Anonymous
10/22/2025 18:19
Subject: Re:Ditched on shadow day?
It’s fazed, not phased.
Anonymous
10/22/2025 18:19
Subject: Ditched on shadow day?
Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable how so many people in the thread blamed my son (??) for getting ditched in a strange place with no context whatsoever. Would love to know where you send your children to school so I can avoid at all costs.
Have you sought therapy for your son’s trauma?
Anonymous
10/22/2025 18:17
Subject: Ditched on shadow day?
This tread scares me. My 8th grader is going on her first 9th grade shadow visit next week. She’s already nervous and we hadn’t even considered she could get ditched!
Anonymous
10/22/2025 17:12
Subject: Ditched on shadow day?
Anonymous wrote:This is sad. My kids all had good shadows for their days. The schools should be picking the best of the best. It really influenced my kids into want to go to these schools because it was a good experience. If these kid are "the best" and failing miserably, that would sour me and us. It has nothing to do with their age.
This is very true. We had a horrible experience at Congressional School. The assigned child was cursing and mocking our child and there was not any adult stopping it.
Anonymous
10/22/2025 14:32
Subject: Ditched on shadow day?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:"He went to the front office, and they were able to help him reconnect."
That's what you focus on.
That my son is more competent than his host who is a year older and actually attends the school?
Be glad for that, and if it's a competitive school, maybe they'll be impressed that your child is more mature than the host. Yes, the school should have a better sense than to assign a shadowing kid a flake, but it's hardly a cataclismic indident, and even a reliable teenager can have a bad day.
OP, if you have a better option, feel free to send your kid there. Not sure why you felt the need to post about this incident for validation. No, being ditched is not correct, but most people seem to feel that judging a school for the acts of a 1 9th grader may an overreaction.
Okay thread police that also wants to add her two cents…OP didn’t post for validation, she asked if she was overreacting. Some thought she was, some thought she wasn’t. I’m not sure why you “felt the need to post” your take as if it’s authoritative. Most people don’t seem to agree it’s an over reaction. It seems pretty evenly split.
DP. She’s asked if she was overreacting, but then got increasingly defensive when posters said she was. Doesn’t seem that’s what she wanted to hear.
Anonymous
10/22/2025 14:13
Subject: Ditched on shadow day?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:"He went to the front office, and they were able to help him reconnect."
That's what you focus on.
That my son is more competent than his host who is a year older and actually attends the school?
Be glad for that, and if it's a competitive school, maybe they'll be impressed that your child is more mature than the host. Yes, the school should have a better sense than to assign a shadowing kid a flake, but it's hardly a cataclismic indident, and even a reliable teenager can have a bad day.
OP, if you have a better option, feel free to send your kid there. Not sure why you felt the need to post about this incident for validation. No, being ditched is not correct, but most people seem to feel that judging a school for the acts of a 1 9th grader may an overreaction.
Okay thread police that also wants to add her two cents…OP didn’t post for validation, she asked if she was overreacting. Some thought she was, some thought she wasn’t. I’m not sure why you “felt the need to post” your take as if it’s authoritative. Most people don’t seem to agree it’s an over reaction. It seems pretty evenly split.
Anonymous
10/22/2025 12:48
Subject: Ditched on shadow day?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:"He went to the front office, and they were able to help him reconnect."
That's what you focus on.
That my son is more competent than his host who is a year older and actually attends the school?
Be glad for that, and if it's a competitive school, maybe they'll be impressed that your child is more mature than the host. Yes, the school should have a better sense than to assign a shadowing kid a flake, but it's hardly a cataclismic indident, and even a reliable teenager can have a bad day.
OP, if you have a better option, feel free to send your kid there. Not sure why you felt the need to post about this incident for validation. No, being ditched is not correct, but most people seem to feel that judging a school for the acts of a 1 9th grader may an overreaction.
Anonymous
10/22/2025 12:46
Subject: Ditched on shadow day?
If he otherwise had a good experience, liked the teachers and other students, and admission was helpful? I wouldn't worry, personally.
Anonymous
10/22/2025 10:59
Subject: Ditched on shadow day?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:"He went to the front office, and they were able to help him reconnect."
That's what you focus on.
That my son is more competent than his host who is a year older and actually attends the school?
Be glad for that, and if it's a competitive school, maybe they'll be impressed that your child is more mature than the host. Yes, the school should have a better sense than to assign a shadowing kid a flake, but it's hardly a cataclismic indident, and even a reliable teenager can have a bad day.
Anonymous
10/22/2025 10:59
Subject: Ditched on shadow day?
OP, you are clearly upset enough about it that it’s a dealbreaker. That’s fine. Families can make decisions to apply or not, attend or not, for any reason they like. What other people think of the situation is irrelevant.