Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Foster care is not going to take these kids.
Actually, there are boarding schools like the Milton Hershey school where parents sign over custody and kids live at the school for free, get college endowment, healthcare, live like kings basically. So the option exists. Infants- 16 admissions.
That being said, if neither parent wants them - look into Milton Hershey school or similar. It’s an option, and they encourage kids to visit parents frequently and maintain close relationship.
This isn't accurate. My old coworker had a child with ASD and bipolar disorder who couldn't live in the family home and there was absolutely nowhere that would take him residential--using insurance, or if she signed him over. Simply nowhere in the entire united states that would take him. She literally was forced to care for him until he turned 18.
This is a lie. Somewhere would take him or foster care.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Foster care is not going to take these kids.
Actually, there are boarding schools like the Milton Hershey school where parents sign over custody and kids live at the school for free, get college endowment, healthcare, live like kings basically. So the option exists. Infants- 16 admissions.
That being said, if neither parent wants them - look into Milton Hershey school or similar. It’s an option, and they encourage kids to visit parents frequently and maintain close relationship.
This isn't accurate. My old coworker had a child with ASD and bipolar disorder who couldn't live in the family home and there was absolutely nowhere that would take him residential--using insurance, or if she signed him over. Simply nowhere in the entire united states that would take him. She literally was forced to care for him until he turned 18.
Anonymous wrote:I remember this
https://www.sfgate.com/nation/article/Families-dump-teens-under-new-safe-haven-law-3267153.php
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why should Mom (or her Mom) be forced/guilted into/expected, etc to raise the kids.
Why not the Dad? Can court force dad to stick around? to be a 50% parent?
Dad likes to "pretend" he's a good dad to his out of town family and co-workers, but he's not
I think it’s ridiculous that a man can run off and abandon his responsibilities and no one really seems to blink, but when a mother voices thus, she is a terrible person. Frankly, they are both terrible and dads should be held more accountable for the commitments they have made. I look at moms with 3+ kids and I wonder what will happen when the dad suddenly decides he’s not into it anymore?
Nah- people do notice! But men are expected to pay child support and the mom is supposed to be the primary care giver (per society, not necessarily what should happen). Anything less and people talk. I know plenty of people who denigrate men who don't step up and do 50% care while divorced and/or don't pay child support.
Agree. I know I look down on every-other-weekend dads.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In 2019 Virginia had the lowest median child support payment in the Nation at $402.
Wow! That's wild. My bf pays $1509/month for his one DD. He had a high paying job when child support was calculated. He's since lost that job but doesn't want to get child support reevaluated because his ex has threatened if he does that, she'll move back to CA. My bf is absolutely terrified of flying and has tried several different meds to be able to fly. I've done a handful of short trips (<1hr) with him and his CBT, but he's bailed on all of them and never made it to takeoff.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Foster care is not going to take these kids.
Actually, there are boarding schools like the Milton Hershey school where parents sign over custody and kids live at the school for free, get college endowment, healthcare, live like kings basically. So the option exists. Infants- 16 admissions.
That being said, if neither parent wants them - look into Milton Hershey school or similar. It’s an option, and they encourage kids to visit parents frequently and maintain close relationship.
Anonymous wrote:In 2019 Virginia had the lowest median child support payment in the Nation at $402.