Anonymous
03/20/2025 10:02
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just plug her stats into the CDC growth charts and you can see where she in relation to same age peers. If BMI is greater than 85th percentile she is considered overweight for her age.
BMI is no longer considered to be the standard of measurement. You do know the history of it, right?
DP. BMI is a useful, relevant tool used to establish a starting point for analysis and conversation. Everyone knows that. What point do you think you’re making, exactly?
My point is that BMI was created by Nazis during Concentration camps and is considered not an indicator of health:
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/265215
Anonymous
03/20/2025 10:00
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
Anonymous wrote:I gained a lot of weight after getting my period at 12.5. By 14, I was 5’5” and 145.
My mom never commented or pushed me toward losing weight. However, she started Weight Watchers that year and saw her lose 40+ pounds, making healthy food choices, taking lots of walks. I asked if I could follow along. That, plus joining an athletic conditioning class (to prepare for tryouts for a high school sport) helped me lose 20 lbs over the course of maybe 4 months.
I'm basically living this right now with my 14 year old. In the past 8 months, I've started an exercise program and changed my eating habits and lost about 15 pounds + gained a ton of strength. My daughter now joins me to exercise about once a week and is actively interested in the idea that building strength/physical condition is an important part of health. She has a long way to go to be in actually good shape, but I am really glad she's taking the first steps. In addition, she's cut out a lot of snacking and desserts. TBH, I am so attuned to disordered eating/calorie restricting in girls that I'm monitoring the eating stuff closely. I don't care what she weighs, I care that her body is strong and healthy and doesn't get in the way of doing fun things.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 09:55
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
Anonymous wrote:I gained a lot of weight after getting my period at 12.5. By 14, I was 5’5” and 145.
My mom never commented or pushed me toward losing weight. However, she started Weight Watchers that year and saw her lose 40+ pounds, making healthy food choices, taking lots of walks. I asked if I could follow along. That, plus joining an athletic conditioning class (to prepare for tryouts for a high school sport) helped me lose 20 lbs over the course of maybe 4 months.
I would be concerned if my teen lost 20 lbs in 4 months.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 09:51
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just plug her stats into the CDC growth charts and you can see where she in relation to same age peers. If BMI is greater than 85th percentile she is considered overweight for her age.
BMI is no longer considered to be the standard of measurement. You do know the history of it, right?
It’s a BMI percentile. If your teen is heavier than 85% of kids of their same age, height, and gender- chances are good they are overweight, whether you believe the metrics or not
Anonymous
03/20/2025 09:44
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
I gained a lot of weight after getting my period at 12.5. By 14, I was 5’5” and 145.
My mom never commented or pushed me toward losing weight. However, she started Weight Watchers that year and saw her lose 40+ pounds, making healthy food choices, taking lots of walks. I asked if I could follow along. That, plus joining an athletic conditioning class (to prepare for tryouts for a high school sport) helped me lose 20 lbs over the course of maybe 4 months.
My mom never commented or pushed me toward losing weight. However, she started Weight Watchers that year and saw her lose 40+ pounds, making healthy food choices, taking lots of walks. I asked if I could follow along. That, plus joining an athletic conditioning class (to prepare for tryouts for a high school sport) helped me lose 20 lbs over the course of maybe 4 months.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 09:30
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just plug her stats into the CDC growth charts and you can see where she in relation to same age peers. If BMI is greater than 85th percentile she is considered overweight for her age.
BMI is no longer considered to be the standard of measurement. You do know the history of it, right?
DP. BMI is a useful, relevant tool used to establish a starting point for analysis and conversation. Everyone knows that. What point do you think you’re making, exactly?
Anonymous
03/20/2025 09:23
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
My 12 year old DD is 5’2” and about 100. She’s very active. Soccer practice, three times a week.
My 13 year old son is 5’10” and is around 140. He’s very active too and plays volleyball 3-4 times a week.
They both eat a ton. Can’t keep up!!
