Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 15:49     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Just send the email already!!

Petty would be asking for an itemized dinner bill and charging the kid's parents for their share of food.

Asking for reimbursement for a hotel room that OP and son did not even sleep in is not petty. No parent on earth is going to expect OP to pay for their kid's hotel room. My kids attend a gazillion dollar private school and no one would blink an eye if I emailed for this money.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 15:35     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Anonymous wrote:No, you agree in advanced. Everyone could have stayed in one room. Kids paid for food. You are being absurd.


Even if all the boys stayed in one room, at most OP and the other boy should be responsible for at most 1/4 of it each, although OP's son would have stayed with her if no one else was there, so she should be responsible for even less.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 15:32     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
No, you agree in advanced. Everyone could have stayed in one room. Kids paid for food. You are being absurd.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 15:32     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
100% it's ok to ask them and it's incredibly rude that they haven't reached out to thank you and ask how much they owe you. Their kids asked for a ride and you did them a huge favor by driving, there should never have been an expectation that you were going to cover the costs!
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 15:22     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The longer you wait the more petty it seems


Petty?


Yes, petty is a good word. And makes OP looks cheap and poor.

- dp


You are nuts. Why the heck should OP find the other kids’ hotel, after driving them and accepting responsibility for their welfare? The ones who are cheap are the parents who do not reach out to OP the same day their kids return home and thank her profusely, and ask her how much they owe and what her Venmo is.

I love when cheap people who are trying to scam others call the others cheap. That is the tackiest kind of Uno reverse.

OP, just text them and say, “Hi! Reaching out to let you know that Larlo’s share of the hotel bill was X X. My Venmo is Y.” If you feel like attaching the receipt (with the digits of your credit card number redacted) you could do that. They will likely appreciate that you circled back on this because it may have slipped their mind. It should not slip their mind, but some people are not as diligent as others.

Do it right now! Take a deep breath and just make it happen! Let us know how it works out.


Let's just say you are in different SES than some of us.


Stop trolling.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 15:14     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The longer you wait the more petty it seems


Petty?


Yes, petty is a good word. And makes OP looks cheap and poor.

- dp


You are nuts. Why the heck should OP find the other kids’ hotel, after driving them and accepting responsibility for their welfare? The ones who are cheap are the parents who do not reach out to OP the same day their kids return home and thank her profusely, and ask her how much they owe and what her Venmo is.

I love when cheap people who are trying to scam others call the others cheap. That is the tackiest kind of Uno reverse.

OP, just text them and say, “Hi! Reaching out to let you know that Larlo’s share of the hotel bill was X X. My Venmo is Y.” If you feel like attaching the receipt (with the digits of your credit card number redacted) you could do that. They will likely appreciate that you circled back on this because it may have slipped their mind. It should not slip their mind, but some people are not as diligent as others.

Do it right now! Take a deep breath and just make it happen! Let us know how it works out.


Let's just say you are in different SES than some of us.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 15:09     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did you not discuss this ahead of time? You were wrong not to, and the other kids’ parents were wrong not to offer. If you need the money, ask, if not chalk it up to a life experience. How many rooms were there? It’s a little dodgier if they weren’t all in your room or the room the other kid paid for.


15 - 17 year olds. The two kids who didn’t pay shared a room. My plan was that my kid would stay in my room, but the kid who paid offered him the other bed in his room.



If the kids were of different sex, then I can see the two additional rooms. But if they were all boys/girls, at least the other three kids could have shared one room.

OP - I see a lot of lessons learned here, I’m sure that the parents of the one kid that paid were surprised that he was charged full price for a room and that you were going to have their 16yo kid stay in a room alone -.

I’m curious, if the other kids had offered to pay for their own rooms, would you have gotten them each their own?


If the parents of that kid were surprised, they should have told him he had to share a room. There's no way OP is at more fault than anyone else here.

I did wonder if the boys (other than that one) told their parents they'd all share a room and took advantage of OP I having her pay for the other room, but even if that's the case, the parents should know and those boys should pay their parents back. It's still not only OP who is wrong here.

Also if some parent truly couldn't afford it, they should have been up front asking OP for a favor and seen whether their son could sleep on the floor in OP's room or something.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 15:08     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The longer you wait the more petty it seems


Petty?


Yes, petty is a good word. And makes OP looks cheap and poor.

- dp


You are nuts. Why the heck should OP find the other kids’ hotel, after driving them and accepting responsibility for their welfare? The ones who are cheap are the parents who do not reach out to OP the same day their kids return home and thank her profusely, and ask her how much they owe and what her Venmo is.

I love when cheap people who are trying to scam others call the others cheap. That is the tackiest kind of Uno reverse.

OP, just text them and say, “Hi! Reaching out to let you know that Larlo’s share of the hotel bill was X X. My Venmo is Y.” If you feel like attaching the receipt (with the digits of your credit card number redacted) you could do that. They will likely appreciate that you circled back on this because it may have slipped their mind. It should not slip their mind, but some people are not as diligent as others.

Do it right now! Take a deep breath and just make it happen! Let us know how it works out.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 15:00     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Agree with almost everyone here that this should have been discussed, or offered, up front. But if one other kid paid for the room maybe the third one paid him, especially if their parents know each other. I wouldn’t get worked up over gas…I know I’d be annoyed if the parents didn’t reach out with a simple thank you text/email.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 14:53     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 14:45     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Anonymous wrote:this should have all been made clear beforehand.

now, you are out of luck.


It’s not to late to clear up.

Don’t let it build though, OP. Check in with everyone today.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 14:45     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Anonymous wrote:this should have all been made clear beforehand.

now, you are out of luck.


Are you some kind of a dead beat parent? Everyone I know would pay without any fuss and thank the OP for taking their kids on the trip.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 14:43     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
this should have all been made clear beforehand.

now, you are out of luck.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 14:42     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Anonymous wrote:When you sent the parents the hotel link, that was your opportunity to talk about costs.


+1. But I also can’t imagine anyone I know not offering to fund their kids hotel room. People throw money around like crazy where I am.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2025 14:41     Subject: Can I ask for payment?
Anonymous wrote:Speaking as someone for whom this would be a significant expense, I’d text something like “the boys had a great time! For those who haven’t had a chance to kick in for the hotel rooms, the boys’ rooms came to $200/ kid. My Venmo is”


This. Communicate with them directly.