Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 13:29     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
BTW blue collar dads with young kids are often retired. I livedin a very blue collar town on Long Island. Most of Dads were retired.

Lots of Cops, Fireman, NYC Garbagemen. The bar near me on Mets weekday games during day or NCAA games during day on weekdays had a lot of young dads.

A lot of the women were nurses or teachers.

pretty common, retired cop married a nurse working semi part time 2 12 hour shifs a week, or to a teacher in town with summers off.

The Beach club near me was packed Parents with kids on weekdays.

This may shock people but NYC Garageman can start at 18. You can retire 1/2 pension at 38. There are people retired in their late 30s with a pension and medical.

That blue collar town most of dads got married young and bought a little starter home and never traded up. A lot were mortgage free and retired with kids in elementary school
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 13:28     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:If you think all Feds are RTO, I have a condo in Miami for you. White color Feds with advanced degrees are NOT rto, regardless of of what all the GS 11s whining on reditt and DCUM tell you.


What agency? I’m at commerce and we are all RTO?!
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 13:00     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
If you think all Feds are RTO, I have a condo in Miami for you. White color Feds with advanced degrees are NOT rto, regardless of of what all the GS 11s whining on reditt and DCUM tell you.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:57     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:50s with kids in elementary is pretty old. I had my youngest at 39. I will be in my 50s when he is done with school and I can readily admit that I will be pretty old, definitely older than the average parent. But, I knew what I was getting into.


If you had a kid at 39 you'd be 51 when they are leaving elementary school...


Having a kid at 39 in my town would make you a very young mom or dad. I had my last at 45. My good friend had his first at 49 with his 42 year old wife and to my suprise had three kids the last one at her 47 and him 54. He lives in a super rich town where second and third wives are common. He is actually a young dad. He has Dads in their 70s in the elementary school.

It is all perspective. No one bats and eye Bruce Willis, Alex Baldwin having kids at their age. Janet Jackson had a kid at 50 and Halle Berry had one at 47.



BS. Or do name the town.

My buddy who is older lives in Malibu. My town we have a lot of lawyers and doctors who start kids later. Or second families. My neighbor she had two kids with first huband then after a few years met second husband and it was his first marriage and the have two more. She had kids in their 30s and kids who are young teens.

I will be 67 when my kid graduates college. So what. I am young, cool hip, no gray hair and still working full time. Steven Tyler at last nights VMA awards from Aerosmith looked pretty similar to when I saw him in concert in the 1980s. He is 77 now. Age does not happen equally. Or prez is 79 with a freshman in college.

Nobody wants their parents to be that old. A 54 year old dad will be 75 at kid's college graduation. Assuming he's still alive. (And I say that as someone whose father was 50 when I was born, so have some idea of that that entails).
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:56     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:50s with kids in elementary is pretty old. I had my youngest at 39. I will be in my 50s when he is done with school and I can readily admit that I will be pretty old, definitely older than the average parent. But, I knew what I was getting into.


If you had a kid at 39 you'd be 51 when they are leaving elementary school...


Having a kid at 39 in my town would make you a very young mom or dad. I had my last at 45. My good friend had his first at 49 with his 42 year old wife and to my suprise had three kids the last one at her 47 and him 54. He lives in a super rich town where second and third wives are common. He is actually a young dad. He has Dads in their 70s in the elementary school.

It is all perspective. No one bats and eye Bruce Willis, Alex Baldwin having kids at their age. Janet Jackson had a kid at 50 and Halle Berry had one at 47.



This is absolute and unadulterated wishful thinking bullshit. There is NO town in America where "having a kid at 39 would make you a very young mom or dad." Zero. Name the town. A "very young" mom at 39? Nope. Such a town doesn't exist.

DP, its common in my neighborhood but probably not town/city. When I read that post I assumed they might be from my area too. Hope they respond but I understand not wanting to say


Look, DP, you need to learn to read. It's one thing to say it's "common" to have a kid at 39 -- sure, it's common enough, I'll agree to that -- but she said in her town having a kid at 39 makes you a "very young mom." Not just a young mom, which is ridiculous enough because she ain't, but a VERY young mom which is bullshit everywhere in America and the world. It also doesn't make you a VERY YOUNG mom in any "neighborbood" -- unless you define "neighborhood" as your own house.

Get a grip on reality.

