Anonymous
Post 11/08/2025 09:17     Subject: Child might appear privledged on paper
Privileged was misspelled.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2025 09:13     Subject: Child might appear privledged on paper
Anonymous wrote:DCUM is really the worst.

I don't know the kid's issue/s, but the obvious way of dealing with a complex issue on a college app is to let the counselor speak to it, if you want to disclose it. If the issue isn't hard to explain, kid can do this themselves in additional information section. Only if it can be explained in 1-2 sentences. "I was hospitalized a total of 44 days over two stays in 10th grade for issues surrounding Juvenile Lupus and NMO, a chronic issue now managed with twice-yearly infusions. I haven't missed a day of school since my treatments began."


I think this is good advice, OP.

Sometimes I think competitive parents here give “advice” that is actually aimed at lowering other people’s chances.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2025 06:03     Subject: Child might appear privledged on paper
Anonymous wrote:The ideal place for something like Type 1 to be mentioned is in an independent teacher or counselor rec. Students with T1, particularly athletes, show incredible grit and determination managing their disease and colleges are looking for gritty kids.

Type 1 kids are also performing a public service each and every day, since their friends and classmates witness what management looks like.



That’s not a public service.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2025 06:01     Subject: Child might appear privledged on paper
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Anonymous wrote:What disease is incompatible with life but yet the host lives to 18+ and can attend college??


You've never met someone with type I diabetes have you? Make a mistake with insulin and you're dead pretty quick. Lots of people live with diseases like that.


No, that’s not what “incompatible with life” means.


+1 Maybe in 1825 yes, but not now. I have never heard anyone with Type I diabetes describe their disease that way.


Then you have no idea what you are talking about. If they can't get insulin, they die.


That is not what the term incompatible with life means and doctors do not use it in this context. What could be said might be: without your insulin, checking your blood sugar, etc., you could die.

I don’t think a kid should mention something he has zero knowledge of (being sick or low income, let’s say) as several people mentioned unless it relates to something ongoing the kid may remember.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2025 04:07     Subject: Child might appear privledged on paper
The ideal place for something like Type 1 to be mentioned is in an independent teacher or counselor rec. Students with T1, particularly athletes, show incredible grit and determination managing their disease and colleges are looking for gritty kids.

Type 1 kids are also performing a public service each and every day, since their friends and classmates witness what management looks like.

Anonymous
Post 11/08/2025 03:05     Subject: Child might appear privledged on paper
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Anonymous wrote:It's a myth that colleges want poor kids with screwed up lives.

They want mentally well adjusted kids who are prepared for college and can afford tuition. if that's how your daughter appears on paper, let them think that


I agree with you in theory, but they want *diversity* and if this appears to be a rich white kid they might put them at the bottom of the list. Or maybe the endowments will be hurting by then and it helps? Who knows.


No. That is a myth. They like rich kids who are mentally stable and won't need tutoring, etc.


Who is “they”.? There are thousands of colleges. The daughter is mentally stable. Kids write about overcoming adversity all the time and some of them are really stupid. I think the fact that she does so well despite having a father in jail is admirable.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2025 00:29     Subject: Child might appear privledged on paper
Travel being rescheduled to JFK with a transit in Spain (like what?!) then to original destination in US. United World of Earth
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 14:35     Subject: Child might appear privledged on paper
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:What disease is incompatible with life but yet the host lives to 18+ and can attend college??


You've never met someone with type I diabetes have you? Make a mistake with insulin and you're dead pretty quick. Lots of people live with diseases like that.

Diabetes is not typically referred to as “incompatible with life.”

Incompatible with life is a controversial phrase because there are people who survive years with a condition that typical results in quick death, but it typically is used for things like anencephaly; birth defects or medical conditions so severe that the baby dies very shortly (minutes, hours, maybe days) after birth, if they even survive the birth.

A medical condition like diabetes, or a severe allergy, which could quickly kill a person if a mistake is made, is still not typically considered incompatible with life.


This. Please don’t misuse this phrase. My child was diagnosed with a fatal defect that was incompatible with life. He died. Quickly.


Also, when they tell you your kid is going to die, they don’t say that. They say “your child’s condition is incompatible with life.” That is what it means.


Me again. Sorry for the 3 posts, this really jolted me when I saw it. When something is deadly but not definitely, they talk in terms of “survival rate” (with treatment of course.). When something can be managed, they talk in terms of “reduced life expectancy.” Type 1 is in category 3. It is not incompatible with life because it is treatable medically. Incompatible with life basically is a way of saying “no chance” without saying it. If you press them, they will say things like “there are experimental treatments but your child doesn’t qualify” and things like that. Just so you know.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 14:24     Subject: Child might appear privledged on paper
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What disease is incompatible with life but yet the host lives to 18+ and can attend college??


You've never met someone with type I diabetes have you? Make a mistake with insulin and you're dead pretty quick. Lots of people live with diseases like that.

Diabetes is not typically referred to as “incompatible with life.”

Incompatible with life is a controversial phrase because there are people who survive years with a condition that typical results in quick death, but it typically is used for things like anencephaly; birth defects or medical conditions so severe that the baby dies very shortly (minutes, hours, maybe days) after birth, if they even survive the birth.

A medical condition like diabetes, or a severe allergy, which could quickly kill a person if a mistake is made, is still not typically considered incompatible with life.


This. Please don’t misuse this phrase. My child was diagnosed with a fatal defect that was incompatible with life. He died. Quickly.


Also, when they tell you your kid is going to die, they don’t say that. They say “your child’s condition is incompatible with life.” That is what it means.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 14:22     Subject: Child might appear privledged on paper
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What disease is incompatible with life but yet the host lives to 18+ and can attend college??


You've never met someone with type I diabetes have you? Make a mistake with insulin and you're dead pretty quick. Lots of people live with diseases like that.

Diabetes is not typically referred to as “incompatible with life.”

Incompatible with life is a controversial phrase because there are people who survive years with a condition that typical results in quick death, but it typically is used for things like anencephaly; birth defects or medical conditions so severe that the baby dies very shortly (minutes, hours, maybe days) after birth, if they even survive the birth.

A medical condition like diabetes, or a severe allergy, which could quickly kill a person if a mistake is made, is still not typically considered incompatible with life.


This. Please don’t misuse this phrase. My child was diagnosed with a fatal defect that was incompatible with life. He died. Quickly.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 14:20     Subject: Child might appear privledged on paper
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What disease is incompatible with life but yet the host lives to 18+ and can attend college??


You've never met someone with type I diabetes have you? Make a mistake with insulin and you're dead pretty quick. Lots of people live with diseases like that.


No, that’s not what “incompatible with life” means.


+1 Maybe in 1825 yes, but not now. I have never heard anyone with Type I diabetes describe their disease that way.


Then you have no idea what you are talking about. If they can't get insulin, they die.