Op, a huge amount of grandparents these days would not do what these neighbors did for you. You are entitled and insane.

You say thank you.

Actually you should see what you can do to say thank you. This was a favor they did for you. I hope you have a relationship with them otherwise.

Let it go. Don't ask them for a favor with your child ever again.

Lesson Learned.

Does your daughter know how to switch on a light,?

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Anonymous wrote:Hang on, your daughter who is 12 years old was scared of the dark or being alone?? I mean, I probably wouldn’t tease her but jeez.

Plenty of 12 year olds are scared or the dark and being on their own. She is totally normal. And him teasing her about it was probably a way to make her feel less scared in a weird way. No one did anything wrong but this is not a good arrangement and she is not ready to be on her own.

It wasn't dark. OP said her DD would be home alone for max 2 hours until going to the bus stop at 8. I wake up at 6, it's getting to be daylight. By 6:20, the time DD went to the neighbors, it's plenty light outside.

PPs need to stop saying it's normal for a 12 yo to be scared at home alone during the day, because it's really not. It means you've instilled in your DC there's something dangerous about it or that they can't handle it. The normal 12 yo is not scared. It's something you need to work on to increase independence, not just accept.

Snowflakes.
Thank neighbor. Don't use them for your schedule issues.
And no, most people who are not already in a favor exchanging neighbor relationship are NOT glad to "help a young family" at 6 am. And 12 is not that young except apparently emotionally.

The neighbor can't understand why a child her age is being overly coddled. Most of us can't.

Your DD needs to grow up a little. Of course you don't say anything to neighbors who did you a favor.

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Anonymous wrote:Everything aside this shouldn’t have happened bc it’s ridiculous to ask someone if your kid can come over at 6am and sit in their home for two hours.

No it’s not? I’m sure the people who say this kind of thing are also the posters complaining that raising kids today is so hard. Yeah, it’s hard for you because you’re insufferable. Most people aren’t and are glad to help young families. Go live in a cave.

The kid is 12, not 2. Not a young family.

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Anonymous wrote:They did you a favor. The man was trying to be funny in that old man way.

Yeah, grandpa humor is the worst.

My dad still flicks our ears and says "oh, a bug got ya!" and cackles b/c he thinks it's hilarious.

Or says things like "how much does it cost to buy pants without holes in them?" or to my DD "what medical condition causes you to wear a hoodie year round?" And the timeless favorite at Christmastime or when a birthday rolls around and I send over some ideas of what the kid wants: I could build/make that cheaper. "Give me a Sharpie and I'll make him 30 pairs of Jordans!"

My FIL lives with us and says stuff like this. My kids hate it!

Right and I’m sure they say and do things that he hates. Why do kids feel like everyone should bend to their wishes?

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. When I was 12 I was riding my pony alone on a strip mine miles from another human. Please help your kids grow up.

I'm sorry you had an impovrished childhood. Hope things are better now

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. When I was 12 I was riding my pony alone on a strip mine miles from another human. Please help your kids grow up.

What a load of crap. Just because you did this doesn't mean everyone is expected to be doing things like this. You are nuts.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you should say thank you, and bring them flowers.

It is ridiculous that your daughter gave you a full report of how each person spoke and her evaluation of the whole thing. Time to push her to be more independent.

People just love to go to extremes here.

Op I would also judge them for the way they treated her and I would never ask for a favor again. They may have really hated this favor you asked and not been honest enough to say it made them uncomfortable. The people chiding you about your daughter's discomfort are azzhats. They made her uncomfortable and that's lousy. I would judge them for it. I don't judge your daughter for being uncomfortable. Anyone like the poster above think it is weird for her to tell you this is insane. If they made her uncomfortable, listen to her and ignore the weirdos who live to attack posters here.

This is insane. When I was 12 I was riding my pony alone on a strip mine miles from another human. Please help your kids grow up.