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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

And why is that? I don't get why so much hate.

I think that women resent the idea of younger women getting the better quality older guys. There’s also some concern about a younger woman taking an interest in their man.

There’s a lot of resentment here for age gap relationships.

Jealousy is the word. Menopause is psychologically rough for many women who won't accept their aging.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

And why is that? I don't get why so much hate.

I think that women resent the idea of younger women getting the better quality older guys. There’s also some concern about a younger woman taking an interest in their man.

There’s a lot of resentment here for age gap relationships.

That makes a lot of sense. I wish they’d stop though.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t talk to my friends or family about this, but I’m in my mid 30s, and I’m predominantly attracted to much older men (think 55-65). I can’t really explain how or why this is; it’s just how I’m wired. Should I be concerned about dating much older men? Or is this OK?

Completely normal.

Men tend to be about 10-20 years behind women both emotionally and physically, so it makes sense to date men around 10-20 years older than yourself at any age over 18.

Men and women finally equal up at around mid 70s, when men age rapidly same as women do in their 50s.

Evolution.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

And why is that? I don't get why so much hate.

I think that women resent the idea of younger women getting the better quality older guys. There’s also some concern about a younger woman taking an interest in their man.

There’s a lot of resentment here for age gap relationships.

I don't think it's about resentment. Many older women do not want to remarry, especially women who are already at least 50, many view men as a liability. They've already raised their kids and cared for their husbands, and they don't want to do it all over again. Many older women cherish being single. They find companionship with other women or their children. Committing to a new man means potentially becoming his caretaker, accomodating his children and grandchildren, etc. It's just not appealing.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

And why is that? I don't get why so much hate.

I think that women resent the idea of younger women getting the better quality older guys. There’s also some concern about a younger woman taking an interest in their man.

There’s a lot of resentment here for age gap relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

Women would be more interested in long term relationships in middle age if men dated women their own age. But men brag all the time how "worthless"50s women are. The more I read it on this forum, the less I'm interested in dating men in general. As most second marriages are with larger gaps, a woman would be only interested in caretaker role if serious $$$ reward is guaranteed.

These are many years of life devoted to an old person! Maybe younger women don't understand it, but anyone who has parents over 70 or an older first husband knows

Good if you just want to have fun, not good if you want to have kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you always been attracted to much older men? Got daddy issues?

I was always attracted to my friends’ dads growing up, professors, things like that. I don’t think it’s daddy issues. It’s just who I’m most attracted to.

Well are you going to keep at it with 55-65 year olds or settle down and then in a short period of time, that guy will be 75-80 and that's just nasty when you are 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit, tall and reasonably attracive older guy. What’s odd is that I get more interest from younger women than I did when I was actually their age. I think it partly has to do with an actor that I resemble who is in everything right now. Maybe, my look - although not great, is in style right now?

Btw, I wouldn’t date these people - I’m happily married.

They think you have $$$

This
Nothing more. Nothing less.

Attractive people are attractive and some women really like older guys.

My sister is one of those people. She’s always liked dating older men. Only one of them has been somewhat rich and he’s not the one she married. She has a 24 year age gap with her husband.

nothing worse than being energetic late 50s woman with 80+ frail man. I have a friend who married 20+ older man they stopped having sex when he was 70 and now she's creaming at him daily

Why is she still married to him, then? Plenty of people choose to divorce in a sexless marriage.

Children and financial matters . No point to divorce now that he's in his 80s and she realizes he won't last much longer. She doesn't plan to date or remarry what's the point

If they haven't had sex for 10 years, starting when she was in her late 40s, that's just a long time to live a celibate life. As far as finances, some people get more out of a divorce settlement than they will out of an estate (elective share is only 33% in many states). But, if it works for her, then it makes sense.

She already lived these celibate years he’s in his 80s. Shes now in her 50s herself doesn’t need sex much but still bitter at him for many lost years

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit, tall and reasonably attracive older guy. What’s odd is that I get more interest from younger women than I did when I was actually their age. I think it partly has to do with an actor that I resemble who is in everything right now. Maybe, my look - although not great, is in style right now?

Btw, I wouldn’t date these people - I’m happily married.

They think you have $$$

This
Nothing more. Nothing less.

Attractive people are attractive and some women really like older guys.

My sister is one of those people. She’s always liked dating older men. Only one of them has been somewhat rich and he’s not the one she married. She has a 24 year age gap with her husband.

nothing worse than being energetic late 50s woman with 80+ frail man. I have a friend who married 20+ older man they stopped having sex when he was 70 and now she's creaming at him daily

Why is she still married to him, then? Plenty of people choose to divorce in a sexless marriage.

Children and financial matters . No point to divorce now that he's in his 80s and she realizes he won't last much longer. She doesn't plan to date or remarry what's the point

If they haven't had sex for 10 years, starting when she was in her late 40s, that's just a long time to live a celibate life. As far as finances, some people get more out of a divorce settlement than they will out of an estate (elective share is only 33% in many states). But, if it works for her, then it makes sense.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

And why is that? I don't get why so much hate.

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.