Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 11:31     Subject: Non obvious signs of cheater
Anonymous wrote:Dear Lord. I swear there are just a handful of posters who are obsessed with cheating and cloud the entire Relationship Forum with that angle, all the time. If anyone does anything... it's cheating!


Go away cheater. Cheating is devastating.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 11:11     Subject: Non obvious signs of cheater
Generally providing too much information extraneous detail when lying. That’s a big tell.

My ex one time randomly sent me a photo of herself and a woman she was out with as “proof” it was a girl’s night. That was actually the first hint that something was wrong because until then I hadn’t suspected a thing and why would she feel the need to prove she was only out with a gal pal?
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 10:59     Subject: Non obvious signs of cheater
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dear Lord. I swear there are just a handful of posters who are obsessed with cheating and cloud the entire Relationship Forum with that angle, all the time. If anyone does anything... it's cheating!


And women cheat just as often as men but you rarerly hear about it.

You should check out the infidelity subs on Reddit and you’d quickly realize you’re wrong.


Cucked men aren’t generally processing their feelings on Reddit.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 10:29     Subject: Non obvious signs of cheater
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Trust me and trust yourself: If you’re asking, you likely already know what the answer is.

Everyone here talks about how crappy a wife is for using FindMy, but that’s exactly how I FoundMy husband cheating.

He had given me a story about running late from work (again) that just didn’t sit right. My intuition was setting off alarm bells so I looked. I actually posted about it here, that my husband was in a random parking lot, and everyone told me I was a crazy, possessive busy body, that no wonder he was sitting in a parking lot enjoying peace.

So for months I ignored what was likely happening right in front of me, thinking myself overbearing and intrusive, because a bunch of strangers on the internet said as much and shamed me. And so for months he continued cheating, until he got an STI and came clean. Thankfully I hadn’t caught it, but how stupid of me to listed to these idiots here.

Please, trust yourself gut, and do whatever you need to do, WITHOUT GUILT, to get to the bottom of things.


OMG! That is almost exactly my story. I was checking to make sure our child made it home on FindMy and noticed he was at an apartment complex. Called and he didn’t answer the phone. Texted - no response until 30 min later and I’m following his car out of the parking lot on the app while he is trying to convince me he was at the mall. Took another 3 months and him catching an STD. He couldn’t hide that.


A rando Tinder or ongoing with this person? Did u figure out who they were?


Random hook up that turned into getting together whenever the spouse went out of town. I know the apartment complex where they live but not who it is. I feel sorry for the other spouse not know their spouse is cheating and some stranger was having sex in their home.


Yes!!! What is with the rise of these women doing it in their marital homes. And, apartment? Like the neighbors are literally right there on all sides, across the hall. Everyone knows she’s banging dudes behind husband’s back and it just isn’t yours most definitely. The men love it because they don’t have to spend a single cent on a hotel room.


If you are having sex in your own bed, your FindMy shows up as you being at home. No questions are raised.

But I imagine with RTO, the frequency of this will diminish.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 09:50     Subject: Non obvious signs of cheater
He became extremely irrationally critical of me over shallow things that he had never cared about in our previous decade of marriage, such as how I looked, what hobbies I had, etc.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 04:07     Subject: Re:Non obvious signs of cheater
One clear sign imo is when your partner accuses you of cheating behaviors w/out any logical reasoning.

For example if he accuses you of possibly flirting w/someone when you are simply conversing w/them or is accusing you of being w/another person when they couldn’t reach you for a certain period of time. 💔
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2025 02:39     Subject: Non obvious signs of cheater
Is it genetic? Do parents raise cheaters? I would be so sad if one of my kids did this as an adult.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2025 23:10     Subject: Re:Non obvious signs of cheater
Anonymous wrote:Mine lost interest in spending time with our kids. 😢


That’s so sad. I’m sorry.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2025 23:10     Subject: Non obvious signs of cheater
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Trust me and trust yourself: If you’re asking, you likely already know what the answer is.

Everyone here talks about how crappy a wife is for using FindMy, but that’s exactly how I FoundMy husband cheating.

He had given me a story about running late from work (again) that just didn’t sit right. My intuition was setting off alarm bells so I looked. I actually posted about it here, that my husband was in a random parking lot, and everyone told me I was a crazy, possessive busy body, that no wonder he was sitting in a parking lot enjoying peace.

So for months I ignored what was likely happening right in front of me, thinking myself overbearing and intrusive, because a bunch of strangers on the internet said as much and shamed me. And so for months he continued cheating, until he got an STI and came clean. Thankfully I hadn’t caught it, but how stupid of me to listed to these idiots here.

Please, trust yourself gut, and do whatever you need to do, WITHOUT GUILT, to get to the bottom of things.


OMG! That is almost exactly my story. I was checking to make sure our child made it home on FindMy and noticed he was at an apartment complex. Called and he didn’t answer the phone. Texted - no response until 30 min later and I’m following his car out of the parking lot on the app while he is trying to convince me he was at the mall. Took another 3 months and him catching an STD. He couldn’t hide that.


A rando Tinder or ongoing with this person? Did u figure out who they were?


Random hook up that turned into getting together whenever the spouse went out of town. I know the apartment complex where they live but not who it is. I feel sorry for the other spouse not know their spouse is cheating and some stranger was having sex in their home.


You didn’t ask for a name or any other details?
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2025 23:09     Subject: Non obvious signs of cheater
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Trust me and trust yourself: If you’re asking, you likely already know what the answer is.

