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Anonymous wrote:Having actually read the article, it's just clickbait for the NYT set. The author left an open marriage because she fell for one of the men she was dating and when that relationship didn't work out, she found herself in the middle aged dating pool in NYC where she goes out on dates with openly non-monogamous men. Hardly a representative sample of mainstream dating.

As a woman, the article just made me roll my eyes because the author and her friends seem to be self-selecting for these high drama relationships.

Spot on. I do actually believe we have a sociological problem in this country - women on the rise and wanting equal partners, men on decline and wanting the 50s back. But this article was not that at all. She was ridiculous.

Agreed. We are in a time of cultural shift to be sure, but this article is not hitting on some important part of it.

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It's the AA degree working as a teller that's off putting for most educated women. These women aren't necessarily looking for a wallet, but they want an equal partner.

Is he working towards a bachelor's degree in a good paying field?

I don't think he is necessarily seeking someone more educated than him. He would prefer someone who also has at least an associate's degree or is working towards one. That doesn't seem unreasonable to me. I don't think he would rule out someone with just a high school degree, but would prefer some college.
The apartment he shares with a roommate is nice and well-maintained.
He's done some classes at night but honestly is pretty happy with his current job. He came from not the best circumstances in life, so I think he is doing really well.

Kudos to him for having a job and trying to better himself coming from bad circumstances.

But, single women won't care about that. His current circumstances are not attractive to even uneducated women.

Being a teller is a dead end job, and the pay is awful (I'm the one who used to date a guy who worked as a teller in college). Most women who are in college, whether towards an AA or BA/BS, are trying to go for a better paying job. They aren't going to want to partner with someone who is not in a similar position - working towards a better paying job.

Anonymous wrote:It’s just a different time period with women being able to make their own money and body decisions, as well as the illusion of choice. Boomers and Silent Gen just married the first nice cute person who wanted them back, and they found them at school, work, or at church. Now you have the apps which seems like an endless list of people. Nice and cute doesn’t cut it anymore.

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What kind of women are the bank teller trying to date? I think guys like this can find a perfectly nice partner but she might be chubby or average looking. Seems like a lot of guys only want the hottest women and when they see those women going for the 6-6-6 guys instead of them, they get bitter instead of adjusting expectations.

The one woman he went on several dates with that I met was cute but not gorgeous. I haven't met other women he is interested in, so I don't know. It may be making it more difficult that he prefers someone with either no kids or one younger kid.

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It's the AA degree working as a teller that's off putting for most educated women. These women aren't necessarily looking for a wallet, but they want an equal partner.

Is he working towards a bachelor's degree in a good paying field?

I don't think he is necessarily seeking someone more educated than him. He would prefer someone who also has at least an associate's degree or is working towards one. That doesn't seem unreasonable to me. I don't think he would rule out someone with just a high school degree, but would prefer some college.
The apartment he shares with a roommate is nice and well-maintained.
He's done some classes at night but honestly is pretty happy with his current job. He came from not the best circumstances in life, so I think he is doing really well.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are heterosexual and have trouble being in a relationship with the opposite sex, then YOU need to change. Part of being in a heterosexual marriage is learning to get along and live with someone who is different than you.

There's no profit in telling women they need to improve their behavior. Far easier to keep blaming men.

There are plenty of heterosexual men who refuse to change and blame women for not wanting to date them or not being good partners. Neither gender has a monopoly on this.

Sure but the media points the camera only in one direction.

Really depends on what media you consume.

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What kind of women are the bank teller trying to date? I think guys like this can find a perfectly nice partner but she might be chubby or average looking. Seems like a lot of guys only want the hottest women and when they see those women going for the 6-6-6 guys instead of them, they get bitter instead of adjusting expectations.

The one woman he went on several dates with that I met was cute but not gorgeous. I haven't met other women he is interested in, so I don't know. It may be making it more difficult that he prefers someone with either no kids or one younger kid.

Anonymous wrote:Having actually read the article, it's just clickbait for the NYT set. The author left an open marriage because she fell for one of the men she was dating and when that relationship didn't work out, she found herself in the middle aged dating pool in NYC where she goes out on dates with openly non-monogamous men. Hardly a representative sample of mainstream dating.

As a woman, the article just made me roll my eyes because the author and her friends seem to be self-selecting for these high drama relationships.

Anonymous wrote:Having actually read the article, it's just clickbait for the NYT set. The author left an open marriage because she fell for one of the men she was dating and when that relationship didn't work out, she found herself in the middle aged dating pool in NYC where she goes out on dates with openly non-monogamous men. Hardly a representative sample of mainstream dating.

As a woman, the article just made me roll my eyes because the author and her friends seem to be self-selecting for these high drama relationships.

What kind of women are the bank teller trying to date? I think guys like this can find a perfectly nice partner but she might be chubby or average looking. Seems like a lot of guys only want the hottest women and when they see those women going for the 6-6-6 guys instead of them, they get bitter instead of adjusting expectations.