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Anonymous wrote:DH "retired" early at 60 and is a sahd/house husband. He does some things well, but the cleaning and laundry are much to be desired. I still have to remind him when the laundry needs doing or how the toilet is disgusting and needs to be cleaned.

Sorry, but I don't find a man who wants to be a sahd all that appealing.

No woman is attracted to a SAHD.

This is as ridiculous as the thread saying that no men are attracted to brunettes. People are attracted to different people for all sorts of reasons. You are allowed to have your preferences, but that doesn’t mean that everyone else shares them.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve known multiple female lawyers where this just happened over time. Lawyer is making $350k as an associate and husband is making $100k at SAIC. They have the second kid and realize they are going to be paying $50k in childcare. Husband staying home is the obvious choice.

No it's not. Kids will be in school before you know it. Once a parent stays home with the kids, they rarely go back to work.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH "retired" early at 60 and is a sahd/house husband. He does some things well, but the cleaning and laundry are much to be desired. I still have to remind him when the laundry needs doing or how the toilet is disgusting and needs to be cleaned.

Sorry, but I don't find a man who wants to be a sahd all that appealing.

No woman is attracted to a SAHD.

How is a 60 year old retired man a SAHD?

I'm the PP married to that man.. we have an older HSer at home, and DH does all the shuttling around. DH has finally taken the responsibility of all the appointments for our DC (they have some SN so there are a lot of appts). Prior to him retiring, I managed every single medical appointments for all of our kids while I worked FT. He can barely deal with this one while not working.

It's annoying AF that I still have to somewhat manage him.

Next up: taxes. I did all the tax prep. DH was a contractor, but I still ended up doing all the taxes, again, while I worked FT. For this year, I told him where all the info is, and told him to deal with it. But, I might still have to check it because last time he did the taxes, he screwed up, and we had to pay penalties.

So, yea, agree with a PP. I'd rather he go back to work. At least then we have the money to outsource everything. I hinted that he should go back to work but I don't know if he will.

So, OP, really think about whether you want to have a ltr with a man who wants to be a house husband.

Anonymous wrote:DH "retired" early at 60 and is a sahd/house husband. He does some things well, but the cleaning and laundry are much to be desired. I still have to remind him when the laundry needs doing or how the toilet is disgusting and needs to be cleaned.

Sorry, but I don't find a man who wants to be a sahd all that appealing.

This. Agree so much! My husband quit job at the age of 50 when he was diagnosed with disease and had to go for infusions for a couple of months. We had a small child then. He stayed home and it was OK, as we otherwise would have to pay a lot for daycare. But now, after 15 years, he is working part-time but makes so much less. I hate if he cleans the house or cooks, because he is not too good at it. I truly wish he would just be one of those men, who stay at work all day long and bring a nice paycheck.

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to take a long look at a man who secretly hopes to become a house husband. Discuss the subject thoroughly, and make sure you're both on the same page.

My UMC friend and her DH both worked. They both had good jobs so they were UMC. He quit working and didn't bother looking for another job. By default he took care of their preschoolers. Then he filed for divorce after a few years, and he demanded alimony. The court system granted him alimony. She had to cut corners to make ends meet. She quit getting home insurance as her house was owned free and clear (it had been in her family for a long time). One day an electrical fire started and her house burned down. She lost all her material possessions. She lost her home.

Her ex screwed her over. I recount this as a cautionary tale.

uh her ex did not make her cancel insurance lol. Sounds like a dumb decision, your friend doesn’t sound very smart. Not the ex’s fault.

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Anonymous wrote:DH "retired" early at 60 and is a sahd/house husband. He does some things well, but the cleaning and laundry are much to be desired. I still have to remind him when the laundry needs doing or how the toilet is disgusting and needs to be cleaned.

Sorry, but I don't find a man who wants to be a sahd all that appealing.

No woman is attracted to a SAHD.

How is a 60 year old retired man a SAHD?

Anonymous wrote:DH "retired" early at 60 and is a sahd/house husband. He does some things well, but the cleaning and laundry are much to be desired. I still have to remind him when the laundry needs doing or how the toilet is disgusting and needs to be cleaned.

Sorry, but I don't find a man who wants to be a sahd all that appealing.

No woman is attracted to a SAHD.