Anonymous
04/09/2025 18:12
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Idk. My kid’s school just raised almost $20 million for a building project without a single donor having been named as of yet.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 18:07
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:The named donations actually has more psychological effect on driving more donations.
This.
It’s actually not for the recognition of the donors. It’s because studies show that the recognition prods the not-yet-donors to donate simply so that they won’t look like NON donors!
Particularly at private school, no one wants to look cheap like they didn’t contribute.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 17:46
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What are the cutoffs for the top tierAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At most private schools, it’s great that parents donate—it really helps support the school and promote diversity through financial aid. But one thing that’s always struck me as odd is that donations usually aren’t anonymous. In fact, it seems like some parents want the school to know when they’re giving a lot of money.
That’s led to a common impression that some people donate in hopes of getting special treatment for their kids. Even if that’s not really happening, just the idea of it can create a sense of unfairness.
If the main goal of donating is just to help the school, wouldn’t it make more sense for donations to be anonymous? That way, there’s less room for suspicion or favoritism.
Do some families like having their donations recognized because it gives them status, visibility, or influence within the school community? Is there a downside to anonymous donations I’m not seeing?
Your take is unnecessarily cynical and says more about you than about other donors.
Named donations drive more fundraising.
And also drive more favors.
OP’s post reads like someone who has to be convinced to donate a $100 to a school. We are consistently in the highest level of donating each year. (They create tiers like President’s Circle, Gold Circle) Trust me, we are not treated differently.
Probably $200
Attempt at humor? $50,000 and above.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 17:38
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
OP you might be missing the whole cohort who makes donations in memory of or as a tribute to someone? My kids happen to be at the school I graduated from. Out of my alum class, a few people have made large donations in their deceased parents names (one was a teacher at the school, one was a big volunteer, one went there years ago), my alum class pooled a donation for a beloved teacher who passed away, etc. Some families make large donations when their kids graduate. I don’t think it’s always as nefarious as you seem to think.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 17:27
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:The system is very corrupt. If you have a full tuition that covers all the cost including financial aid, there wouldn’t be any privileges. Very simple.
This is all in your imagination and you are just trying to stir the pot and cause division. I bet you don't even live here.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 17:25
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When you donate to charities there is the option to provide a fully anonymous donation. That’s not an option in private schools.
The point of visible donations to elicit more donations from everyone else is strange.
I think top Donors do get something in exchange for their donations, like a seat at the board or some perks not available to the rest. That’s why I think the system its a bit corrupt. A fully anonymous donation would be simpler and better.
The perks that matter are getting things like special letters during college admission from HOS or anyone else connected that could move the needle. This 100% happens.
No, it doesn't. If it happens at your school, you go to a crappy school (no matter its reputation).
Anonymous
04/09/2025 13:57
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:The system is very corrupt. If you have a full tuition that covers all the cost including financial aid, there wouldn’t be any privileges. Very simple.
Huh?!! Who would pay for the full tuition?
Anonymous
04/09/2025 13:38
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Was that 20 years ago? These days they would throw the food away because of allergies etc.Anonymous wrote:I remember one time when I donated prepared food for a 3rd grade luncheon in a public school, the administrator started treating us better. My whole intention was to my kids to have a good time eating a nutritious meal at school.
Could not stand loud PTA parents always kissing the adm’s *ss.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 13:21
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
The system is very corrupt. If you have a full tuition that covers all the cost including financial aid, there wouldn’t be any privileges. Very simple.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 13:07
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
I remember one time when I donated prepared food for a 3rd grade luncheon in a public school, the administrator started treating us better. My whole intention was to my kids to have a good time eating a nutritious meal at school.
Could not stand loud PTA parents always kissing the adm’s *ss.
Could not stand loud PTA parents always kissing the adm’s *ss.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 12:59
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When you donate to charities there is the option to provide a fully anonymous donation. That’s not an option in private schools.
The point of visible donations to elicit more donations from everyone else is strange.
I think top Donors do get something in exchange for their donations, like a seat at the board or some perks not available to the rest. That’s why I think the system its a bit corrupt. A fully anonymous donation would be simpler and better.
