Anonymous
09/17/2025 04:51
Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.
I don’t disagree but I’m troubled that you describe such a woman as a “freak.” This is a large part of the problem. Women are socialized NOT to learn how to please themselves, or have a dirty mind, and when they do, you call them a freak (and probably a “slut” they you would bang but not marry if you met her in college). Yet, that’s who you wish you married 20 years later when your “nice girl” wife is over sex.
Maybe we need to think about raising boys and men not to be so judgmental about women who are comfortable so the their bodies and sex, so there are more of them!
Preach!
Some men practically select for frigidity and then get surprised by the dead bedroom. Guys, here is a PSA: if a reasonably fit and attractive young woman likes sex, she is having it. And if she is having it, she probably has a “body count”.
This is spot on. There was just a thread about this, and some men just refuse to believe it.
Anonymous
09/17/2025 02:53
Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Not wearing pants in bed. 😅
Seriously though- I was shocked at the difference when first dated someone that slept in the nude. I gave it a try myself and eventually settled on feeling most comfortable and sexy wearing just a baggy tshirt.
Seriously though- I was shocked at the difference when first dated someone that slept in the nude. I gave it a try myself and eventually settled on feeling most comfortable and sexy wearing just a baggy tshirt.
Anonymous
09/17/2025 00:35
Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:quality time together and friendship, generally intimacy outside the bedroom.
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Anonymous
09/16/2025 22:56
Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Porn
Good internet connection
Frequently available online lover
Good internet connection
Frequently available online lover
Anonymous
09/16/2025 22:44
Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Aside from having a strong relationship, what’s most important to maintaining your strong sex life?
Putting the kids to bed early. Bedroom on separate floor from the kids. Working from home. Scheduling sex. Just some potential answers to name a few.
1). Having a strong relationship (reliable, trustworthy, teammates) and good communications.
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Keep things playful, have trips to look FW to, keep your sense of self & interests, stay healthy & in shape.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 18:25
Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
If you’re the girl, you need to want a bad boy. And he needs to be a bad bad boy.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 17:07
Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
+1
Anonymous
09/16/2025 14:07
Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.
This is me. Unfortunately my DH can't appreciate it.
Me too!! No, DH isn’t as thrilled as he should be if I am reading this forum correctly 😂🤣😂
You know what you guys, people are dumb and sometimes you can’t appreciate when you are drowning in what other people want. 😂🤣😂
Anonymous
09/16/2025 14:07
Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I read smutty romance books and they do honestly get me in the mood. Paired with excellent foreplay, and that’s the key for me.
Can you provide a few titles?
Check out this thread from the DCUM Book Club: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1153897.page
Anonymous
09/16/2025 14:02
Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Aside from having a strong relationship, what’s most important to maintaining your strong sex life?
Putting the kids to bed early. Bedroom on separate floor from the kids. Working from home. Scheduling sex. Just some potential answers to name a few.
Helpful, empathetic husband - especially postpartum. Might be biased right now lol
Anonymous
09/16/2025 13:59
Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Physical fitness and personal hygiene.
No that's not enough, we both have that and a dead bedroom.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 13:58
Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.
Honestly? This is closer to the average woman than you seem to think. My freak flag flies higher than most of the men I've met; y'all have trouble keeping up.
You are not the average woman, by a long, long shot.
Stop telling women what is average. If all the women you have been with appear to be sexless then the problem might be … that you are bad at doing sex.
Or that he selects women who don’t like sex because he is scared of the ones that do (maybe because he has performance anxiety, or maybe because his parents or friends or pastors told him to watch out for women who do those things)
Anonymous
09/16/2025 13:55
Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:what’s most important to maintaining your strong sex life?
Not being married.
This. Familiarity may not breed contempt, but it sure does breed boredom.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 13:55
Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.
Honestly? This is closer to the average woman than you seem to think. My freak flag flies higher than most of the men I've met; y'all have trouble keeping up.
You are not the average woman, by a long, long shot.
Stop telling women what is average. If all the women you have been with appear to be sexless then the problem might be … that you are bad at doing sex.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 13:54
Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
quality time together and friendship, generally intimacy outside the bedroom.