Anonymous wrote:What are you looking for in a woman?

A hot nurse.

I am a single guy in my 50s and love the demure in public and naughty in private. This combo is very much worth looking for and taking care of once found.

The most fun FWB I had post-divorce was on the PTA board for her kids' school. She also taught (no joke) Sunday School. She was bright, beautiful, and very well-mannered.

However, when she was free to be herself, she was also very naughty. She said that the "naughty" side of her scared her ex-DH, which seemed so sad to me.

Why was she only FWB if that was what you were looking for ?

She was not looking for more than an FWB relationship. Between her kids, job, rocky relationship with her ex-DH, and volunteer work, she did not have time for a "boyfriend" and certainly did not have time for a new husband. From me, I think she wanted an FWB who respected her (e.g., treated her well (we went to fun places when she had the time for it), etc.). I made sure to schedule time with her that was for more than just sex, so that we could spend an afternoon and evening together when she did not have her kids.

When she truly had time to relax, it was terrific.

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Anonymous wrote:Attractive and fit
Well educated and financially independent
Good sense of humor
Little if any emotional baggage
Low maintenance and not needy
Empty nester
Enjoys sex and initiates

Interesting and good to know that older men are not looking to support a woman financially.

Yep, that basically describes that men want to invest little mental and financial effort . Just put out and initiate and don’t complain when he gives nothing for V day.

The fact is that you’re no longer hot enough that it’s worth making any mental or financial effort. If you want more than “put out and don’t complain” you need to be at least 20 years younger.

Oh, and that also men consider all 40+ women disposable and not worthy any mental and financial effort. Thanks for opening my eyes.

Eh well DCUM women have made it abundantly clear that they consider all 40+ men disposable and not worth their trouble, so you can hardly expect men not to have noticed this and responded accordingly.

Anonymous wrote:I am a single guy in my 50s and love the demure in public and naughty in private. This combo is very much worth looking for and taking care of once found.

The most fun FWB I had post-divorce was on the PTA board for her kids' school. She also taught (no joke) Sunday School. She was bright, beautiful, and very well-mannered.

However, when she was free to be herself, she was also very naughty. She said that the "naughty" side of her scared her ex-DH, which seemed so sad to me.

Why was she only FWB if that was what you were looking for ?

I am a single guy in my 50s and love the demure in public and naughty in private. This combo is very much worth looking for and taking care of once found.

The most fun FWB I had post-divorce was on the PTA board for her kids' school. She also taught (no joke) Sunday School. She was bright, beautiful, and very well-mannered.

However, when she was free to be herself, she was also very naughty. She said that the "naughty" side of her scared her ex-DH, which seemed so sad to me.

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Anonymous wrote:Attractive and fit
Well educated and financially independent
Good sense of humor
Little if any emotional baggage
Low maintenance and not needy
Empty nester
Enjoys sex and initiates

Interesting and good to know that older men are not looking to support a woman financially.

Yep, that basically describes that men want to invest little mental and financial effort . Just put out and initiate and don’t complain when he gives nothing for V day.

The fact is that you’re no longer hot enough that it’s worth making any mental or financial effort. If you want more than “put out and don’t complain” you need to be at least 20 years younger.

Oh, and that also men consider all 40+ women disposable and not worthy any mental and financial effort. Thanks for opening my eyes.
I’m lucky to meet different men as I sense this attitude from afar

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Anonymous wrote:Attractive and fit
Well educated and financially independent
Good sense of humor
Little if any emotional baggage
Low maintenance and not needy
Empty nester
Enjoys sex and initiates

Interesting and good to know that older men are not looking to support a woman financially.

Yep, that basically describes that men want to invest little mental and financial effort . Just put out and initiate and don’t complain when he gives nothing for V day.

The fact is that you’re no longer hot enough that it’s worth making any mental or financial effort. If you want more than “put out and don’t complain” you need to be at least 20 years younger.

Anonymous wrote:So 50+ men do highly value financial independence in women. That’s an opposite of opinion expressed so many times on this forum that men mostly value other qualities and not the woman’s career.

That’s only true for first marriages.

Anonymous wrote:What are you looking for in a woman?

Simple answer would be "a woman in their 20s-40s".

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Anonymous wrote:Attractive and fit
Well educated and financially independent
Good sense of humor
Little if any emotional baggage
Low maintenance and not needy
Empty nester
Enjoys sex and initiates

Interesting and good to know that older men are not looking to support a woman financially.

Yep, that basically describes that men want to invest little mental and financial effort . Just put out and initiate and don’t complain when he gives nothing for V day.
I must say, I would pass even if he’s hot. Total waste of my time, I’ll rather focus on friends, career and my kids.

I would argue the complete opposite. I know a lot of middle aged single dudes (my divorced brother’s friends). Most of them prefer to pay for stuff because it gets them off the hook for anything else (like being a good boyfriend). They churn through pretty younger women and act like big swinging d**ks because they pick up the bar tab. I’d prefer to pay my own way - if a guy isn’t paying my way he better show up in some other way, like being interesting and interested in me, planning good dates when it’s his turn, being thoughtful toward me (coffee in bed is my love language 😂). I probably get fewer second dates because I have standards, but I have found a few that have been worth keeping around.

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Anonymous wrote:Attractive and fit
Well educated and financially independent
Good sense of humor
Little if any emotional baggage
Low maintenance and not needy
Empty nester
Enjoys sex and initiates

Interesting and good to know that older men are not looking to support a woman financially.

Or support anything or any aspect of a person. Emotional support, companionship support, general support.

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Anonymous wrote:Attractive and fit
Well educated and financially independent
Good sense of humor
Little if any emotional baggage
Low maintenance and not needy
Empty nester
Enjoys sex and initiates

Interesting and good to know that older men are not looking to support a woman financially.

Yep, that basically describes that men want to invest little mental and financial effort . Just put out and initiate and don’t complain when he gives nothing for V day.
I must say, I would pass even if he’s hot. Total waste of my time, I’ll rather focus on friends, career and my kids.

+1. I am late 40s. I date much younger men. If I’m going to be a toy anyway, I’d rather be with a young guy.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t mind another set of children.
I am an excellent provider.

Define excellent

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Anonymous wrote:Attractive and fit
Well educated and financially independent
Good sense of humor
Little if any emotional baggage
Low maintenance and not needy
Empty nester
Enjoys sex and initiates

Interesting and good to know that older men are not looking to support a woman financially.

Yep, that basically describes that men want to invest little mental and financial effort . Just put out and initiate and don’t complain when he gives nothing for V day.
I must say, I would pass even if he’s hot. Total waste of my time, I’ll rather focus on friends, career and my kids.

Anonymous wrote:Attractive and fit
Well educated and financially independent
Good sense of humor
Little if any emotional baggage
Low maintenance and not needy
Empty nester
Enjoys sex and initiates

Interesting and good to know that older men are not looking to support a woman financially.