Anonymous
07/31/2025 20:02
Subject: Different rules for ND and NT kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your 7 year old is behaving more like a 4-5 year old, which is to be expected given the diagnosis, time of day and noisy restaurant setting. Don’t set him up to fail. Just don’t go out to dinner with him. Get a sitter. It’s not fair to ask him to do something he’s not set up to do. We all know the iPad isn’t the answer, and all these people rationalizing it will regret it someday. As a mom with high school and college aged kids, I 100% guarantee that.
Oh, and when you are on VACATION? No eating ever?
You eat at kid friendly places, or you eat at outdoor places, or you tag team with a partner, or you get a babysitter, or you order room service - just because you have a child with ADHD does not mean the rules of civility no longer apply to your family. That's part of having children - you will have to put your solo / easy adult life on pause for a bit, which for some families it will take longer than others. The families that have it the hardest are the ones with children with profound support needs, who, ipad or not, can likely never sit down for a meal.
Literally everybody dining out today is on their phones. Talk about a meaningless hill to die on.
DP but yeah that’s also a problem. We as a society are completely addicted to screens. If we have the chance to help our kids stop it before it starts, why wouldn’t we? Screens for kids will be the cigarettes of the next generation.
Anonymous
07/31/2025 18:42
Subject: Different rules for ND and NT kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your 7 year old is behaving more like a 4-5 year old, which is to be expected given the diagnosis, time of day and noisy restaurant setting. Don’t set him up to fail. Just don’t go out to dinner with him. Get a sitter. It’s not fair to ask him to do something he’s not set up to do. We all know the iPad isn’t the answer, and all these people rationalizing it will regret it someday. As a mom with high school and college aged kids, I 100% guarantee that.
Oh, and when you are on VACATION? No eating ever?
You eat at kid friendly places, or you eat at outdoor places, or you tag team with a partner, or you get a babysitter, or you order room service - just because you have a child with ADHD does not mean the rules of civility no longer apply to your family. That's part of having children - you will have to put your solo / easy adult life on pause for a bit, which for some families it will take longer than others. The families that have it the hardest are the ones with children with profound support needs, who, ipad or not, can likely never sit down for a meal.
Literally everybody dining out today is on their phones. Talk about a meaningless hill to die on.
Anonymous
07/31/2025 18:41
Subject: Different rules for ND and NT kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your 7 year old is behaving more like a 4-5 year old, which is to be expected given the diagnosis, time of day and noisy restaurant setting. Don’t set him up to fail. Just don’t go out to dinner with him. Get a sitter. It’s not fair to ask him to do something he’s not set up to do. We all know the iPad isn’t the answer, and all these people rationalizing it will regret it someday. As a mom with high school and college aged kids, I 100% guarantee that.
Oh, and when you are on VACATION? No eating ever?
You eat at kid friendly places, or you eat at outdoor places, or you tag team with a partner, or you get a babysitter, or you order room service - just because you have a child with ADHD does not mean the rules of civility no longer apply to your family. That's part of having children - you will have to put your solo / easy adult life on pause for a bit, which for some families it will take longer than others. The families that have it the hardest are the ones with children with profound support needs, who, ipad or not, can likely never sit down for a meal.
Get over yourself.
Why is this no ipad rule important to you? It's meaningless.
And no, parents with disabled kids don't need to sit home all the time to please you.
Anonymous
07/31/2025 18:22
Subject: Different rules for ND and NT kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your 7 year old is behaving more like a 4-5 year old, which is to be expected given the diagnosis, time of day and noisy restaurant setting. Don’t set him up to fail. Just don’t go out to dinner with him. Get a sitter. It’s not fair to ask him to do something he’s not set up to do. We all know the iPad isn’t the answer, and all these people rationalizing it will regret it someday. As a mom with high school and college aged kids, I 100% guarantee that.
Oh, and when you are on VACATION? No eating ever?
You eat at kid friendly places, or you eat at outdoor places, or you tag team with a partner, or you get a babysitter, or you order room service - just because you have a child with ADHD does not mean the rules of civility no longer apply to your family. That's part of having children - you will have to put your solo / easy adult life on pause for a bit, which for some families it will take longer than others. The families that have it the hardest are the ones with children with profound support needs, who, ipad or not, can likely never sit down for a meal.
Anonymous
07/31/2025 17:39
Subject: Different rules for ND and NT kids
Anonymous wrote:Your 7 year old is behaving more like a 4-5 year old, which is to be expected given the diagnosis, time of day and noisy restaurant setting. Don’t set him up to fail. Just don’t go out to dinner with him. Get a sitter. It’s not fair to ask him to do something he’s not set up to do. We all know the iPad isn’t the answer, and all these people rationalizing it will regret it someday. As a mom with high school and college aged kids, I 100% guarantee that.
Oh, and when you are on VACATION? No eating ever?