Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 15:50     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hoping the OP returns and tells us if the student applied ED or RD.


Me too, because that makes a big difference. At our private (not DMV) students and their parents must sign an agreement when applying ED stating they understand that being accepted ED means you are absolutely going to that school barring a complete disconnect between estimated cost and your actual aid package. Also that any other apps you may have submitted will be withdrawn and any other rolling admits you may have received by that time are declined. They do not want you to weasel out of an ED commit because of its potential impact on future students who may wish to apply to that university and to the school’s reputation.


You don’t have to sign such a thing, not sure why you would actually. Also, nobody is going to enforce this if you are dumb enough to sign it.


You clearly have never gone through the college application process, or else your kids never applied ED.
DP
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 15:50     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:ED commitment, no. Our counselor will literally kill you.

RD commitment? Yes, you can back out. You just lose the deposit that's all.


Lol! Perhaps you should actually attend school. You mean you counselor would figuratively kill you. Or more likely just be upset with your decision.


DP here. Actually, about a decade ago Webster’s expanded the definition of the word “literally” to include how it’s commonly misused when speaking figuratively. So technically, PP didn’t misspeak.


+1

At least a DCUMer is trying to put their English degree to use. 🙂
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 15:48     Subject: Re:The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:Some years ago, three seniors accepted Williams at our school and all three backed out. I don't think they could get away with that these days, but literally no one has dared to apply to Williams since!


Of course they could "get away with it." Why not?
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 15:47     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If this is ED, it’s a serious breech. Counselors can withhold final transcripts.


That would be ridiculous and the height of jackassery to ruin a kid's future like that


Will you stop saying made up words like “jackassery” and “woke” on multiple threads. It’s annoying and makes you sounds like a rube.


DP. Perhaps you could stop using silly words like “rube” on multiple threads. It’s annoying and makes you sound like a jackass.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 15:45     Subject: Re:The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did this student recently get off the waitlist at the second college? I thought colleges understood that this happens and don’t hold it against the student. Though I suppose Princeton might be angry if you backed out to go to Yale, for example. But I think Boston College would understand if you backed out for Harvard or even Amherst, say.


Not if you committed to go to the first school ED. That’s the whole point of ED. It’s a commitment and they make you sign a statement saying as much.


And if admitted ED, the student should have pulled all other apps and therefore not even been on a waitlist elsewhere (if not immediately, then as soon as the FA package came through). Plus, if the waitlist school was the "dream school" why did OPs kid ED somewhere else? If your top choice doesn't have ED, or you get waitlisted/deferred EDI, you don't EDII somewhere else unless you're willing to go to that school and say goodbye to the "dream".
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 15:40     Subject: Re:The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:Did this student recently get off the waitlist at the second college? I thought colleges understood that this happens and don’t hold it against the student. Though I suppose Princeton might be angry if you backed out to go to Yale, for example. But I think Boston College would understand if you backed out for Harvard or even Amherst, say.


Not if you committed to go to the first school ED. That’s the whole point of ED. It’s a commitment and they make you sign a statement saying as much.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 15:20     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:If this was an ED admit they broke, that’s bad - including for the school. If it’s an RD - no one cares, including the school they turned down. There are deposits and waitlists for a reason, and that’s part of the process.

+1
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 15:05     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hoping the OP returns and tells us if the student applied ED or RD.


Me too, because that makes a big difference. At our private (not DMV) students and their parents must sign an agreement when applying ED stating they understand that being accepted ED means you are absolutely going to that school barring a complete disconnect between estimated cost and your actual aid package. Also that any other apps you may have submitted will be withdrawn and any other rolling admits you may have received by that time are declined. They do not want you to weasel out of an ED commit because of its potential impact on future students who may wish to apply to that university and to the school’s reputation.


You don’t have to sign such a thing, not sure why you would actually. Also, nobody is going to enforce this if you are dumb enough to sign it.


If you don’t sign it, your counselor won’t sign it. If your counselor won’t sign it or send your transcript or write your LOR, you will not be admitted.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 14:09     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hoping the OP returns and tells us if the student applied ED or RD.


Me too, because that makes a big difference. At our private (not DMV) students and their parents must sign an agreement when applying ED stating they understand that being accepted ED means you are absolutely going to that school barring a complete disconnect between estimated cost and your actual aid package. Also that any other apps you may have submitted will be withdrawn and any other rolling admits you may have received by that time are declined. They do not want you to weasel out of an ED commit because of its potential impact on future students who may wish to apply to that university and to the school’s reputation.


You don’t have to sign such a thing, not sure why you would actually. Also, nobody is going to enforce this if you are dumb enough to sign it.


You’ve obviously never been part of an ED commitment. Otherwise you’d know that yes you do sign such a thing.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 14:04     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Which parent would make their kid go to the school the kid had committed to if the kid subsequently got in somehow to their absolute dream school?
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 13:19     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hoping the OP returns and tells us if the student applied ED or RD.


Me too, because that makes a big difference. At our private (not DMV) students and their parents must sign an agreement when applying ED stating they understand that being accepted ED means you are absolutely going to that school barring a complete disconnect between estimated cost and your actual aid package. Also that any other apps you may have submitted will be withdrawn and any other rolling admits you may have received by that time are declined. They do not want you to weasel out of an ED commit because of its potential impact on future students who may wish to apply to that university and to the school’s reputation.


You don’t have to sign such a thing, not sure why you would actually. Also, nobody is going to enforce this if you are dumb enough to sign it.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 13:16     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
colleges have said on multiple podcasts that they dont actually blackball high schools bcs a kid in the past backed out of an ED. this is a myth.

Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 11:05     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:If you still have younger children who will attend the school that could be a problem for them/you when it is their turn to apply for colleges

I don't know if OP was just trolling, but it seems very unlikely, at this time of year, that this was about ED. And it only matters for ED.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 10:45     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If this is ED, it’s a serious breech. Counselors can withhold final transcripts.


That would be ridiculous and the height of jackassery to ruin a kid's future like that


Will you stop saying made up words like “jackassery” and “woke” on multiple threads. It’s annoying and makes you sounds like a rube.


Look at this munchkin making up words like "rube".

Please go to Merriam-Webster (m-w.com) and look up “jackassery” and then “rube.”


Thanks. I had decided that I wasn't going to say anything, but the rube basically made the point for me.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2025 10:35     Subject: The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment
If you still have younger children who will attend the school that could be a problem for them/you when it is their turn to apply for colleges