Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do grown people feel the need to give in to the pressure of this made-up holiday? I understand why kids and teens do it. But I'm assuming you're an adult. If things aren't working in your relationship, if you're unhappy, speak up. Valentine's Day is just another day. If my marriage wasn't working I certainly wouldn't expect some gushy card or a present on VD. I have a good relationship and we looked at each other the other night and said that we dont plan to get each other anything. We show love every day. Dont need a special occasion.

It's not about giving in to pressure. It's a holiday that is a reminder to show appreciation to those we love. That's how we see it. There's no pressure.

Not PP but my husband and I show appreciation (and love) to each other daily. That means a lot more than someone doing it on a made up holiday, to me anyway.

Me, by choice.

I'm actually doing dinner with some girlfriends tonight because we had troubling scheduling a get together and this night ended up working for us because either we don't celebrate Valentine's Day, our spouses were out of town (one with kids, one for work), or other reasons.

My husband and I spend a lot of quality time together on a regular basis, and that means more to me than trying to do so once a year because someone said this was the day. I don't like roses, I don't like chocolates, and we buy each other things all the time when we want them. So there is no appeal to me to doing something on this particular day. Luckily my husband feels the same way.

My husband is out of town but I am
hoping he might send flowers. He hasn’t done anything for the last six or seven years, but somehow I always think that he might come through with flowers. I kind of feel
pathetic hoping for the doorbell to ring all day.

You are a couple, if one forgets then other should remember. In the end, its not about keeping scores or spending money or being creative to produce social media worthy content but enjoying the day together.

He thinks he’s checking off the “Valentine’s Day” box by tagging along with me on the night I planned, so he’s asked if he can spend the rest of the weekend hanging out with a buddy.

Meanwhile a colleague of mine flirts with me hardcore and I suspect got me something. Sigh. It’s hard not to start an affair when H puts in zero effort and this other guy pays SO much attention to me.

I know reality is colleague would also behave the same way in a relationship because that’s what men do. Once it’s locked down, no need to put in any effort. But still.

I'm an oncology nurse and today a patient sent us (5 nurses) a dozen roses and 2 boxes of chocolates and the note said we are all his best friends. It touched me right in the feels. I'm set for Valentine's day

Nope. We don't need a day to tell us to do what we do every day

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Anonymous wrote:
I took advantage of a "Valentine's Day offer" and bought myself stuff from Dior, then announced to my husband this afternoon that his gift was being delivered today. I will order sushi for tomorrow and we'll have a nice family dinner at home. He's relieved with this arrangement. It's been going on for years.

Life can be very simple if you make it so.

My god this soynds so pretentious!

I buy from Dior about once every 10 years, PP. I don't think I'm very pretentious. If you substitute your favorite thing you were planning to buy anyway, but take advantage of a little discount or bundle of services for Valentine's Day... is that really pretentious?

My fed husband is going on a job interview tomorrow evening. As far as I’m concerned, that’s the best gift I could have received.

Anonymous wrote:We exchange high-fives every year. I give him a card. We go out on another, less crowded day that we have designated “our” Valentine’s Day. I’m fine with it. Gifts aren’t my love language. I’d much rather have a budget that I can spend on myself.

Come to think of it, the diners out faded after kid 2. So really we high-five and I give him a card. I’m sorry if you don’t feel the same.

We exchange high-fives every year. I give him a card. We go out on another, less crowded day that we have designated “our” Valentine’s Day. I’m fine with it. Gifts aren’t my love language. I’d much rather have a budget that I can spend on myself.

Anonymous wrote:My husband does absolutely nothing — no gift, no card, no flowers, no dinner out. Just nothing. It really hurts, but I am
eventually getting sort of used to it.

My ex did this to me and it does hurt. I'm sorry. VDAY is sad for many.

Me. We don't do anything. There are flowers sometimes but I don't care. I'm on vacation without him right now anyway. He is amazing in many ways, V day is not something we care to celebrate.

My husband does absolutely nothing — no gift, no card, no flowers, no dinner out. Just nothing. It really hurts, but I am
eventually getting sort of used to it.

We don’t exchange gifts. Our tradition is to have a lunch date (fewer crowds than dinner).