Everyone here talks about how crappy a wife is for using FindMy, but that’s exactly how I FoundMy husband cheating.

He had given me a story about running late from work (again) that just didn’t sit right. My intuition was setting off alarm bells so I looked. I actually posted about it here, that my husband was in a random parking lot, and everyone told me I was a crazy, possessive busy body, that no wonder he was sitting in a parking lot enjoying peace.

So for months I ignored what was likely happening right in front of me, thinking myself overbearing and intrusive, because a bunch of strangers on the internet said as much and shamed me. And so for months he continued cheating, until he got an STI and came clean. Thankfully I hadn’t caught it, but how stupid of me to listed to these idiots here.

Please, trust yourself gut, and do whatever you need to do, WITHOUT GUILT, to get to the bottom of things.


OMG! That is almost exactly my story. I was checking to make sure our child made it home on FindMy and noticed he was at an apartment complex. Called and he didn’t answer the phone. Texted - no response until 30 min later and I’m following his car out of the parking lot on the app while he is trying to convince me he was at the mall. Took another 3 months and him catching an STD. He couldn’t hide that.


A rando Tinder or ongoing with this person? Did u figure out who they were?


Random hook up that turned into getting together whenever the spouse went out of town. I know the apartment complex where they live but not who it is. I feel sorry for the other spouse not know their spouse is cheating and some stranger was having sex in their home.


Yes!!! What is with the rise of these women doing it in their marital homes. And, apartment? Like the neighbors are literally right there on all sides, across the hall. Everyone knows she’s banging dudes behind husband’s back and it just isn’t yours most definitely. The men love it because they don’t have to spend a single cent on a hotel room.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2025 20:39     Subject: Non obvious signs of cheater
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Trust me and trust yourself: If you’re asking, you likely already know what the answer is.

Everyone here talks about how crappy a wife is for using FindMy, but that’s exactly how I FoundMy husband cheating.

He had given me a story about running late from work (again) that just didn’t sit right. My intuition was setting off alarm bells so I looked. I actually posted about it here, that my husband was in a random parking lot, and everyone told me I was a crazy, possessive busy body, that no wonder he was sitting in a parking lot enjoying peace.

So for months I ignored what was likely happening right in front of me, thinking myself overbearing and intrusive, because a bunch of strangers on the internet said as much and shamed me. And so for months he continued cheating, until he got an STI and came clean. Thankfully I hadn’t caught it, but how stupid of me to listed to these idiots here.

Please, trust yourself gut, and do whatever you need to do, WITHOUT GUILT, to get to the bottom of things.


OMG! That is almost exactly my story. I was checking to make sure our child made it home on FindMy and noticed he was at an apartment complex. Called and he didn’t answer the phone. Texted - no response until 30 min later and I’m following his car out of the parking lot on the app while he is trying to convince me he was at the mall. Took another 3 months and him catching an STD. He couldn’t hide that.


A rando Tinder or ongoing with this person? Did u figure out who they were?


Random hook up that turned into getting together whenever the spouse went out of town. I know the apartment complex where they live but not who it is. I feel sorry for the other spouse not know their spouse is cheating and some stranger was having sex in their home.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2025 16:42     Subject: Non obvious signs of cheater
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Trust me and trust yourself: If you’re asking, you likely already know what the answer is.

Everyone here talks about how crappy a wife is for using FindMy, but that’s exactly how I FoundMy husband cheating.



Mine turned off FindMy. I bided my time until I was ready to confront several weeks later. Oh and I had been having dreams for months that he was cheating and I told him so.


This happened to me and I usually never remember dreams/dreaming !
I have always had vivid dreams but I would wake up crying from these dreams. He told me I was crazy. I was not crazy.


I woke up and immediately slapped him lmaof . The dream was that real
My body/mind knew long before me. He was like wtf mid-sleep


I also had dreams about cheating. The dream itself didn't turn out to be true in terms of how he was cheating, but he was cheating. I guess you can say that my body knew, but later having learned how he was cheating then I can really say that there were no signs. I still don't understand how my subconscious worked - did it know or was it just a coincidental fear of mine?

What do you mean? How *was* he cheating?
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2025 16:20     Subject: Re:Non obvious signs of cheater
Anonymous wrote:
His texts would be delivered in green bubbles and would go unanswered for a period of time, then replies would come in the usual blue bubble.


Green versus blue has nothing to do with cheating. It's what carrier you have.


Not true.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2025 15:20     Subject: Non obvious signs of cheater
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Trust me and trust yourself: If you’re asking, you likely already know what the answer is.

Everyone here talks about how crappy a wife is for using FindMy, but that’s exactly how I FoundMy husband cheating.



Mine turned off FindMy. I bided my time until I was ready to confront several weeks later. Oh and I had been having dreams for months that he was cheating and I told him so.


This happened to me and I usually never remember dreams/dreaming !
I have always had vivid dreams but I would wake up crying from these dreams. He told me I was crazy. I was not crazy.


I woke up and immediately slapped him lmaof . The dream was that real
My body/mind knew long before me. He was like wtf mid-sleep


I also had dreams about cheating. The dream itself didn't turn out to be true in terms of how he was cheating, but he was cheating. I guess you can say that my body knew, but later having learned how he was cheating then I can really say that there were no signs. I still don't understand how my subconscious worked - did it know or was it just a coincidental fear of mine?
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2025 15:06     Subject: Re:Non obvious signs of cheater
Mine lost interest in spending time with our kids. 😢