Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m physician and I am so sorry. People on this thread making these statements and citing all the stats are ignoring so many confounding variables. They’ve obviously never had to comfort women who lost their infants bc they waited too long to go to the hospital.

That being said, you don’t get to make this decision. The best thing you can do is be there for your niece or nephew and if things start going south encourage proper care.

Tragically, many more maternal and infant deaths occur before/during/after hospital births than home births.

Are you talking in absolute terms? Because i hope you understand that there are millions more births in hospitals than home births.

Anonymous wrote:Millenials need to get over romanticizing their birth "experience" and do what it's best for the health of their babies. Also, nobody wants to see your gauzy pregnancy photos with your exposed belly in a meadow or your creepy 4D ultrasound photos.

Facts!

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m physician and I am so sorry. People on this thread making these statements and citing all the stats are ignoring so many confounding variables. They’ve obviously never had to comfort women who lost their infants bc they waited too long to go to the hospital.

That being said, you don’t get to make this decision. The best thing you can do is be there for your niece or nephew and if things start going south encourage proper care.

Tragically, many more maternal and infant deaths occur before/during/after hospital births than home births.

Millenials need to get over romanticizing their birth "experience" and do what it's best for the health of their babies. Also, nobody wants to see your gauzy pregnancy photos with your exposed belly in a meadow or your creepy 4D ultrasound photos.

Wish your sister well with that homebirth and MYOB

Unfortunately I've encountered this kind of attitude and people tend to double down when confronted with reality. I'd personally be dead twice over if not for hospitals and modern medicine for births (my mom had an abruption with me, I had pre-eclampsia with my son).

OP, I’m physician and I am so sorry. People on this thread making these statements and citing all the stats are ignoring so many confounding variables. They’ve obviously never had to comfort women who lost their infants bc they waited too long to go to the hospital.

That being said, you don’t get to make this decision. The best thing you can do is be there for your niece or nephew and if things start going south encourage proper care.

Anonymous wrote:2nd baby should come quicker. (Mine didn’t though)

Mine didn't and when I started asking people I had 0 friends who went into labor naturally with #2

And OP I am sorry for your own loss.

You let her face the natural consequences whatever they may be.

OP your sister truly doesn't care about the outcome. She can't even feign ignorance after what happened. For some people their "experience" matters more than the baby.

It's horrible but you just have to detach.

Anonymous wrote:Our babies were born at birthing centers, no doctors and were just fine and are now young adults.l Is your sister in a rural area in the middle of nowhere? If not, it's likely an ambulance can get your sister and/or the baby to the hospital in a matter of minutes so don't worry so much.

It's her body, her baby, her choice: let her do what she wants

Minutes without oxygen is a lifetime of intellectual disability.

OP I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter, and I am sure that makes your sister’s choices even harder to accept.

I needed c-sections. I wish I could have had and fully support responsible home births, but it sounds like your sister is not making good plans. Unfortunately, as you’ve already noted she’s not going to listen to you. Ultimately I think the only way that you can cope is to accept it, and to recognize that you aren’t responsible for what you can’t control.

All these people saying it's not your business when the sister has already had complications in birth and we wonder why there is a lack of community and connection

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get being worried and concerned, but are you seriously unable to cope? That is not normal. Are you currently in therapy?

Yes, I am. My daughter died at 2 days old, so I very much worry.

Presumably in a hospital, right?

So you know that things can and do go wrong anywhere.

CBT and if you need it, medication. Separate yourself from this it’s not your business.