I am betting the original poster is from a very high end neighborhood where young families are rare because they havent made enough money to live in those areas yet or afford throwing money at ivf.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:37     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:I think there is a causality issue here. 9am is pretty late to be starting a commute to the office! The people who have to work in an office are gone long before 9am. The people who don’t have to go into the office are self-selecting into a 9am school drop off.


100% this.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:28     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.


NP. It's not. Go away. We are not even the oldest parents at our Bethesda ES. OP needs to learn the difference between possessive and plurals, however.


We have four kids. When my youngest graduated college I was 52. I retired at 53.

Elementary school kids in your 50s is old AF.


Four kids by age 31? Did you lose your way from BabyCenter?
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:24     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
I am this dad. I drop my kids off by 9. But I may have logged in already at 7am and worked until 8:30 before getting the kids in the car.

Then I head home, finish getting ready, get into office by 10. I am not "late" since I started what needed to get started by 7am when the kids were eating breakfast/getting ready themselves.

Still a very full work day but yes, from 8:45-10am I may be "out of pocket"
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:21     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
DH is a freelance graphic artist and works from home all the time unless he’s meeting local
clients. RTO didn’t affect him. He does all the drop offs and pickups as I have to go in every day now.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:19     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.


NP. It's not. Go away. We are not even the oldest parents at our Bethesda ES. OP needs to learn the difference between possessive and plurals, however.


We have four kids. When my youngest graduated college I was 52. I retired at 53.

Elementary school kids in your 50s is old AF.

So what?
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:10     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
My husband was work from home long before covid but had RTO in January. It sucks. Many of his co-workers don't go in all the hours or put the hours in, same with some of our neighbors. Some may have bought their homes before the costs went up or family money. I don't work. Why do you care?
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:09     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
DH makes mid 6 figures and has been working from home since 2016. His general attire is a tshirt and jeans or shorts. He also has the more flexible schedule and will do a lot of the after sports pickup at 4-430.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:07     Subject: Re:Dads at elementary drop off
You don't know other people's lives.

Twice a week, I drop my kids off at school wearing tennis gear and carrying rackets, because I head straight from drop off to a 2-hour lesson. I then start my workday at 11:30, and I work late on those days. I run my own consulting business and regularly work 60 hour weeks, but playing tennis 3 days a week is a huge source of sanity for me so I prioritize it.

I'm sure plenty of other parents at our school think I'm a SAHM leading a life of leisure because of the tennis stuff. Oh well. I'm actually the higher earner in our family but have a more flexible schedule, whereas my DH is a fed and is no longer doing drop off or pick up due to RTO, however he does most to he cooking in our house so I can get work done in the evening, and he usually has the kids all day on Saturday while I go to tennis and then put in about 6 hours of work.

You don't know other people's lives.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:06     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
1) Plenty of non-feds work from home or have hybrid schedules.
2) shift work.
3) stay at home dads
4) who cares?
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 12:03     Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:50s with kids in elementary is pretty old. I had my youngest at 39. I will be in my 50s when he is done with school and I can readily admit that I will be pretty old, definitely older than the average parent. But, I knew what I was getting into.


If you had a kid at 39 you'd be 51 when they are leaving elementary school...


Having a kid at 39 in my town would make you a very young mom or dad. I had my last at 45. My good friend had his first at 49 with his 42 year old wife and to my suprise had three kids the last one at her 47 and him 54. He lives in a super rich town where second and third wives are common. He is actually a young dad. He has Dads in their 70s in the elementary school.

It is all perspective. No one bats and eye Bruce Willis, Alex Baldwin having kids at their age. Janet Jackson had a kid at 50 and Halle Berry had one at 47.



This is absolute and unadulterated wishful thinking bullshit. There is NO town in America where "having a kid at 39 would make you a very young mom or dad." Zero. Name the town. A "very young" mom at 39? Nope. Such a town doesn't exist.

DP, its common in my neighborhood but probably not town/city. When I read that post I assumed they might be from my area too. Hope they respond but I understand not wanting to say


Look, DP, you need to learn to read. It's one thing to say it's "common" to have a kid at 39 -- sure, it's common enough, I'll agree to that -- but she said in her town having a kid at 39 makes you a "very young mom." Not just a young mom, which is ridiculous enough because she ain't, but a VERY young mom which is bullshit everywhere in America and the world. It also doesn't make you a VERY YOUNG mom in any "neighborbood" -- unless you define "neighborhood" as your own house.

Get a grip on reality.