Anonymous wrote:You have to get the men who are recently divorced and ready to settle. It’s such a lightning in a bottle scenario.

My friend has a guy like this. His ex-wife ended the marriage for no decent reason and my friend scooped him up. She says he’s fit, smart, and thoughtful. They have a lot of s3x.

But he is a bit of a baby deer and lucky that my pretty and sharp friend scooped him up. She’s a catch and her ex melted down. Shes and her new(ish) man seem happy.

+1 if you find one of these be prepared to do more of the heavy lifting than if you stay married to a Type A successful but not nice person.

Anonymous wrote:I look like a GOD. Woman can stop themselves from talking to me.

Either your grammar suffers or nobody actually is looking at you.

I look like a GOD. Woman can stop themselves from talking to me.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 54 and if I were to enter the dating arena, I would want a man who was natural looking with normal wrinkles, greying or receding hair, and would expect him to have above average body fat like I do and most middle aged people I know.

So long as he engages in good hygiene and wears clean clothes, I'm just not concerned about all the vanity.

What puzzles me is that anybody could reach midlife without having grown to a point where CHARACTER is the first and foremost consideration in a partner.

As a woman I would never being able to orgasm with an overweight partner. I tried. Character won’t help me in bed

I cannot imagine getting into bed with a man without an excellent character at this stage of life. I'm truly puzzled by women who are still chasing dick(s) in their 50s and beyond, it seems very emotionally immature.

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Exactly men of low character are often the best in bed.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 54 and if I were to enter the dating arena, I would want a man who was natural looking with normal wrinkles, greying or receding hair, and would expect him to have above average body fat like I do and most middle aged people I know.

So long as he engages in good hygiene and wears clean clothes, I'm just not concerned about all the vanity.

What puzzles me is that anybody could reach midlife without having grown to a point where CHARACTER is the first and foremost consideration in a partner.

As a woman I would never being able to orgasm with an overweight partner. I tried. Character won’t help me in bed

I cannot imagine getting into bed with a man without an excellent character at this stage of life. I'm truly puzzled by women who are still chasing dick(s) in their 50s and beyond, it seems very emotionally immature.

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Original Post: This is BS. Not true at all. I need a slim man to have sex and orgasm if he’s overweight I won’t even touch him with a pole.

Honey, what you need is a grammar lesson. Try using a different sentence for each point.

For example, "I need a slim man to have sex and [to] orgasm. If he is overweight, I will not touch him".

NoVA Community College offers classes to help with basic grammar, and there are likely some slender men who would be your fellow students.

I went to an Ivy grad school. Sorry NVCC didn’t teach you idioms, here’s some basic google info on that for you:

The problem is the run-on, poorly written sentence in your original post. Your post is easier to read if each thought is a separate sentence.

Your community college may have some ivy on its buildings, but your writing does not support your claim of being an "Ivy grad school" graduate.

Well, you are still wrong. I went to an Ivy grad school as a foreign exchange student. You are right about my English not being perfect - I didn’t learn it until after age 21. That doesn’t prevent me from making over 500k/year in the US. I’m good with numbers, particular with noticing over 10 lbs on a man’s belly. It is much easier for men to stay in shape than it is for women. They have all that testosterone working for them. If he’s fat, it tells a lot about his overall goal setting, discipline, lifestyle, food habits and state of mind. It’s a huge sexual turn off when a guy is fat.
Let’s not pretend that the looks and physical shape don’t matter for women. It is one of the major reasons behind sexless marriages: as..le husbands, fat husbands etc.

Original Post: This is BS. Not true at all. I need a slim man to have sex and orgasm if he’s overweight I won’t even touch him with a pole.

Honey, what you need is a grammar lesson. Try using a different sentence for each point.

For example, "I need a slim man to have sex and [to] orgasm. If he is overweight, I will not touch him".

NoVA Community College offers classes to help with basic grammar, and there are likely some slender men who would be your fellow students.

I went to an Ivy grad school. Sorry NVCC didn’t teach you idioms, here’s some basic google info on that for you:

The problem is the run-on, poorly written sentence in your original post. Your post is easier to read if each thought is a separate sentence.

Your community college may have some ivy on its buildings, but your writing does not support your claim of being an "Ivy grad school" graduate.

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This is BS. Not true at all. I need a slim man to have sex and orgasm if he’s overweight I won’t even touch him with a pole.

Honey, what you need is a grammar lesson. Try using a different sentence for each point.

For example, "I need a slim man to have sex and [to] orgasm. If he is overweight, I will not touch him".

NoVA Community College offers classes to help with basic grammar, and there are likely some slender men who would be your fellow students.

I went to an Ivy grad school. Sorry NVCC didn’t teach you idioms, here’s some basic google info on that for you:

“The idiom "I wouldn't touch that with a ten-foot pole" means someone would not want to get near or be involved in something, often because it's considered dangerous, risky, or undesirable. It expresses a strong aversion or a desire to avoid something entirely. “

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 54 and if I were to enter the dating arena, I would want a man who was natural looking with normal wrinkles, greying or receding hair, and would expect him to have above average body fat like I do and most middle aged people I know.

