Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 12:43     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
Anonymous wrote:I came home to a distraught, heartbroken, 17 year old son last night. He found out his gf of 9 months actually had 2 other boyfriends. Besides having him screened for STDs, my first thought is to message the mom and let he know what a skanky little POS her daughter is. I'd use polite language of course, but even still there's a part of me that thinks theres no way of doing it without looking a bit crazy.



Ugh, nope. Kids like that have moms and dads or who knows at home that won’t believe you or give two F’s.

First off, how are these people defining “boyfriend” and what are they even doing with their time together?

Best he can do is tell her to piss off, and tell the other two guys too.

Hope she already had her well-earned skank reputation. And certainly if she’s actually having sex.

Is your son for real actually having sex with her?
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 12:38     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
you sound like you are ten years old

who calls a 17 year old a 'skank' - grow the f up.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 12:36     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
Anonymous wrote:OMG how deeply embarrassing. I slept around in high school. Still managed to go to college and law school and have a successful 20 year marriage thus far. I wouldn’t have cared then or now about your judgment. Women can be horny. We can act on it.


I guess you're a cheater, too? Makes sense that you're a lawyer.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 12:29     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.


She was cheating. That's lying.


We don’t know that. That’s his perspective.



This is a good point. I’ve had situations in high school where I was nice to a boy and he got mad when I went to a dance with someone else. Social skills aren’t great at that age.



Yes, that's obviously the same situation as OP's. Very helpful comparison.

Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 12:26     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She’s not doing anything wrong unless she was lying to him. Teenagers do not have to be in committed relationships. Calm down, Mom.

+1
And even if she lied, they're 17. Move on.


Well, the daughter is a 304, and probably will always be one. But that doesn't mean you should get involved. No good can come from you contacting the other mother. Focus instead on helping your son spot red flags in women. It's guaranteed that he disregarded a lot of warning signs.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 11:53     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
Oohhh. If you do that, this may be the last girlfriend your son ever gets, and she cheats on him. Don't humiliate him. Just let them work it out or not. Definitely none of your business.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 11:51     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
OMG how deeply embarrassing. I slept around in high school. Still managed to go to college and law school and have a successful 20 year marriage thus far. I wouldn’t have cared then or now about your judgment. Women can be horny. We can act on it.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 11:47     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
EW how enmeshed are you with your child? Boymoms are so gross.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 11:44     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
It's great that your son feels comfortable talking about his relationships and emotions with you and can be vulnerable and open with you. That's so important and many teenagers, esp. boys, don't have that. If you call this girl's mother, you are risking your relationship with your son. He may never feel comfortable opening up to you again. He has already experienced a MAJOR breach of trust, don't be the second person that betrays him.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 11:20     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
Anonymous wrote:Tell her she should get her daughter tested apparently she has at least 2 boyfriends.


Nope, stay out of it.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 11:19     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
Tell her she should get her daughter tested apparently she has at least 2 boyfriends.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 11:15     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. It won't make anything better for your son.

It will feed the raging mama bear that wants vengeance but it will not help your son. And it may actually cause more grief for him socially, or make him feel humiliated, or...

So just don't do it.

Also, the girl is also just a kid. And a kid who is juggling 3 relationships and major secrets and now what is probably huge fallout from that, is struggling mightily with her own issues - for sure.

And she has a mom who loves her, and probably wants her to be a good and decent person.

So just prevent yourself from doing anything like what you're contemplating.

Comfort your son. Lean in with him. He will be ok in time and you will then be able to feel somewhat calmer.

(Acknowledging here that I still bear a MASSIVE grudge against a child and a negligent mother whose actions resulted in harm coming to my child years ago. It was an accident. I'm still furious. It's a problem I acknowledge...


This is really good. OP please come back to this and read it again when you feel calmer.


+1 It is a thoughtful response
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 11:13     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
Cheating is ubiquitous. It's a common reason for college breakups. This is the best time for your son to have this heartbreak.

So easy to recover at 17.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 11:10     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:LOL at the misogyny comments. The girl was literally lying to three boys she was sleeping with. She was trash.


People who use the word "trash" for a human being are the epithet they hurl around.


Doubly if they refer to children that way.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2025 11:08     Subject: Tell Me Not To Message Her Mom
Anonymous wrote:LOL at the misogyny comments. The girl was literally lying to three boys she was sleeping with. She was trash.


People who use the word "trash" for a human being are the epithet they hurl around.