This is stupid logic. I’d love to donate $250K to my school but I can’t. If another parent can afford to make that donation, and the school makes her a board member or gives her special plaque, that’s fine with me. It’s not corruption because the alternative is we get nothing.
Why? People cannot donate anonymously?
You can. Just send in a check or do it from an anonymous fund. Happens all the time.
A check is not anonymous unless you obtain some sort of cashiers check
Anonymous
04/09/2025 12:57
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:When you donate to charities there is the option to provide a fully anonymous donation. That’s not an option in private schools.
The point of visible donations to elicit more donations from everyone else is strange.
I think top Donors do get something in exchange for their donations, like a seat at the board or some perks not available to the rest. That’s why I think the system its a bit corrupt. A fully anonymous donation would be simpler and better.
The perks that matter are getting things like special letters during college admission from HOS or anyone else connected that could move the needle. This 100% happens.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 08:57
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Same as in politics, anonymous limited donations do not generate any bias or privilege.
That’s why the us political system is so corrupt to begin with. And that is percolating to the rest of the society.
That’s why the us political system is so corrupt to begin with. And that is percolating to the rest of the society.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 08:55
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:In the same way donations greed the wheels of politics (ask Elon musk), donations in schools are done to achieve a wide array of benefits including prestige, influence school budget and priorities, and the recruitment of your favorite HOS candidates. Does anyone really think this is something honest at all?
How is this different from public schools where parents can volunteer to be presidents of the PTAs and donate to school board members to gain similar prestige and influence?
The alternative is to ban these practices at privates which will drive down donations. Schools will have to increase tuition to pay for the full cost of educating everyone, lower faculty’s salary, reduce the number and amounts of FA, cut back on upkeep of facilities or not build new ones, and reduce programming.
Ask families receiving FA which they would prefer. We are full-pay and donate modestly. I appreciate that wealthier families are contributing more to keep overall tuition down and ensure our teachers are well paid and trained. I don’t mind that these donors get something in exchange for their contributions. If I were that troubled by it, I would donate more to gain influence or switch to a different school.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 08:40
Subject: Anonymous School Donations?
Anonymous wrote:When a wealthy parent donates a large amount of money to a private school, the family may benefit in a number of indirect but meaningful ways. These aren’t usually part of any formal agreement, but they tend to happen in subtle, informal ways that are well understood within school communities.
One area where this can happen is in how the donor's child is treated. Families who give large donations may see advantages during the admissions process, with their children receiving a closer look or more favorable consideration. Once enrolled, these students might get placed in preferred classrooms or receive more leniency when disciplinary issues come up. While this isn’t guaranteed, it’s often perceived to be the case.
Wealthy donors also tend to gain influence and access. They may have a direct line to school leadership, such as the head of school or board members, and their concerns are often addressed more quickly. In some cases, they’re even invited to sit on advisory boards or committees, giving them a voice in how the school is run.
There’s also the social side of things. Major donors tend to gain prestige and visibility in the school community. Their names might appear on buildings, in programs, or be announced at school events. This visibility can translate into social capital among other parents, and sometimes into valuable networking opportunities.
Finally, large donations can create longer-term benefits. Some believe that influential families receive stronger letters of recommendation when it comes time for college applications. Others view these donations as part of a broader strategy to build a reputation in philanthropic or elite circles.
And in public schools, as someone pointed out, these benefits are all perceived to go to PTA board members. Though at our prior public I knew plenty of PTA board members whose kids got the bad teachers, so YMMV as to whether or not this actually happens. I bet YMMV in private too. Some HOS will absolutely set up this system, and others will not.
Why can't it also be true that donors are people who tend to be more involved, giving them more opportunity to drop comments in casual conversation that are not actually intended to be corrupt but help their kids? That these more involved parents are more social and therefore their kids indeed will get stronger letters of recommendation because their parents trained them well growing up? That a social kid from an involved family who gives a lot less would get at least most of the same benefits?
I really doubt the system is as simple as pay-to-play in 99.9% of the cases where it even works out this way.