Anonymous wrote:And he called me 14 times over the weekend without leaving a voicemail. I thought it was spam because he wasn't in my contacts and I don't take work calls on the weekend even if I did know.

He eventually texted me 3 huge multi-paragraphs texts on Sunday asking about his bid, other potential bids, how great he is etc. So, I blocked him.

Contractor reaches out to the coworker that gave him my number and asks whats up. She comes over to me today and asks why I'm 'ignoring' him. I ask her if she the one who gave him my personal cell and she says yes.

I tell her not to ever do that again as the guy interrupted my wife's birthday, my son's double header baseball game, my Mass on Sunday and just my general peace on the weekend.

She turns around and tells our boss that I'm not a team player.

She is 30, single, no kids, no pets, no hobbies, no nothing.
I have the clout to demand her firing.

Would you give this moron a second chance or do I teach her a life lesson?

Don’t be a jerk.

She is young.

Just have the boss explain to her why it was inappropriate.

Anonymous wrote:And he called me 14 times over the weekend without leaving a voicemail. I thought it was spam because he wasn't in my contacts and I don't take work calls on the weekend even if I did know.

He eventually texted me 3 huge multi-paragraphs texts on Sunday asking about his bid, other potential bids, how great he is etc. So, I blocked him.

Contractor reaches out to the coworker that gave him my number and asks whats up. She comes over to me today and asks why I'm 'ignoring' him. I ask her if she the one who gave him my personal cell and she says yes.

I tell her not to ever do that again as the guy interrupted my wife's birthday, my son's double header baseball game, my Mass on Sunday and just my general peace on the weekend.

She turns around and tells our boss that I'm not a team player.

She is 30, single, no kids, no pets, no hobbies, no nothing.
I have the clout to demand her firing.

Would you give this moron a second chance or do I teach her a life lesson?

I was in a similar situation when a coworker shared my phone number with a contractor who worked on the same projects. The contractor had to call me over the weekend to report on production issues. It wasn't the end of the world if they had stayed until Monday morning but I appreciated that the contractor cared about resolving issues.
I wouldn't report your coworker as her intent was not bad. I bet the intent of the contractor wasn't bad either. Some people are very serious about their work and do not realize that some other people clearly distinguish between personal and work hours.
Just stay chill and let the coworker know that she shouldn't do that again. No big deal.

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She is 30, single, no kids, no pets, no hobbies, no nothing.
I have the clout to demand her firing.

How do you know all of this about her? Or did you just assume? You sound bitter that she is a free single woman.

Yes, she was wrong in giving out your cell, but this issue seems way beyond the cell.

Anonymous wrote:Why does your coworker have your personal phone number? Only give out your work number, and turn it off and don’t look at it on the weekend.

There are coworkers who have my personal cell because we are friends or we do work on urgent stuff and occasionally connect that way. I also don't have a separate work cell phone.

IMO it's totally inappropriate to share someone's personal cell # with a 3rd party like that without asking. and the contractor needs some real talk too - totally inappropriate to contact someone nonstop like that.

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If you think you have the clout to get her fired... you're extremely stupid for wasting that "clout" on a nothingburger. Goodwill can evaporate quickly in an office setting, particularly when the favors asked are destructive instead of constructive.

If I were your superior, after listening to that story, I'd lose respect for you if you asked me to fire this woman. I would be willing, at your request, to upbraid her for sharing your private contact information, and for leveling empty accusations of not being a team player. She does sound weird. But you sound like an angry maniac, and that's worse for my work environment.

This exactly. I would not spend my capital on this issue.

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Anonymous wrote:If you would try to get her fired over this maybe you aren’t a team player?

Oh, you work 7 days a week? Take calls during church? Ignore your wife's birthday and you son's at bats? You sound like a great husband and father.

You sound like a jerk. Ignored your wife's birthday? Took calls at church? Missed your kids at bats? Yeah right. You didn't even answer the calls. If your kid was at bat you should have let the phone ring without checking the caller ID. Don't know why you would have your phone on at Church. You're over exaggerating

You sound really dumb.

Would you call your coworker 14 times on a Saturday to ask about the status of a bid? No, right?

The reason you answer no is that you understand people have lives; they have kids, kids' sports, church, elderly parents to check in on, milestone events like birthdays, weddings and funerals, etc., and you understand it is rude interrupt those. Right? Especially non Emegency admin stuff like "Did the status of the RFP we filed change in the last 16 hours?

Or were you arguing that it's OK to have a contractor haunt your weekend because they are so crappy that they live and die by every job? Then why would you keep them? Bad contractors are like being handede a toddler that juat crapped his pants with no diaper. You have to clean up everything and you don't get paid.

DP here. Stop it. You're digging yourself deeper, OP. You come across as completely unhinged. The contractor harassed you. That's not your coworker's fault. She made the mistake of giving out your phone number. That's not a fireable offense.

You really need to get some perspective and think about how your anger and lack of discernment impacts those around you.

I am not OP, but actually it is coworkers fault because she gave out personal information without consent. In many companies doing that and especially only giving it to ONE contractor would be a a fire-able offense.

+100.

For those that don't believe this, I dare you to blast your bosses cell phone number to all your vendors tomorrow.

Let us know how that works out for you!

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Anonymous wrote:I have the same thing happened at my work place. My now former colleague, person X, received a call on the weekend from a contractor, that another colleague, person Y, gave the contractor the phone number to reach person X. The contractor tried to reach person X five times and person X didn't pickup.

