.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2025 22:28     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

OP, it was a nice thing to do. Why on earth create a thread about this? It says a lot about you as a person. Or you and your relationship with your husband. Did you fight over this and need a thread to show him to demonstrate that his behavior was weird. It wasn't. I do this for neighbors all the time. I think your need to post here and call his behavior names is weird.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2025 22:10     Subject: Re:My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

Yup that would be classified as weird - - especially since you have not met them yet.
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2025 21:53     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

Anonymous wrote:I would never not appreciate this. Even if I was like “who did that? Not me or DH” Yeah, it would still be 110% fine.


Me again. One time I almost did it for our neighbors bc I had a feeling they were out of town. I thought it would be nice but then I left it cuz I didn’t want their ring camera to go off (and then I would be bothering and worrying them on vacation)
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2025 21:52     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

I would never not appreciate this. Even if I was like “who did that? Not me or DH” Yeah, it would still be 110% fine.
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2025 20:14     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

OP, while I think your husband was just being kind, I would find it supremely annoying if someone did that with our garbage cans. The exception being, of course, if we were sick or disabled or had asked for help while out of town, etc.

Otherwise, it seems like a weirdly controlling move. Like, "Hey, you didn't put out your trash cans, and you're supposed to so I'm going to do it whether you want me to or not."

I would never touch a neighbor's belongings unless specifically asked to.
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2025 20:05     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

Anonymous wrote:This morning my husband was taking our trash can out to the curb for trash day, and noticed our neighbor's next door hadn't brought their trash cans out. Their trashcans are stored on the side of their house, so we can see them from our yard/driveway. My husband brought their can to the curb too.

We don't know them well, we just bought our house a few months ago.

I told my husband that was weird and he shouldn't have done it. You never know, maybe there was a specific reason why the neighbor didn't want their trash picked up today.

What do you think?


You have a nice husband.
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2025 12:59     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

We take our retired neighbors stuff out early in the morning. They bring the empty bins up later in the afternoon. I don't think we have ever talked about it.
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2025 12:53     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well, I think he was acting neighborly.

However, I would not have done it (unless they had said to him in another conversation "Hey, feel free to grab our bins") simply because it's their bin (and refuse) and maybe they were holding onto it.

Also, I would not tell my husband that his action was weird.

And, not that you asked, I would indeed move the bin back to their storage spot after pickup.


OP here
Yes, he did.
I don't think they were home during the whole day-but I've noticed they do have cameras. I wonder if they will check them when they go to put more trash in the bin and notice everything from earlier is gone?


It isn’t GONE it’s at the curb. Easily locatable and probably within sight.


No, the TRASH is gone

What if it had a letter 💌 to an AP who was coming to pick it up?


What if the husband chopped up his wife and disposed of the body parts in the trash can? Your husband would become an accessory to murder.
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2025 10:19     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well, I think he was acting neighborly.

However, I would not have done it (unless they had said to him in another conversation "Hey, feel free to grab our bins") simply because it's their bin (and refuse) and maybe they were holding onto it.

Also, I would not tell my husband that his action was weird.

And, not that you asked, I would indeed move the bin back to their storage spot after pickup.


OP here
Yes, he did.
I don't think they were home during the whole day-but I've noticed they do have cameras. I wonder if they will check them when they go to put more trash in the bin and notice everything from earlier is gone?


It isn’t GONE it’s at the curb. Easily locatable and probably within sight.


No, the TRASH is gone

What if it had a letter 💌 to an AP who was coming to pick it up?
Anonymous
Post 11/13/2025 10:16     Subject: My husband brought our neighbor's trashcan to the curb, without the neighbor knowing. Weird?

Anonymous wrote:It was very nice of him. Congrats on having a nice DH.


+ 1. We do this for our neighbors and vice versa. We watch out for one another