Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM, so I’m not throwing shade, but where and when does a SAHM carry an $8k handbag? I wouldn’t be comfortable carrying a bag like that to the grocery store or a parent/teacher conference.

Anonymous wrote:No. matter how much money you have 8,000$ for a handbag is an extremely unreasonable purchase.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
This is not a milestone birthday. She is turning 34. I’m 32.
Our kids are 3 and 5. After our second child was born, we decided she will stay home until both kids start school.
I’m the sole breadwinner. HHI is $250k.
We have a mortgage but our cars are paid off.
We only started funding our 529s last year.
Our net worth is approximately $700k including home equity.

I don’t think we can afford to spend $8k on a handbag.

I believe she is being influenced by some of her friends.
She said that if I don't get her that handbag, she'll just buy it herself and remember that I'm a worthless husband.

Anonymous wrote:It’s not an investment unless she uses it like a normal handbag, it will have wear and tear, and it will not be an investment. Also, if you have a little kids, any expensive item like that needs to be kept locked securely out of their reach. For some reason, on my Facebook feed, I get a ton of those videos, showing people buying Birkins and then selling them at this resale store where they get more money from the store than they paid at the time of the original purchase. I’ve watched a ton of them and the more I watched them, the less absolutely absurd the bag seems to me on one level. On most other normal brain levels, I realize it’s an absurdity, but a little part of me thinks it would be nice to have such such a bag. So your wife may have just fallen victim to some Facebook algorithm.

If it’s a special birthday, and she wants the Chanel bag because she is going to keep it and use it forever, then maybe that’s what she means by an investment. Maybe she means it’s a lifetime bag, since Chanel is pretty classic.