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Anonymous wrote:Make you a card? They’re 15, not 5. Get over yourself. You got dinner out for a dumb made up holiday.

This. Cannot believe people still fall for this gimmick marketing "holiday" or any similar to it.

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP’s family is lame. I have two juniors in high school. They each took an AP exam last week and one of them has 3 more this week, including a particularly difficult one today. Each of my kids made me a card. One has ADHD and probably only spent 1-2 minutes on it. She likes to write and really has a way with words, so I had asked to write something about me as a mother. Instead she made a card that said, “I love you more than words can say.” Lol, that’s just her. My other dd (the one with 3 APs this week and her prom on Friday) really likes to make cards and she’s known for making some pretty elaborate ones. She didn’t disappoint. My kids took turns feeding and walking the dog. I got to take a nap.

My children’s father and I are in the middle of getting divorced. I had told dd in advance what I wanted to eat on Mother’s Day. She coordinated with her dad and he ordered the food and delivered it to us and stayed for a family dinner. Even though we’re divorcing, he had texted me to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day earlier in the day. He also sent flowers, “from the kids.” I will make a nice Father’s Day for him too, because our kids deserve happy family memories and stress free holidays.

If my family can pull off a nice Mother’s Day, OP’s family can too.

You sound so cringe and lame and even managed to gratuitously brag about your family in a thread where the OP is upset about how she was treated.

Not surprised you’re getting a divorce to be honest, you’re such an insufferable hag. So tacky to ask your daughter to write something deep about you as a mother, and to tell them in advance what to eat. Go to a restaurant and everyone orders a meal to their liking.

If you have any compassion to your ex let him celebrate Father’s Day alone with his kids.

Jealously and bitterness is corrosive to your soul.

Anonymous wrote:Make you a card? They’re 15, not 5. Get over yourself. You got dinner out for a dumb made up holiday.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your DC love making cards? Since they are no longer in preschool or elementary that seems like an unrealistic expectation. You are lucky--and likely in the minority--that you got them for the past several years. Mine are 13 & 15 and it's been AGES since I got a handmade card.

Unless you are in an area where kids can do independent shopping/card purchase I don't think you can expect them to do something else without the support of another parent/adult.

It seems like your DH tried and did nice things, so if it's not exactly what you wanted why not tell him to "coach" DC.

Years ago we came up with the perfect (for me) mother's Day, a simple bfast that DH / kids make, small/fun or practical gifts, and just hanging out, a walk/hike if weather cooperates. Over the years, I think I figured out my favorite ways to celebrate and I've been honest.

I'd be happy if they planned to stay in and play games together. Or just make a simple meal and clean up after it.


I got to go to the grocery store, make all the food and clean all the mess. Again. Every day for the last 20 years. I also plan all the holidays, vacations, birthdays (including mine), then whe someone doesn't like it I'm the one they complain to.

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Anonymous wrote:Dh did nothing. Then when I asked if we had plans he said 'oh I was going to take you out for lunch', at a fast food restaurant. My 9 year old ran up stairs and scribbled a picture of flowers in 5 min. My 15 year old wasn't even out of bed yet. She then came down after hearing the conversation telling me that her and DH had discussed this all in advance. Then she put my card on my bathroom vanity telling me she had made it days ago. She didn't hand it to me, she just told me it was upstairs. I'm so sad.

Your elementary school kid drew you a picture, your high schooler bought a card and discussed taking you out to eat in advance with your husband, and you're . . . so sad? Having a Mother's Day card left for you to find when you wake up instead of pressed into your hand is enough to ruin the day? You seem like you're looking for a problem.

You misread the entire post. Good job.
1. I asked of anything was planned. Dh said 'no'
2. Dh says let's go out to eat at a crappy restaurant that you don't like.
3. I say no thanks.
4. Younger child goes up stairs and scribbles a card. (It was a nice gesture) and brings it to me 5 min later.
5. Older daughter comes downstairs after hearing everything and lies to me that she and her father planned everything in advance and that her younger sister made the card with her the day before.
6. I question reality and ask the younger one when she made the card. 'Just now' she says.

You're right I have nothing to be upset about. My family did nothing and lied to my face. Oh, and I got to make dinner for everyone and do all the clean up. They literally did nothing - except the younger one.

Not PP, but you're old enough to set your own expectations and announce what you want for that day. I do not expect anything from my family on Mother's Day, apart from my husband's flowers - because *he* loves flowers and therefore will always remember them, ha!!! I cook my favorite foods, and tell someone else to clean up, because it's how I want the day to go. We usually go for a nice walk. It's also how I celebrate my birthday!

I do not expect my teen and young adult to make cards - sometimes they do, sometimes they don't, if they do it's always last-minute. I don't expect them to remember on their own. We all have ADHD. At their age, I didn't remember either, and my father would give a last-minute gift to my mother (usually jewelry in her favorite colors).

Your teen lied to you because they sensed your disappointment. Stop expecting something they can't give, it's going to make everyone miserable, including yourself.

Maybe, but a lie is a lie. Dh lied too once the other one said 'we planned this yesterday'. Honestly it's not too much to ask for them to tell the truth. "I'm sorry. I didn't realize this would upset you. Please let me help with dinner." But I suppose you would this I'm expecting too much because I'm a woman and have feelings, which are only supposed to be positive. Honestly I've never forgot Christmas, Easter, valentines, birthdays Thanksgiving. Yet I'm suppose to live being a servant without thanks. I get it.

When you receive something from your children appreciating you on Mother’s Day say “thank you, I appreciate this.” What kind of emotional vampire focuses on the fact their children didn’t plan early enough? You are teaching your children to dread you and dread Mother’s Day. You are teaching your family not even to bother with gestures half way through the day because it is not good enough.

Where does it say I didn't say thank you? I think you are injecting your reactions here. I did say thank you. And quite frankly if DH treated me with an iota of respect I might not even care about mother's day. And as I said I'm working on that. I'd rather be alone than sad about this crap. Plus I do everything for the family anyway - he doesn't work, cook, clean, care for the kids. I suppose he drives them places sometimes. I still have to do the school runs around my work schedule while he does whatever he does all day.