Anonymous wrote:For example at breakfast they are sitting with a full meal a full plate and they are planning lunch. Is this some kind of disordered eating?

I'm more concerned about people who are often either drinking or talking about alcohol.

Some people live to eat and some eat to live.

Personally, I love food. I enjoy cooking - and reading cookbooks, watching cooking shows, and shopping for new ingredients and spices. It’s a hobby.

I also enjoy exercising, music, art, and travel. I’m a little overweight but certainly not obese.

It’s okay to love food.

Anonymous wrote:Frankly I do not want to talk abut food as a hobby. It's vulgar. Why not talk about literature, art, latest movie or play you've been too? Americans never cease to be minging.

People in the UK don't talk about their food because it's uniformly boring and bland. Take your spotted dick and shove it up your minge.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting about my wife? She asks what we want to eat for dinner while I'm still drinking my morning coffee and pecking at a bagel.

What’s wrong with that? When should she ask you?

Over stimulation. I'm groggy and tired. I'd like to enjoy the meal I'm in the middle of eating before having to think of another meal 12 hours later.

My advice if you need a dinner plan at 7am? Just choose something because it's not like I'm going to be able to give a coherent or informed answer about seafood when I have not even ingested my coffee.

She should just let you fend for yourself.

Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of people like this and I have been like this at times. I don’t know why I was so afraid of hunger. Maybe I felt worse long ago when I was hungry. It’s boring. I also know now that eating 3 full meals a day is a recipe for obesity. Our meals are generally so high in calories that one or two of them should be very light. Like yogurt and fruit or a small salad with a roll. I do still, however, plan for the pastries I will be eating most days.

This is just untrue. I have always eaten 3 full meals and have never been obese or even overweight. Some people are just more prone to holding onto calories than others.

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Anonymous wrote:For example at breakfast they are sitting with a full meal a full plate and they are planning lunch. Is this some kind of disordered eating?

It's usually either fat people or fit people.

I don't think fat people plan their food for the day they just binge but south Asians or other Asian are typically thin so planning makes sense

Anonymous wrote:For example at breakfast they are sitting with a full meal a full plate and they are planning lunch. Is this some kind of disordered eating?

It's usually either fat people or fit people.

Anonymous wrote:When is the right time to plan the next meal? When everyone is together for the previous meal seems like a good time. Should it not be until someone says they are hungry in a few hours?

Right?

Doesn’t everyone do this stuff? I plan my next vacation while I’m on vacation. I sign my kids up for camp next summer when I pick them up from camp this summer. It seems reasonable to plan for something while you are together and thinking about it.

The people I know who do this are bored and sad.

My Husband is like this 100%! He LOVES food. It would be annoying except he’s our main “Chef” and his meals are amazing so he gets a pass. I never liked vacations with his family, though. All they wanted to do was eat. Literally. That generation has passed away so it’s not an issue anymore.

This is my Thai FIL and as a result, my husband. It used to throw me off as when we travel together they were constantly stopping to eat, snack, eat. But once I realized they are like this, I just check out/go along for the ride, plan to eat less, but more often all day and relax into not being in charge. It's a great feeling. People who are that food-focused kind of drive the schedule along so it's all good. As long as they don't expect me or MIL to cook (we don't) we are all good.

I can't do that, not because I don't enjoy food or am not a planner, but because my brain refuses to think about another meal while I'm eating the previous one.

I want to enjoy my food. There is no planning of any nature, culinary or not, around mealtimes. If I am forced to plan something during meals, it stresses me out. I am not the right candidate, clearly, for a working lunch

Anonymous wrote:Common in South Asian households IMHO and anecdata. My mom is always asking about the next meal. What do you all want to eat? What should I make? Ufffff!

Also, she makes everything from scratch. Beans have to be soaked overnight, protein needs to be marinated overnight, yogurt set overnight, dough kneaded overnight, peas shelled overnight...just a whole lot of prep work.

Same. They consider feeding family clean, freshly cooked, made from scratch, homemade food as an act of love and holy service. Their upbringing conditions them to feel guilt if they can't do it.

Anonymous wrote:For example at breakfast they are sitting with a full meal a full plate and they are planning lunch. Is this some kind of disordered eating?

Not necessarily. Some people like food and planning so they make the most of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting about my wife? She asks what we want to eat for dinner while I'm still drinking my morning coffee and pecking at a bagel.

What’s wrong with that? When should she ask you?

Over stimulation. I'm groggy and tired. I'd like to enjoy the meal I'm in the middle of eating before having to think of another meal 12 hours later.

My advice if you need a dinner plan at 7am? Just choose something because it's not like I'm going to be able to give a coherent or informed answer about seafood when I have not even ingested my coffee.

I feel like there are a few different scenarios here.

One is when the person who is not making the food, or is not going to take what you say into account, is talking about food. I can get why that would be annoying.

But the other is when one person somehow ends up in charge of all of the food, and is asking for a suggestion. I do almost all of the cooking in our house, and the cooking that I don't do is done by the kids under my supervision, which is often more work than cooking myself. If I'm asking for input at 7 a.m., it's because I need to figure out how to adjust my schedule, am I working through lunch to get home early, or am I running out at lunch to get an ingredient, or should I take a minute now to see if I have a specific ingredient. And yes, I need to plan those things before I start my day. That doesn't make me food obsessed, it makes me organized.

If you are going to eat my food, then answering a question at the breakfast table is not a lot to ask.