Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 20:31     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:My DD is August and refuses to play down. I don’t know what we will do. She sees it as humiliating having to essentially repeat a grade. She is 10th grade so prime recruiting age next year. It stinks.


I would get her help. That has White Lotus, elitist, fixed mindset ego all over it. Better to resolve it in 10th grade than let it extrapolate into her 20's and 30's. If she is only playing for validation in college, that is a huge red flag. You're welcome if you are open to this honest feedback.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 20:20     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
My DD is August and refuses to play down. I don’t know what we will do. She sees it as humiliating having to essentially repeat a grade. She is 10th grade so prime recruiting age next year. It stinks.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 20:09     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
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Anonymous wrote:I think one issue could be for August and September kids who went to school on time (VA side), now they have to repeat a year and will not play with the kids at the same grades.


I assume most clubs will treat this like grad year, as the point on the girls side is recruiting.
Clubs and leagues have made it clear, play on age, best of the best plays up. Grade not a factor.

You have no idea about this and are repeating what someone else said.

The truth is that playing with your grade makes the most sense when it comes to being recruited for college.
Don't shoot the messenger. What makes sense to you doesn't to someone else. ECNL in podcast and Arlington announced play on age except for the few amazing players that can even dominate up an age group, just like now. Now McLean agrees and others chiming in with same thing.

Ok then let yout young Aug/Sept player play down a grade in school. Pay full price for competitive soccer and watch your kid get ignored by college coaches when its time for recruitment.
When you get in charge of a team or league, you can make the rules. Until then, announcements are play on age, superstars play up.

No, when I pay the bills I make the decisions. Sorry coach.
Assuming this a joke, like the person saying MLSN is the best pro league ever

Yes you do pay the bills unless your kid is on some kind of scholorship. If clubs choose to play your kid on a grade down team go somewhere else. Its obvious they dont take college recruitment seriously. Its also obvious they dont value your kid or they wouldn't be screwing them over on a grade down team.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 20:01     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
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Anonymous wrote:I think one issue could be for August and September kids who went to school on time (VA side), now they have to repeat a year and will not play with the kids at the same grades.


I assume most clubs will treat this like grad year, as the point on the girls side is recruiting.
Clubs and leagues have made it clear, play on age, best of the best plays up. Grade not a factor.

You have no idea about this and are repeating what someone else said.

The truth is that playing with your grade makes the most sense when it comes to being recruited for college.
Don't shoot the messenger. What makes sense to you doesn't to someone else. ECNL in podcast and Arlington announced play on age except for the few amazing players that can even dominate up an age group, just like now. Now McLean agrees and others chiming in with same thing.

Ok then let yout young Aug/Sept player play down a grade in school. Pay full price for competitive soccer and watch your kid get ignored by college coaches when its time for recruitment.
When you get in charge of a team or league, you can make the rules. Until then, announcements are play on age, superstars play up.

No, when I pay the bills I make the decisions. Sorry coach.
Assuming this a joke, like the person saying MLSN is the best pro league ever
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:58     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:If my August 2012 8th grader doesn’t play ‘up’ with her current team next year, she’s switching to volleyball and crew. It’s her call. If she played ‘down’ next year she’d miss a lot of practices because she’d also be playing on her high school team.

I’ve been honest with her since the podcast last year. I have no preference, just want her to be happy.
Great for her to play multiple sports. It's a much better way to remember childhood and to have multiple interests when you get older to become a more well rounded person. Unfortunately competition on the boys side is making it very difficult to play a high level at multiple sports in these urban areas and monster sized schools.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:53     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
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Anonymous wrote:I think one issue could be for August and September kids who went to school on time (VA side), now they have to repeat a year and will not play with the kids at the same grades.


I assume most clubs will treat this like grad year, as the point on the girls side is recruiting.
Clubs and leagues have made it clear, play on age, best of the best plays up. Grade not a factor.

You have no idea about this and are repeating what someone else said.

The truth is that playing with your grade makes the most sense when it comes to being recruited for college.
Don't shoot the messenger. What makes sense to you doesn't to someone else. ECNL in podcast and Arlington announced play on age except for the few amazing players that can even dominate up an age group, just like now. Now McLean agrees and others chiming in with same thing.

Ok then let yout young Aug/Sept player play down a grade in school. Pay full price for competitive soccer and watch your kid get ignored by college coaches when its time for recruitment.
When you get in charge of a team or league, you can make the rules. Until then, announcements are play on age, superstars play up.

No, when I pay the bills I make the decisions. Sorry coach.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:52     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
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Anonymous wrote:I think one issue could be for August and September kids who went to school on time (VA side), now they have to repeat a year and will not play with the kids at the same grades.


I assume most clubs will treat this like grad year, as the point on the girls side is recruiting.
Clubs and leagues have made it clear, play on age, best of the best plays up. Grade not a factor.

You have no idea about this and are repeating what someone else said.

The truth is that playing with your grade makes the most sense when it comes to being recruited for college.
Don't shoot the messenger. What makes sense to you doesn't to someone else. ECNL in podcast and Arlington announced play on age except for the few amazing players that can even dominate up an age group, just like now. Now McLean agrees and others chiming in with same thing.

Ok then let yout young Aug/Sept player play down a grade in school. Pay full price for competitive soccer and watch your kid get ignored by college coaches when its time for recruitment.


Not your kid not your problem.

Spoken like a true box of rocks soccer coach.


You’ve ruined countless other threads with your views on august players playing their appropriate age groups. You’ve stated your views, move on. Let this thread be about something else.

What, so you can tell people that its ok your kid is getting screwed over by playing down and wont be seriously considered by college coaches unless they play with their grade.

