Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's my $0.02 on this situation.

1) Crazy sleeping hours need to change. While I realize that they may have kept those hours when at school, it should no longer fly or not be an everyday thing.
2) Need to do the PT. It's been assigned for a reason.
3) Help around the house, unpaid as others have stated. Give him a list to do. Empty DW, change laundry, vacuum.

My DS, same age, had a really crappy end to his freshman year that resulted in a ton of angst and anxiety for us a parents. He came home from school in a pretty crappy place and was not himself.

He luckily has continued to work at his HS job over breaks and is back again there this summer. Shift starts as early as 6:30 AM. That routine and his HS buddies coming back in town have really helped to him on the right side of things. He also is going to take a Gen Ed class at the local CC.

Good Luck!

+ 1 on the bolded.
The crazy sleeping hours are disrespectful to the people in the house working and making it possible for him to go to college.
Unless he is paying his own health insurance and costs, PT is not optional.
And an adult living at home should contribute to the running of the household.
Beyond that, he should come up with a plan of how to spend his summer constructively. His spending money is his problem, you can stay out of that. But you presumably have invested a large amount of money in tuition, so I think it's fair to ask that he have something to show for the summer. Volunteer, class, casual work, some other kind of project.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's my $0.02 on this situation.

1) Crazy sleeping hours need to change. While I realize that they may have kept those hours when at school, it should no longer fly or not be an everyday thing.
2) Need to do the PT. It's been assigned for a reason.
3) Help around the house, unpaid as others have stated. Give him a list to do. Empty DW, change laundry, vacuum.

My DS, same age, had a really crappy end to his freshman year that resulted in a ton of angst and anxiety for us a parents. He came home from school in a pretty crappy place and was not himself.

He luckily has continued to work at his HS job over breaks and is back again there this summer. Shift starts as early as 6:30 AM. That routine and his HS buddies coming back in town have really helped to him on the right side of things. He also is going to take a Gen Ed class at the local CC.

Good Luck!

+ 1 on the bolded.
The crazy sleeping hours are disrespectful to the people in the house working and making it possible for him to go to college.
Unless he is paying his own health insurance and costs, PT is not optional.
And an adult living at home should contribute to the running of the household.
Beyond that, he should come up with a plan of how to spend his summer constructively. His spending money is his problem, you can stay out of that. But you presumably have invested a large amount of money in tuition, so I think it's fair to ask that he have something to show for the summer. Volunteer, class, casual work, some other kind of project.

Anonymous wrote:Here's my $0.02 on this situation.

1) Crazy sleeping hours need to change. While I realize that they may have kept those hours when at school, it should no longer fly or not be an everyday thing.
2) Need to do the PT. It's been assigned for a reason.
3) Help around the house, unpaid as others have stated. Give him a list to do. Empty DW, change laundry, vacuum.

My DS, same age, had a really crappy end to his freshman year that resulted in a ton of angst and anxiety for us a parents. He came home from school in a pretty crappy place and was not himself.

He luckily has continued to work at his HS job over breaks and is back again there this summer. Shift starts as early as 6:30 AM. That routine and his HS buddies coming back in town have really helped to him on the right side of things. He also is going to take a Gen Ed class at the local CC.

Good Luck!

Anonymous wrote:Title says it. Kid came home. Unfortunately they got mono at the end of the semester, and had a physical injury all semester that hindered their ability to particpate in campus life. It was no doubt tough.

Now, however, they are home. Sleeping in til 1 pm. Says waking up is difficult (with mono) but seems to feel totally fine during the day and says as much. Can't be on their feet all day though with the injury, and sitting can be bothersome if the chair is not comfortable.

We have encouraged them to apply for a job. They say they have but they get no callbacks. They don't do the PT needed to recover from the injury. But they complain about it.

I'm kind of at my wit's end. They have cash leftover from what they saved last summer. I'm not sure I can last another 10 weeks. DH suggested paying them to be a housekeeper but I am not taking on the job of being an employer too. Nor do I want that role with my kid.

Any suggestions? I am so frustrated. This is not what we tried to teach growing up.