Anonymous
Post 02/04/2025 09:11     Subject: Is there an advocate that works on behalf of the parents in MCPS?

Anonymous wrote:I am so fed up with this county, my school and all the politics involved. Nobody seems concerned with putting the child's well being first, just throwing rules in my face.

My daughter has been bullied all year by a group of popular kids. She was formerly somewhat part of this group last year, albeit a bit of an outsider. She had a friend that she has known since birth that was in her inner circle for all of middle school and part of high school. This girl has now turned on her and the other friends in their group, and now with the help of a-hole boys, bully her.

I cannot and wiil not file a bullying report because I am in social circles with many of the parents of these kids. We asked for her to be switched out of a class that JUST started yesterday, because there are 3-4 people that are very mean to my daughter in the class.

They won't let us unless we file a bullying report! These are people at our place of worship, that I see at the grocery store, at sporting events that prob all think their kids would never do this. One of them is one of my good friends. For the sake of our friendship we agreed not to discuss the demise of our girls friendship. In the past when I have pointed anything out that her daughter has said or done, it gets ugly real fast. She thinks her kid is an angel.

So last week, my daughter overheard this group of kids laughing and making fun of her outside a classroom where she was taking a makeup test. She heard the whole thing, her name was used, they pointed inside the classroom. So there is no mistaking who they were talking about.

When she found out that several of these kids were in one of her classes this semester, she got upset and wants to be switched out. So now the counselor won't switch her, referred us to the AP who has a major attitude problem and was very detrimental in another situation last year. The AP told us she will do absolutely nothing unless we file a bullying report.

So yesterday I called the Superintendent. I might add that his secretary is wonderful and kind. She listened to the whole detailed story, was completely sympathetic, but told me we need to speak to our principal first.

Currently waiting for meeting with principal. On the back end, I'd like to line up help. I know in Elementary School there was some kind of county level advocate. So I'm wondering if that exists on the high school level?

Thanks



Have you tried this form :

https://ww2.montgomeryschoolsmd.org/departments/forms/detail.aspx?formNumber=270-8&catID=3&subCatId=14
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2025 16:32     Subject: Is there an advocate that works on behalf of the parents in MCPS?

This has to be a troll post.
Filing a bullying report would be a close second step to step one. Step one would be confronting the parents about their children's behavior.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2025 12:33     Subject: Is there an advocate that works on behalf of the parents in MCPS?


Is your concern that the parents will tell their kids, which will make it worse? You'd like to move your daughter without the kids knowing it because of them? (Because you're comment that you're friends with the parents doesn't make a lot of sense to most parents.)

If it's really about your own relationships, then you first contact these parents who you are apparently friends with. Let them know that a bully report is coming.

If it's that you think the bullying will get worse if the kids hear you are complaining, then go into the school, sit down with the counselor, and have that conversation. They may be sympathetic. (And frankly, if they think you'll be a persistent problem for them, they might switch the schedules just for their own convenience.)
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2025 12:11     Subject: Is there an advocate that works on behalf of the parents in MCPS?

You file the report. Paperwork matters. Otherwise parents all over would be requesting to move their kids to be with friends, away from a teacher they don't like etc etc.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2025 12:06     Subject: Is there an advocate that works on behalf of the parents in MCPS?

Anonymous wrote:Insane that you won't suffer social consequences on your own to protect your child. File the damn report.


+1 protect your kids, not your social life.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2025 10:24     Subject: Is there an advocate that works on behalf of the parents in MCPS?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is there no MCPS Ombudsman?


There is an ombudsman position within the BOE office, but it's vacant.


Taylor is a flacid disappointment


Taylor doesn't hire the ombudsman. That's the board's job.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2025 09:23     Subject: Is there an advocate that works on behalf of the parents in MCPS?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is there no MCPS Ombudsman?


There is an ombudsman position within the BOE office, but it's vacant.


Taylor is a flacid disappointment
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2025 09:21     Subject: Is there an advocate that works on behalf of the parents in MCPS?

Anonymous wrote:I am so fed up with this county, my school and all the politics involved. Nobody seems concerned with putting the child's well being first, just throwing rules in my face.

My daughter has been bullied all year by a group of popular kids. She was formerly somewhat part of this group last year, albeit a bit of an outsider. She had a friend that she has known since birth that was in her inner circle for all of middle school and part of high school. This girl has now turned on her and the other friends in their group, and now with the help of a-hole boys, bully her.

I cannot and wiil not file a bullying report because I am in social circles with many of the parents of these kids. We asked for her to be switched out of a class that JUST started yesterday, because there are 3-4 people that are very mean to my daughter in the class.

They won't let us unless we file a bullying report! These are people at our place of worship, that I see at the grocery store, at sporting events that prob all think their kids would never do this. One of them is one of my good friends. For the sake of our friendship we agreed not to discuss the demise of our girls friendship. In the past when I have pointed anything out that her daughter has said or done, it gets ugly real fast. She thinks her kid is an angel.

So last week, my daughter overheard this group of kids laughing and making fun of her outside a classroom where she was taking a makeup test. She heard the whole thing, her name was used, they pointed inside the classroom. So there is no mistaking who they were talking about.

When she found out that several of these kids were in one of her classes this semester, she got upset and wants to be switched out. So now the counselor won't switch her, referred us to the AP who has a major attitude problem and was very detrimental in another situation last year. The AP told us she will do absolutely nothing unless we file a bullying report.

So yesterday I called the Superintendent. I might add that his secretary is wonderful and kind. She listened to the whole detailed story, was completely sympathetic, but told me we need to speak to our principal first.

Currently waiting for meeting with principal. On the back end, I'd like to line up help. I know in Elementary School there was some kind of county level advocate. So I'm wondering if that exists on the high school level?

Thanks


Can't imagine throwing your child under the bus in order to maintain your social circles! Wow
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2025 16:40     Subject: Is there an advocate that works on behalf of the parents in MCPS?

Wow. What do you want the school to do if you can't fle a bullying report because you don't want to ruin your social life. Bullying report is first step. Think of your daughter instead of yourself.

And then come on here blaming the school for not doing enough. Be a responsible adult.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2025 13:35     Subject: Is there an advocate that works on behalf of the parents in MCPS?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The form is to protect the school system, thread posters! Wake up.


It also protects the parent because it's documentation of concerning behavior at the school, which obliges the school to follow-up on it. You can't be this unserious.


Exactly this. If Bullying is so bad in HS that I as a parent think a meeting with the principal is warranted then Yes I am filing the form and naming names. Because this would mean my HS has run out of the appropriate first steps(Asking/Telling people to stop their behavior, ignoring the folks in question because they’re not worth the energy and it’s not a big deal, talking with a counselor or trusted adult in the school).

Why should my child need to change classes because other people’s kids are being jerks? Inconvenience the folks who can’t behave, be kind, and respect the community. Change their classes.