Sorry I'll be here all the time getting the word out
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:52     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:If my August 2012 8th grader doesn’t play ‘up’ with her current team next year, she’s switching to volleyball and crew. It’s her call. If she played ‘down’ next year she’d miss a lot of practices because she’d also be playing on her high school team.

I’ve been honest with her since the podcast last year. I have no preference, just want her to be happy.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:47     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
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Anonymous wrote:I think one issue could be for August and September kids who went to school on time (VA side), now they have to repeat a year and will not play with the kids at the same grades.


I assume most clubs will treat this like grad year, as the point on the girls side is recruiting.
Clubs and leagues have made it clear, play on age, best of the best plays up. Grade not a factor.

You have no idea about this and are repeating what someone else said.

The truth is that playing with your grade makes the most sense when it comes to being recruited for college.
Don't shoot the messenger. What makes sense to you doesn't to someone else. ECNL in podcast and Arlington announced play on age except for the few amazing players that can even dominate up an age group, just like now. Now McLean agrees and others chiming in with same thing.

Ok then let yout young Aug/Sept player play down a grade in school. Pay full price for competitive soccer and watch your kid get ignored by college coaches when its time for recruitment.
When you get in charge of a team or league, you can make the rules. Until then, announcements are play on age, superstars play up.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:43     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
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Anonymous wrote:I think one issue could be for August and September kids who went to school on time (VA side), now they have to repeat a year and will not play with the kids at the same grades.


I assume most clubs will treat this like grad year, as the point on the girls side is recruiting.
Clubs and leagues have made it clear, play on age, best of the best plays up. Grade not a factor.

You have no idea about this and are repeating what someone else said.

The truth is that playing with your grade makes the most sense when it comes to being recruited for college.
Don't shoot the messenger. What makes sense to you doesn't to someone else. ECNL in podcast and Arlington announced play on age except for the few amazing players that can even dominate up an age group, just like now. Now McLean agrees and others chiming in with same thing.

Ok then let yout young Aug/Sept player play down a grade in school. Pay full price for competitive soccer and watch your kid get ignored by college coaches when its time for recruitment.


Not your kid not your problem.

Spoken like a true box of rocks soccer coach.


You’ve ruined countless other threads with your views on august players playing their appropriate age groups. You’ve stated your views, move on. Let this thread be about something else.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:39     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
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Anonymous wrote:I think one issue could be for August and September kids who went to school on time (VA side), now they have to repeat a year and will not play with the kids at the same grades.


I assume most clubs will treat this like grad year, as the point on the girls side is recruiting.
Clubs and leagues have made it clear, play on age, best of the best plays up. Grade not a factor.

You have no idea about this and are repeating what someone else said.

The truth is that playing with your grade makes the most sense when it comes to being recruited for college.
Don't shoot the messenger. What makes sense to you doesn't to someone else. ECNL in podcast and Arlington announced play on age except for the few amazing players that can even dominate up an age group, just like now. Now McLean agrees and others chiming in with same thing.

Ok then let yout young Aug/Sept player play down a grade in school. Pay full price for competitive soccer and watch your kid get ignored by college coaches when its time for recruitment.


Not your kid not your problem.

Spoken like a true box of rocks soccer coach.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:38     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:If my August 2012 8th grader doesn’t play ‘up’ with her current team next year, she’s switching to volleyball and crew. It’s her call. If she played ‘down’ next year she’d miss a lot of practices because she’d also be playing on her high school team.

I’ve been honest with her since the podcast last year. I have no preference, just want her to be happy.

100% clubs that choose to group young Aug/Sept players down on a grade down team. Will quickly lose $$$ when players and parents figure out that they've been screwed over and quit or change clubs.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:32     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
If my August 2012 8th grader doesn’t play ‘up’ with her current team next year, she’s switching to volleyball and crew. It’s her call. If she played ‘down’ next year she’d miss a lot of practices because she’d also be playing on her high school team.

I’ve been honest with her since the podcast last year. I have no preference, just want her to be happy.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:25     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
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Anonymous wrote:I think one issue could be for August and September kids who went to school on time (VA side), now they have to repeat a year and will not play with the kids at the same grades.


I assume most clubs will treat this like grad year, as the point on the girls side is recruiting.
Clubs and leagues have made it clear, play on age, best of the best plays up. Grade not a factor.

You have no idea about this and are repeating what someone else said.

The truth is that playing with your grade makes the most sense when it comes to being recruited for college.
Don't shoot the messenger. What makes sense to you doesn't to someone else. ECNL in podcast and Arlington announced play on age except for the few amazing players that can even dominate up an age group, just like now. Now McLean agrees and others chiming in with same thing.

Ok then let yout young Aug/Sept player play down a grade in school. Pay full price for competitive soccer and watch your kid get ignored by college coaches when its time for recruitment.


Not your kid not your problem.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:15     Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
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Anonymous wrote:I think one issue could be for August and September kids who went to school on time (VA side), now they have to repeat a year and will not play with the kids at the same grades.


I assume most clubs will treat this like grad year, as the point on the girls side is recruiting.
Clubs and leagues have made it clear, play on age, best of the best plays up. Grade not a factor.

You have no idea about this and are repeating what someone else said.

The truth is that playing with your grade makes the most sense when it comes to being recruited for college.
Don't shoot the messenger. What makes sense to you doesn't to someone else. ECNL in podcast and Arlington announced play on age except for the few amazing players that can even dominate up an age group, just like now. Now McLean agrees and others chiming in with same thing.

Ok then let yout young Aug/Sept player play down a grade in school. Pay full price for competitive soccer and watch your kid get ignored by college coaches when its time for recruitment.