This is a careless, disgusting and rude dh story.

At the vet with dh, and he uses the bathroom right off the reception area. Even though I have warned him repeatedly about the sound of his urination - loud!!- and recommended he run the water when he’s in a tight space, when he’s gotta go, he’s gotta go and decorum apparently all goes out of his mind. He pees loudly enough for the entire room to hear. Gross. I go in there afterwards, and he’s also left up the toilet seat. Also gross.

That’s my DH.

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I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

You're crazy if you think DCUM is a healthy place. This is place is incredibly toxic.

It's toxic because anytime a woman says anything bad about a man, another woman attacks her and says it is all her fault (it is always the woman's fault one way or another). Venting is not toxic. You are.

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DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

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In any conflict, most people seek to understand why each person feels the conflict started and how it can be resolved.

However, when one party cannot accept that they could have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.

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Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

This is unhinged, folks

No, it is not. Very harsh, yes.

However, the reason you call it "unhinged" is because it is true. You do make choices every day that prevent you from seeing the role you play in your problems.

DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

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Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

This is unhinged, folks

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Anonymous wrote:I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

This is not unhinged. Do you see the difference?

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I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Put them here. Here’s mine:

DH leaves Monday morning for a work trip. He said he would get stuff for a quick Sunday lunch for DD and a friend at the grocery store. I said to get a small watermelon to cut up for them. He said good idea.

I came home from taking the other kid out and it seemed that all was well and the girls finished the watermelon.

Tonight I open the fridge to plan for the big grocery shop tomorrow night and what do I see? An enormous watermelon wedged into the largest shelf with just the very end sliced off.

DH: they didn’t have small ones so I just cut off a small piece. And I figured you could have watermelon for the week.

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

Me: exactly.

This is really funny. I’d just put the excess out in the yard. Mockingbirds love fruit.

Anonymous wrote:I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Anonymous wrote:Put them here. Here’s mine:

DH leaves Monday morning for a work trip. He said he would get stuff for a quick Sunday lunch for DD and a friend at the grocery store. I said to get a small watermelon to cut up for them. He said good idea.

I came home from taking the other kid out and it seemed that all was well and the girls finished the watermelon.

Tonight I open the fridge to plan for the big grocery shop tomorrow night and what do I see? An enormous watermelon wedged into the largest shelf with just the very end sliced off.

DH: they didn’t have small ones so I just cut off a small piece. And I figured you could have watermelon for the week.

Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?

DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.

Me: exactly.

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Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

You're crazy if you think DCUM is a healthy place. This is place is incredibly toxic.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.