Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess would be an accident/surprise. I have friends with a similar dynamic and they say no baby is an accident because you know that what youre causes babies. So therefore don’t be surprised when it happens. If the people you know have the same logic they won’t be telling people it was an accident.

Also, not everyone wants to share if a baby was an accident. I wouldn’t if it were me. I wouldn’t want that getting back to my child someday.

I'd believe she wanted the baby and probably not him, but he should've gotten a vasectomy.

That said, I think it's so unfair to everyone involved. The older kids don't get to know the younger one. The younger one grows up as an only isolated in the household with no siblings and older parents that may or may not have a stable marriage. Finally the older kids won't get the previous support they had. Financially or otherwise.

And some people would say it's unfair to a child of any age to have another. My older brother certainly believes that my parents were awful for having more kids, even though we didn't have a significant age gap. Ironically- he's not resentful of our younger sibling, since he was so much older than them.

Breaking news!! Some siblings get along and adore each other, other siblings constantly fight for attention and resources.

As for OP - why do you care?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: My 30 and 20-something adult dcs' love their 11 yo sibling. She's been the light of all our lives. She also looks forward to being an aunt when the first grandchild arrives!

My own mom is still living and loving dc and my dad was until last year. My older dc are certainly not 'parenting younger sibling and managing aging parent' hello I'm 54 and we're heading to the trampoline park later!

What was the reasoning behind the 20 year gap?

We just weren't done. It's just how life plays out sometimes I guess.

Oops!

It’s a good thing OP has solved all the other problems of the world before turning attention to something that is none of her concern.

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Anonymous wrote:Because you want another child, and you can. Also, it’s not taking away from an 18 and 20 year old; they should launched or close to it.

One is an Olympic level athlete that they've been shuttling around the world for competitions so obviously that comes to a halt and kid is on their own.

Why would that have to end? I mean infants can travel at least until school age.