Anonymous wrote:Mine got let go from his job in January and has told me he never plans on working another W2 job again. He's 39. I'm torn, because he's not sitting around doing nothing, he's turned his side hustle into a full-time business which is great. I am trying my best to be supportive.

However, the household management load and care of our two young DCs (one with HFA) has never come close to being evenly distributed, even though I've always worked full time. I've had it up to here after many discussions and arguments that go nowhere. And with him not working right now yet still not stepping up more, I am seething with resentment, and it has cause a massive loss of respect.

I am glad he's motivated with his business, but I'm not letting go of the expectation that, for example, I can trust him to watch our 10-month old DD for longer than 15 minutes without being zoned out on Tik Tok and neglecting her.

If he finally steps up in this regard, I'll be OK with him not working a W2. But in our latest discussion today, I did not mince words and said our marriage cannot continue the way it's been, and gently outlined actionable steps I would be taking to stop enabling him. He knows I am dead serious, but complains that I expect too much. God forbid he wash some dishes or clean a bathroom once in a while. I am holding my ground. To be continued...

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Anonymous wrote:BTDT but long term unemployed DH has begun new men's apparel business off a contact he actually made on DCUM. The original business owner had to remove himself from the business and made DH an incredible offer and he is sooooo excited. He is VERY patriotic, loves America yada yada, and believes the timing is right for this fun, new item to really take off. Remaining hopeful!

Is this the “t-shirt as shorts” guy?

America is ready at last for this product! Your suffering has paid off.

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Anonymous wrote:Dump them.

I had a BF like this. He magically got and held a job after I left him and stopped paying for him.

If my H lost his job, I’d give him about 3 months before I’d issue the ultimatum that he needs to find a job or move out.

Yep. This is what happens when freeloaders are cut off.

Anonymous wrote:How old do you have to be and how much money do you have to have for this to be called “retirement,” not being a slacker? 50? 55? 65? Never?

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Anonymous wrote:BTDT but long term unemployed DH has begun new men's apparel business off a contact he actually made on DCUM. The original business owner had to remove himself from the business and made DH an incredible offer and he is sooooo excited. He is VERY patriotic, loves America yada yada, and believes the timing is right for this fun, new item to really take off. Remaining hopeful!

Is this the “t-shirt as shorts” guy?