Anonymous
10/08/2025 21:03
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Anonymous wrote:They issue cards now?Anonymous wrote:The women's locker room at a gym - use the trans card to get in, but then tell them you are perfectly normal and just wanted to chat while they are getting dressed. Trust me, the ladies will love it!
no, it's a figure of speech like playing the race card
Anonymous
10/08/2025 20:49
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
They issue cards now?Anonymous wrote:The women's locker room at a gym - use the trans card to get in, but then tell them you are perfectly normal and just wanted to chat while they are getting dressed. Trust me, the ladies will love it!
Anonymous
10/08/2025 18:05
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
The women's locker room at a gym - use the trans card to get in, but then tell them you are perfectly normal and just wanted to chat while they are getting dressed. Trust me, the ladies will love it!
Anonymous
10/07/2025 22:28
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Anonymous wrote:Is the Social Safeway on Wisconsin still a place to go for this?
Has that been a thing since the 1990s?
Anonymous
10/07/2025 22:00
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If any. Public approaches feel like a lost art.
It is. Men don’t know how to do it anymore. There is a TON of nuance to it and people are too brain dead from living life online that they can’t make eye contact or hold a conversation. We’re doomed.
Women no longer know how to signal they want to be approached, either.
Of course they do. You're not seeing it because no women are signaling to you.
Wrong, idiot. Women are all head-down poking at their phones.
We do that to avoid making eye contact with needy incels.
Anonymous
10/07/2025 21:58
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If I want to be approached, I'll go to a cozy pub and get an appetizer/drink alone at the bar.
Me too. I also go to a cozy bar or club to dance salsa. Usually they have live band. Not too much into TJ music.
What’s with all this cozy shit?
Anonymous
10/07/2025 21:51
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
"If I said you had a great body, would you hold it against me?"
Anonymous
10/07/2025 21:49
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If any. Public approaches feel like a lost art.
It is. Men don’t know how to do it anymore. There is a TON of nuance to it and people are too brain dead from living life online that they can’t make eye contact or hold a conversation. We’re doomed.
Women no longer know how to signal they want to be approached, either.
Of course they do. You're not seeing it because no women are signaling to you.
Wrong, idiot. Women are all head-down poking at their phones.
Anonymous
10/07/2025 21:19
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If any. Public approaches feel like a lost art.
It is. Men don’t know how to do it anymore. There is a TON of nuance to it and people are too brain dead from living life online that they can’t make eye contact or hold a conversation. We’re doomed.
Women no longer know how to signal they want to be approached, either.
Of course they do. You're not seeing it because no women are signaling to you.
Anonymous
10/07/2025 20:39
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Anonymous wrote:Gym
NEVER
Anonymous
10/07/2025 20:35
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Cultural activities
Anonymous
10/07/2025 19:52
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If any. Public approaches feel like a lost art.
It is. Men don’t know how to do it anymore. There is a TON of nuance to it and people are too brain dead from living life online that they can’t make eye contact or hold a conversation. We’re doomed.
Women no longer know how to signal they want to be approached, either.
Anonymous
10/07/2025 14:14
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Anonymous wrote:If any. Public approaches feel like a lost art.
It is. Men don’t know how to do it anymore. There is a TON of nuance to it and people are too brain dead from living life online that they can’t make eye contact or hold a conversation. We’re doomed.
Anonymous
10/07/2025 10:34
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Anonymous wrote:OP, DCUM is not the best place to ask. The majority of DCUM users are middle-aged women who are frustrated in life, understandably, because they are juggling parenthood and marriage and careers.
The only difference between "looking like a creep" and "being interesting and approachable" is going to be subjective and will depend on the woman in question. If you're handsome and have good social skills, you will face a lot less judgement, surprise, surprise! Your intent and good character don't actually matter in those few minutes, even though all these women think they do.
When a good looking man does it, this is romantic. When a not so good looking one does, it becomes a police case.
Anonymous
10/07/2025 10:30
Subject: Where are the best places to approach women in public?
Anonymous wrote:I'm just alright looking, and have gotten approached in the wild. Ignore all these people who say not to approach. Nothing happens for you by staying home and doing nothing. Just don't be creepy about it.
Some ways people approached me:
-I was sitting on subway and guy behind me asked if I was from the same small country as him (I'm a POC)
-I was standing on subway platform with suitcase (headed home from airport). Guy asked me if I was coming or going.
-I was on the bus and had a tote bag with name of university I worked at. Guy asked if I went to that school.
-I was at the library. Guy came up and asked if I was X name and said I looked familiar. Probably a line, but it got me intrigued.
All of these ways led to pretty natural conversations. I've also been cold approached at a book store. The guy said he just wanted to meet me and say hi. That's definitely less successful, because the intentions are super clear and puts a lot of pressure on the person being approached.
PP--I have one more. I was wearing a big travel backpack at airport and went up to customer service desk to tell them I missed my flight. A guy nearby overheard me and casually mentioned he missed his flight, too. Ended up spending the whole night out with that guy. The consensus is, usually can strike up a conversation based on something you may have in common.