My 13 year old son is 5’10” and is around 140. He’s very active too and plays volleyball 3-4 times a week.
They both eat a ton. Can’t keep up!!
Anonymous
03/20/2025 08:17
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
Anonymous wrote:Just plug her stats into the CDC growth charts and you can see where she in relation to same age peers. If BMI is greater than 85th percentile she is considered overweight for her age.
BMI is no longer considered to be the standard of measurement. You do know the history of it, right?
Anonymous
03/20/2025 08:15
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t know how much my teens weigh. I grew up with a weight-obsessed mother and it was not good for me. No scale in our house.
Both extremes are harmful. It’s weird to be so afraid of a scale and knowing how much you weigh.
Np. I don't think it is 'extreme' not to know what your daughter's weight. I hate that our society is so focused on this and they claim it's for 'health' but really it isn't. So much disordered eating
Anonymous
03/20/2025 08:10
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
Just plug her stats into the CDC growth charts and you can see where she in relation to same age peers. If BMI is greater than 85th percentile she is considered overweight for her age.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 08:06
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
Keep em coming! All very useful information.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 08:04
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
DD is turning 14 soon and she’s 5’ 8” and 120 lbs. Very active with sports.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 07:33
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
Anonymous wrote:There is not necessarily a "plateau" in weight the way there is in height, OP. But there is no point in comparing her to a girl who is 5'8 and 110 pounds because that is clearly not her body type. I never paid attention to my DD's weight but she was probably at her heaviest in 8th grade and sort of naturally slimmed down a bit in HS. She got her period at 12 but seemed ravenous throughout middle school.
I was around 5'4 and 120 when I got my period at 12, maintained that weight through HS, and now I'm over 50 and I'm at 120. As a teen, I ate a lot of junk and was not active at all. Now, I eat better and I'm moderately active. I do not have the same metabolism or body type as my DD. She's shorter and curvier, eats way less than I do and is just as active.
My mother is my height and thought I should weigh 100 or less because that's what she weighed as a teen - she did a lot of damage (I dropped to under 90 pounds in college). She also liked to compare me to my sister who was 5'9 and 110 pounds. Fun!
I'm so sorry this was your experience. Thank you for sharing. I am taking it to heart.
-OP
Anonymous
03/20/2025 07:05
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
There is not necessarily a "plateau" in weight the way there is in height, OP. But there is no point in comparing her to a girl who is 5'8 and 110 pounds because that is clearly not her body type. I never paid attention to my DD's weight but she was probably at her heaviest in 8th grade and sort of naturally slimmed down a bit in HS. She got her period at 12 but seemed ravenous throughout middle school.
I was around 5'4 and 120 when I got my period at 12, maintained that weight through HS, and now I'm over 50 and I'm at 120. As a teen, I ate a lot of junk and was not active at all. Now, I eat better and I'm moderately active. I do not have the same metabolism or body type as my DD. She's shorter and curvier, eats way less than I do and is just as active.
My mother is my height and thought I should weigh 100 or less because that's what she weighed as a teen - she did a lot of damage (I dropped to under 90 pounds in college). She also liked to compare me to my sister who was 5'9 and 110 pounds. Fun!
I was around 5'4 and 120 when I got my period at 12, maintained that weight through HS, and now I'm over 50 and I'm at 120. As a teen, I ate a lot of junk and was not active at all. Now, I eat better and I'm moderately active. I do not have the same metabolism or body type as my DD. She's shorter and curvier, eats way less than I do and is just as active.
My mother is my height and thought I should weigh 100 or less because that's what she weighed as a teen - she did a lot of damage (I dropped to under 90 pounds in college). She also liked to compare me to my sister who was 5'9 and 110 pounds. Fun!
Anonymous
03/19/2025 23:39
Subject: How much does your 14-year-old weigh?
Anonymous wrote:5'6 daughter at 100 pounds, super active in sports
That seems really low for that height.