Anonymous wrote:My mother still offers me her used bath water. We used to bathe in series- Mom, me, brother. Whatever. We weren’t any sicker back when we were less hygienic. And yes I wash my hands after using the toilet.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom would always lick her finger and use it to clean our faces.

I have never once done that to my kids.

came here to say this too. My mom wore dentures that I’m not sure were cleaned regularly (though I could be wrong) and she always cheered doublemint gum so her spit was sticky and stinky. I hated it. If I fought it, she’d grab my face and squeeze.

They also kept bacon grease in mugs ands empty cans. Mostly mugs. So many mugs of bacon grease that my stepfather wouldn’t let us throw away for some reason. Eventually my mom needed a long series of surgeries and my older sister came to help out. She and I cleaned the kitchen and boot did we hear about throwing away all that rancid years old bacon grease. 🤣🙄

Anonymous wrote:My mom would always lick her finger and use it to clean our faces.

I have never once done that to my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents did not wash their hands enough. Like they often prepared food or ate food with their hands without washing their hands first, and I only started doing this as an adult when I realized it was unsanitary. They did wash their hands after the bathroom, but otherwise were pretty loose with it.

We also wore shoes in the house and now that seems disgusting to me.

My dad would pick his teeth with a toothpick or sometimes with his fingernails after certain meals. But that I knew was gross -- my mom would give him a hard time about it and ask him to leave the table. Ironically, I have more sympathy for my dad about this now because I have similar teeth and have discovered in middle age that I am very prone to getting things stuck between my teeth during meals. But I excuse myself and take care of it in private, and also carry flossers in my purse for this purpose.

That's it though. I actually don't think this is is terrible. My parents both grew up quite poor, in huge families with minimal parenting. I grew up middle class and it's not surprising there were some manners deficits given their backgrounds. I actually think they did really well considering they really had to work at it. Moving up classes is challenging and requires a lot of attention to detail and and discipline. I didn't appreciate how much my parents had to do to transcend their backgrounds until I was much older.

My parents both grew up quite poor, too, but their parents made it clear that money/wealth had no bearing on manners. My grandmother lived in a house in Ireland with no running water but had impeccable manners. I've met billionaires who are incredibly gauche. I don't think there's a 1:1...

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up pretty WT. We actually lived in a 50ft trailer home on the outskirts of a small town. My stepdad was often drinking or drunk. On those nights, he and my mom were either fighting or f**king. On the nights they weren’t fighting the whole trailer home would rock and creak and you could hear skin slapping sometimes, etc. I’ve never told anyone about this. Lol.

This sounds like the beginning of a movie. 8 Mile, or something similar.

Anonymous wrote:My parents did not wash their hands enough. Like they often prepared food or ate food with their hands without washing their hands first, and I only started doing this as an adult when I realized it was unsanitary. They did wash their hands after the bathroom, but otherwise were pretty loose with it.

We also wore shoes in the house and now that seems disgusting to me.

My dad would pick his teeth with a toothpick or sometimes with his fingernails after certain meals. But that I knew was gross -- my mom would give him a hard time about it and ask him to leave the table. Ironically, I have more sympathy for my dad about this now because I have similar teeth and have discovered in middle age that I am very prone to getting things stuck between my teeth during meals. But I excuse myself and take care of it in private, and also carry flossers in my purse for this purpose.

That's it though. I actually don't think this is is terrible. My parents both grew up quite poor, in huge families with minimal parenting. I grew up middle class and it's not surprising there were some manners deficits given their backgrounds. I actually think they did really well considering they really had to work at it. Moving up classes is challenging and requires a lot of attention to detail and and discipline. I didn't appreciate how much my parents had to do to transcend their backgrounds until I was much older.

Anonymous wrote:My mom would always lick her finger and use it to clean our faces.

I have never once done that to my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom would burp often as she got older, most the time with an open mouth. Now DH is doing it and it's not attractive.

My mother thought farting was funny. And did not hesitate to do it, even at the dinner table. NOT cute.

I'm a woman and don't do it around company or at a dinner table, but farting is as natural as talking. You're the weird one.