Generally speaking, when you have money, you don't have to rely on other people and community as much, because you can afford to pay for a lot of things.

Think: movers instead of friends helping out; a personal chef or Ubereats instead of a meal train if you are sick; paying for your own health care expenses instead of having the church pass the plate for your copay, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m trapped between dating rich aholes and nice low earners. I don’t do badly myself ($250K and $3M NW), but when it comes to guys who make >$400K, the single ones are jerks. Even the nice guy I married when he was making $80K became a massive ahole when he started making $350K and at >$500K became insufferable. Left him but stuck in this income/ahole matrix.

Because they feel like they can buy anyone and anything. They’re entitled prick$. Worked with some of them. They would go away for a boys weekend to Dewey, pick up 20 something yr old girls (all the guys were married), and talk about how they would double team some of the girls.

Actually the rich guys you criticize can only buy the women who out themselves up for sale. You realize these are consensual transactions, yes?

Anonymous wrote:It’s so funny women are calling rich men entitled when they themselves wouldn’t dare date a man with a modest salary.

Maybe these men don’t want to date you because they can tell you just want their money.

OP is probably average at best appearance wise and always leads with her wallet. A wealthy guy doesn't need her money so is more concerned about what she brings to the table physically and personality wise. If she was super hot or anywhere close she'd have plenty of good choices.

It's hard to look in the mirror when the person looking back is unattractive physically and personality wise

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Anonymous wrote:I’m trapped between dating rich aholes and nice low earners. I don’t do badly myself ($250K and $3M NW), but when it comes to guys who make >$400K, the single ones are jerks. Even the nice guy I married when he was making $80K became a massive ahole when he started making $350K and at >$500K became insufferable. Left him but stuck in this income/ahole matrix.

Because they feel like they can buy anyone and anything. They’re entitled prick$. Worked with some of them. They would go away for a boys weekend to Dewey, pick up 20 something yr old girls (all the guys were married), and talk about how they would double team some of the girls.

That’s very typical for high powered single men to be in relationships while “inviting” partners to join in. A guy I was dating just told be “there will be a third, I need it sometimes”. Thankfully I had a choice not to partake. These 20s girls also have a choice not to sleep with much older men.

Anonymous wrote:I’m trapped between dating rich aholes and nice low earners. I don’t do badly myself ($250K and $3M NW), but when it comes to guys who make >$400K, the single ones are jerks. Even the nice guy I married when he was making $80K became a massive ahole when he started making $350K and at >$500K became insufferable. Left him but stuck in this income/ahole matrix.

No one is forcing you to do anything OP. However, rich guys have more options. So the rich ones aren't as willing to put up with your rough edges, and it sounds like you have many of those.

It’s so funny women are calling rich men entitled when they themselves wouldn’t dare date a man with a modest salary.

Maybe these men don’t want to date you because they can tell you just want their money.

Anonymous wrote:I’m trapped between dating rich aholes and nice low earners. I don’t do badly myself ($250K and $3M NW), but when it comes to guys who make >$400K, the single ones are jerks. Even the nice guy I married when he was making $80K became a massive ahole when he started making $350K and at >$500K became insufferable. Left him but stuck in this income/ahole matrix.

Because they feel like they can buy anyone and anything. They’re entitled prick$. Worked with some of them. They would go away for a boys weekend to Dewey, pick up 20 something yr old girls (all the guys were married), and talk about how they would double team some of the girls.

Anonymous wrote:In the 15 years I’ve been with DH he has made 100ish, 50ish, and 750ish at various points and hasn’t changed his personality once.

Your DH is a unicorn. Or he came from money to start with. One has to be very intentional to not let money change who you are, and most people are not intentional about it.

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Anonymous wrote:All the nice ones got snapped up when they were still nobodies.

I married a nice no body. Then he started earning lots of money and, yes, I sae the change. He turned into a bit of an a$$. But then he lost his job and was nice again, so I see the correlation.

Yep mine was like that although controlling. He became much more controlling once the money came, until I had to leave.

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Anonymous wrote:The male ego is dangerous with no counterbalance. They can have and do anything. They know this. Most guys who reach that level of income/wealth get there due to some combination of charm, cleverness, and perhaps some narcissism/manipulation.

Completely agree with this. Same thing happening with my DH that has reached C-suite / 350k+ income.

OP. $350K isn’t even that much anymore. I could make that myself if I were willing to make a lifestyle switch, and I’m not especially high powered.

offshore.

This troupe is so tired!! Look at the data - it's statistically a lot of money, even in DC. Get some perspective.

Find the ones that are impressed by you not by things or experiences they can show off.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m trapped between dating rich aholes and nice low earners. I don’t do badly myself ($250K and $3M NW), but when it comes to guys who make >$400K, the single ones are jerks. Even the nice guy I married when he was making $80K became a massive ahole when he started making $350K and at >$500K became insufferable. Left him but stuck in this income/ahole matrix.

Let’s be honest here, your 3M networth is from your DH income not your barely above a Fed salary.

So you really have no idea what is required to make those big numbers and build a nest egg.

Let’s be honest here, you don’t know me or my history and not a dime of it is from my ex. Go pleasure yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:The male ego is dangerous with no counterbalance. They can have and do anything. They know this. Most guys who reach that level of income/wealth get there due to some combination of charm, cleverness, and perhaps some narcissism/manipulation.

Completely agree with this. Same thing happening with my DH that has reached C-suite / 350k+ income.

OP. $350K isn’t even that much anymore. I could make that myself if I were willing to make a lifestyle switch, and I’m not especially high powered.

Because the qualities you need to make excessive bank are also the qualities that make you an insufferable ahole.

There’s a man in our friend group who is just so cringe. Displays his multiple luxury vehicles in his driveway, constantly going on and on about his watches and vacation home. It’s weird to me to see a man who is so into his logos well into mid life. We get it, you’ve made it.