So long as he engages in good hygiene and wears clean clothes, I'm just not concerned about all the vanity.

What puzzles me is that anybody could reach midlife without having grown to a point where CHARACTER is the first and foremost consideration in a partner.

As a woman I would never being able to orgasm with an overweight partner. I tried. Character won’t help me in bed

I cannot imagine getting into bed with a man without an excellent character at this stage of life. I'm truly puzzled by women who are still chasing dick(s) in their 50s and beyond, it seems very emotionally immature.

I didn’t say I ONLY need a slim body to O. I need both character /emotional intimacy and a hard body to be happy and satisfied

This is BS. Not true at all. I need a slim man to have sex and orgasm if he’s overweight I won’t even touch him with a pole.

Honey, what you need is a grammar lesson. Try using a different sentence for each point.

For example, "I need a slim man to have sex and [to] orgasm. If he is overweight, I will not touch him".

NoVA Community College offers classes to help with basic grammar, and there are likely some slender men who would be your fellow students.

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Anonymous wrote:Where are these men? Most men on OLD are not that attractive, usually don't take care of themselves, apparently never heard of botox, working out and coloring their hair - and we can tell! Don't they have some well intentioned people in their lives they can trust and who advise them to take care of themselves? What's with all the wrinkles and bellies?

So no fatties?

70.7% of men in the 45-64 age group are considered overweight or obese.

It's pretty similar for women, and across all age groups too:



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https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/overweight-obesity

Actually, there are 7% more fat men than women in 40-50s age group. It’s a very significant discrepancy ! No wonder so many women get a divorce in their 40s because they are no longer want to have sex with husbands
No wonder women complain here that men look ugly in 40-50s age bracket.

You assume that looks are equally important to women as they are to men. They're not.

In our current era, looks are very important to women for meeting a new partner. (Less for leaving a current spouse).

From getting that initial swipe right on a dating app, to showing off your partner on Instagram.

There are many high profile examples were this is not the case, but I doubt Bill Belichik's life is comparable to the men of DCUM.

Nah. It's height, social status, and money. If he's got that but he's overweight but not morbidly obese, women won't care about the weight.

This is BS. Not true at all. I need a slim man to have sex and orgasm if he’s overweight I won’t even touch him with a pole.

Nobody is asking you to use a pole. Well, I guess there are probably some pole-freaks out there. But I have to think they are a minority.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 54 and if I were to enter the dating arena, I would want a man who was natural looking with normal wrinkles, greying or receding hair, and would expect him to have above average body fat like I do and most middle aged people I know.

So long as he engages in good hygiene and wears clean clothes, I'm just not concerned about all the vanity.

What puzzles me is that anybody could reach midlife without having grown to a point where CHARACTER is the first and foremost consideration in a partner.

As a woman I would never being able to orgasm with an overweight partner. I tried. Character won’t help me in bed

I cannot imagine getting into bed with a man without an excellent character at this stage of life. I'm truly puzzled by women who are still chasing dick(s) in their 50s and beyond, it seems very emotionally immature.

I'm the one who made the comment about red flags and green flags. I don't think abused women should stay in contact any more than the minimum necessary to raise healthy children. For women who just didn't get along with their exes or found themselves no longer compatible with them, or even discovered their exes were cheating, I'd make more of an effort, especially if the couple had kids.

Anonymous wrote:I like the point about character but I have to admit that sexual chemistry matters. Maybe the right overweight partner would be ok, but it usually doesn't work out.

I prefer people who get along with their ex. "No contact" with ex is often a red flag not a green one.

Why? What’s their fault if their ex husband was abusive? I agree if no contact and you’re talking to a husband. He was probably abusive and ex wife needs to protect herself. No one goes no contact without a reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Where are these men? Most men on OLD are not that attractive, usually don't take care of themselves, apparently never heard of botox, working out and coloring their hair - and we can tell! Don't they have some well intentioned people in their lives they can trust and who advise them to take care of themselves? What's with all the wrinkles and bellies?

So no fatties?

70.7% of men in the 45-64 age group are considered overweight or obese.

It's pretty similar for women, and across all age groups too:



Source:
https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/overweight-obesity

Actually, there are 7% more fat men than women in 40-50s age group. It’s a very significant discrepancy ! No wonder so many women get a divorce in their 40s because they are no longer want to have sex with husbands
No wonder women complain here that men look ugly in 40-50s age bracket.

You assume that looks are equally important to women as they are to men. They're not.

In our current era, looks are very important to women for meeting a new partner. (Less for leaving a current spouse).

From getting that initial swipe right on a dating app, to showing off your partner on Instagram.

There are many high profile examples were this is not the case, but I doubt Bill Belichik's life is comparable to the men of DCUM.

Nah. It's height, social status, and money. If he's got that but he's overweight but not morbidly obese, women won't care about the weight.

This is BS. Not true at all. I need a slim man to have sex and orgasm if he’s overweight I won’t even touch him with a pole.

Unfortunately for me, many women are like you. Fortunately for me, more than a few are not.

I’m sure they are. But it’s best for your own heath to stay fit.