On the following monday meeting, person Y told the boss that she gave the contractor person X personal phone number because the proposal needed to be modified. Person X told the boss that he didn't want to be bothered on the weekend. Two days later, person X no longer worked there. I don't think he can find another job at the age of 59 in this economy.

That's wrongful termination and person X can sue the beejesus out of his employer. As well as sue person Y for tortious interference. Given you said he was 59, he likely has an age discrimination suit too.

Your company is full of morons. which makes you a moron.

I talked to the former colleague a few days ago, he is also a close friend, that seven different attorneys didn’t take his case because they didn’t think he could win. Companies can get rid of you for many reasons. It was a stupid thing for him to do at his age.

We believe you!!!

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Anonymous wrote:If you would try to get her fired over this maybe you aren’t a team player?

Oh, you work 7 days a week? Take calls during church? Ignore your wife's birthday and you son's at bats? You sound like a great husband and father.

You sound like a jerk. Ignored your wife's birthday? Took calls at church? Missed your kids at bats? Yeah right. You didn't even answer the calls. If your kid was at bat you should have let the phone ring without checking the caller ID. Don't know why you would have your phone on at Church. You're over exaggerating

You sound really dumb.

Would you call your coworker 14 times on a Saturday to ask about the status of a bid? No, right?

The reason you answer no is that you understand people have lives; they have kids, kids' sports, church, elderly parents to check in on, milestone events like birthdays, weddings and funerals, etc., and you understand it is rude interrupt those. Right? Especially non Emegency admin stuff like "Did the status of the RFP we filed change in the last 16 hours?

Or were you arguing that it's OK to have a contractor haunt your weekend because they are so crappy that they live and die by every job? Then why would you keep them? Bad contractors are like being handede a toddler that juat crapped his pants with no diaper. You have to clean up everything and you don't get paid.

DP here. Stop it. You're digging yourself deeper, OP. You come across as completely unhinged. The contractor harassed you. That's not your coworker's fault. She made the mistake of giving out your phone number. That's not a fireable offense.

You really need to get some perspective and think about how your anger and lack of discernment impacts those around you.

I am not OP, but actually it is coworkers fault because she gave out personal information without consent. In many companies doing that and especially only giving it to ONE contractor would be a a fire-able offense.

+100.

For those that don't believe this, I dare you to blast your bosses cell phone number to all your vendors tomorrow.

Let us know how that works out for you!

Anonymous wrote:OP I would not get the dumb witch fired, but I would get her formally reprimanded and a letter put in her permanent file.

No one will take that letter seriously because this is not that big of a deal. She made a mistake. Talk to her about it and move on. If you’re a team player.

Anonymous wrote:Why does your coworker have your personal phone number? Only give out your work number, and turn it off and don’t look at it on the weekend.

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OP, I tend to think you've made your point with your co-worker. And hopefully your boss is with it enough to understand that co-worker's reaction is ridiculous. I'd make a mental note that co-worker doesn't have the best judgement and move on.

this is the reason your co-worker is single and she needs to get laid.

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Anonymous wrote:I have the same thing happened at my work place. My now former colleague, person X, received a call on the weekend from a contractor, that another colleague, person Y, gave the contractor the phone number to reach person X. The contractor tried to reach person X five times and person X didn't pickup.

On the following monday meeting, person Y told the boss that she gave the contractor person X personal phone number because the proposal needed to be modified. Person X told the boss that he didn't want to be bothered on the weekend. Two days later, person X no longer worked there. I don't think he can find another job at the age of 59 in this economy.

That's wrongful termination and person X can sue the beejesus out of his employer. As well as sue person Y for tortious interference. Given you said he was 59, he likely has an age discrimination suit too.

Your company is full of morons. which makes you a moron.

I talked to the former colleague a few days ago, he is also a close friend, that seven different attorneys didn’t take his case because they didn’t think he could win. Companies can get rid of you for many reasons. It was a stupid thing for him to do at his age.

Why didn't you block the number after the first or second or third call?

Are you the decision maker for the contract? Then don't use that contractor and tell them this is why.

Anonymous wrote:How did this cause you to ignore your wife's birthday? You never answered the calls? And after the texts you blocked him. You sound like an idiot.

You can't read. He didn't say ignore. He said interrupt. Getting phone calls interrupts events even if you don't answer them - unless you are completely unaware of them. Since he didn't expect some guy to be calling him a dozen times, he didn't necessarily have his phone on mute.

Anonymous wrote:Talk with your boss and let him/her know it's inappropriate for a co-worker to give out your personal cell number to a contractor.

A contractor shouldn't be allowed to contact you directly on your personal device to promote their bid. That seems like a problem if other contractors don't also have the same opportunity.

I wouldn't go into the "not a team player" complaint or how it cut into your weekend.

This. I would also question why she gave out your information and why she gave it to one contractor. That doesn't seem professional at all and in some organizations coworker would be fired. It can also be an ethics violation. She gave out a coworker's personal information without their consent and in turn to help ONE contractor. I would question this coworkers judgement on all their work. What if roles were reversed and coworker was a male and OP was a female? What if female was harassed all weekend? This coworker does not understand boundaries and I am female!

Personally I would not pick this contractor, tell your boss to not pick the contractor. If this is how they interact it shows they are unprofessional.

My DH has a boss who got his personal cell even though he also has a work cell. She calls whenever and expects things done right away. It is so disruptive to our life that he is looking for a new job. He works many nights, occasional weekends, and travels, so when he is off we schedule things! Disrupting those days especially when it is not an emergency (9.9/10 when she says it is an emergency it actually is not) is stressful to all of us including my kids.