I just had the ultrasound tech tell me and then I just called or texted people.

Apparently when my husband was born the very first thing my MIL said was "but I wanted a girl". If you're potentially going to do that find out as early as possible and work through whatever feelings you have.

Anonymous wrote:My sister had a gender reveal video during Covid. They cut into the cake on camera, and the visible disappointment displayed because they were having another daughter is now forever captured on the internet for use by their daughters future therapists.

Haha!!! I saw something similar as a nursing student- I was doing a clinical rotation in L&D and a couple was waiting until delivery to find out the sex. When it was a girl (their second girl), the mom was sobbing and asking how long she needed to wait to try to get pregnant again. How’s that for never ending mom guilt that once her hormones leveled out, she’d be left with the knowledge that she sobbed in disappointment when she saw her baby girl. lol.

I liked deciding on my babies names and calling them by name in my tummy. I have no regrets! But I have never been to a gender reveal of any kind I thought that was mostly an Instagram influencer thing!

Anonymous wrote:I feel like waiting is often something people do for attention. Given that it's so easy to know these days it feels like made up drama.

We found out and sent pink or blue flowers to the grandparents and great grandparent. They were super surprised and each called us to celebrate. It was very fun to share with them, even if long distance. We didn't do a gender reveal. If I had older kids, I'd probably do something special just with them, like pink or blue filled cupcakes after dinner.

You have it completely twisted. People who plan gender reveals and expect people to be excited about that are attention seeking drama queens. 99.9% of the people you know do not care one iota what gender baby you're having. Gender reveal parties are attention seeking behavior. The same is true of posting pics of your baby bump everywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:We found out.

Don't understand waiting to find out that crucial news.

Crucial? How was the news of the (forever) status of a healthy babies xx or xy chromosomes crucial? Would your child have been the same gender if you didn’t get the news?

I agree. These posts are insane. Crucial news for whom?

Anonymous wrote:There is a very specific subset of people who do gender reveals and it's not a type of person you want to be.

+100

Anonymous wrote:??? I never had a gender reveal party, but I always found out at the ultrasound. The technician will either see a p*n*s or not. It's not that exciting.

The obsession current generations have with posting their bared stomachs while pregnant and various parties related to pregnancy seem narcissistic to me. People who do all of this need[i] attention. Gross.

We never found out the gender… but it also wasn’t some big reveal to our friends after either. We just announced “it’s a girl!”’with a picture on Instagram and that was it. It was special to us. And I also felt like it was traditional to not know the gender just like mothers for millennia before me.

If you want to throw a party, throw a “meet the baby” party or a sip n see. They’re parties without presents where people just welcome and support you. We had ours at 4 weeks or so.

Anonymous wrote:4th child but it’s been over 15 years and things had changed. This is a high risk pregnancy so multiple appointments where I’d have to explain that I am team green or whatever the current term is for waiting to find out.

Friends have all had gender reveals which were actually a pretty fun party.

I’m not sure which I would prefer. I’ve come across a video of having older children reveal the gener but there also seems to be some excitement to be had with finding out at delivery.

What do you regret?

I have three children and have had zero gender reveals. I also have zero regrets. Zero gender reveals = zero regrets.

Never did a gender reveal party. They seem stupid and generally done by a subset of people that I have absolutely zero desire to be like.

You do you though.

We found out at 20 weeks so we could pick a name, but that wasn't a huge issue between us. Deciding on a name was just a fun thing to do and we could tell the grandparents as part of that fun, but we didn't tell anyone else or have a gender reveal party or even worry about particular clothes. We had a ton of "boy" clothes for our girl.

The only crazy thing we did was get stationary in the baby's name, but that was because we thought it was fun, and we didn't use it until we were sending thank you notes after the birth.

Fourth child .. Yeah no.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure why you finding out the sex of your child means you have to have a gender reveal party. Why can't you jut find out the sex of your baby and go on with your life like a normal person?

Because you cant make viral influencer content out of being a normal parent who finds ou the sex at the ultrasound appointment.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like waiting is often something people do for attention. Given that it's so easy to know these days it feels like made up drama.

We found out and sent pink or blue flowers to the grandparents and great grandparent. They were super surprised and each called us to celebrate. It was very fun to share with them, even if long distance. We didn't do a gender reveal. If I had older kids, I'd probably do something special just with them, like pink or blue filled cupcakes after dinner.

This.

really? we didn't find out, just said so when people asked, and moved on. A few people really harped on how they couldn't believe we were waiting. A gender reveal party or sending people flowers 100 % for attention, no? live and let live people

Anonymous wrote:Tot. Meet tat. The only name calling or psych evaluations have been bobbed against those who prefer to wait. It’s weird. Why do you care?

Wut