My husband has his own hamper & manages his own laundry & dry cleaning. If I notice his clothes in the washer I’ll move them to the dryer or fold them & leave the clean laundry for him to put away. When I wash towels, I collect from all bathrooms. Sheets I wash after kids strip beds & bring to laundry room. They remake with back up set immediately. Kids laundry they mostly do. They definitely fold and put it all away. If DH needs help running an errand like dry cleaning I’m happy to do it when I’m running errands but he usually does it.

Yes, I do everyone's laundry. But DH probably also does everyone's laundry about 30% of the time.

I used to do everyone's laundry once or twice a week. If my husband's stuff piled up in between, he'd do it himself. Now he tends to do his own, but sometimes I'll do his too.

When I was a SAHP with small kids, I did about 80% of the laundry. My spouse did some, mostly on the weekends. Now the teenagers do their own unless they are having a super busy week, like exam week. Spouse and I do about equal amounts. We both work FT. I WAH 100% and spouse goes into the office 4 days/week.

Agree OP’s DH generates an excessive amount of laundry. You can re-use a towel.

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Anonymous wrote:How much energy is wasted by all these separate washes? Do people do several small loads of white things rather than one big one?

I’m OP. Maybe you didn’t read that DH goes through 20 shirts (daily, workout, pajamas), 20 pairs of pants, socks, underwear, and 10-12 towels every week. In the winter there are also sweaters and sweatshirts.
He easily has 4 big loads of laundry. We aren’t doing tiny separate loads.

That's a disgusting amount of clothing he goes through. Why is he wearing 20 pairs of underwear a week? I understand changing them after your workout, then shower, but is he changing underwear multiple times a day? Why can't he use the same towel for a week straight? 10-12 towels is wild. Mine are still very clean after I use them... I also wear pajamas more than once.

Agree. That's an insane amount of clothes to go through in one week. Does he have OCD? Germaphobe? This isn't normal. I work out every day as well and don't generate anywhere near this amount of laundry. Perhaps if he cut it down to a normal amount laundry wouldn't be such an issue.

Anonymous wrote:I do all the family laundry. I feel like it's more efficient that way and uses less water/energy. I also put away my husband's laundry, along with mine, but have the kids do their own.TBH, I feel like it's part of being a SAH parent.

+1 SAHM here and I completely agree. I love my husband and he works hard. I would feel like a brat if I made him do his own laundry but I did everyone else’s. I guess info it out of love but also because it’s part of my job.

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Anonymous wrote:How much energy is wasted by all these separate washes? Do people do several small loads of white things rather than one big one?

I’m OP. Maybe you didn’t read that DH goes through 20 shirts (daily, workout, pajamas), 20 pairs of pants, socks, underwear, and 10-12 towels every week. In the winter there are also sweaters and sweatshirts.
He easily has 4 big loads of laundry. We aren’t doing tiny separate loads.

That's a disgusting amount of clothing he goes through. Why is he wearing 20 pairs of underwear a week? I understand changing them after your workout, then shower, but is he changing underwear multiple times a day? Why can't he use the same towel for a week straight? 10-12 towels is wild. Mine are still very clean after I use them... I also wear pajamas more than once.

This. Your husband is correct in theory, IMO, that a SAH should do the laundry BUT he is generating an insane and completely unnecessary quantity of laundry. Unless he wants to get his act together and not be so wasteful, he can deal with his ridiculous habits himself.

I am a SAHM and have always done my dh's laundry. I also always did my kids laundry. They do their own now that they are in college!

Anonymous wrote:Do you do your spouse’s laundry?

DH is all put out that he is the only person in the whole world with a SAH spouse who has to do his own laundry.
I think it’s normal.

Also, he exercises 3-4 days a week and refuses to use towels or wear jeans more than once, so he has a lot of laundry.

Yes I do my spouse’s laundry and I agree with your husband.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s so interesting to me how many people separate their laundry! I’m not SAH, I work full time but WFH a few days a week while my husband goes to the office every day, so I do a lot of the home chores, including laundry. I always do his laundry too, it would never occur to me to separate his out and make him do it himself. He goes to the gym every day so I guess it’s a lot of laundry, but it’s really not a big deal.

+1 agree. Seems weird to separate out his laundry.

Nobody is separating laundry out. We have four people. Everyone has a hamper in their closet.

Anonymous wrote:I do the laundry. I mean I never really thought about it. We just have a communal laundry basket. I am not separating out his clothes in order to not wash them. I just dump it all in there. I work full time though.

You never once thought that maybe your children and your husband should do laundry?

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Anonymous wrote:How much energy is wasted by all these separate washes? Do people do several small loads of white things rather than one big one?

I’m OP. Maybe you didn’t read that DH goes through 20 shirts (daily, workout, pajamas), 20 pairs of pants, socks, underwear, and 10-12 towels every week. In the winter there are also sweaters and sweatshirts.
He easily has 4 big loads of laundry. We aren’t doing tiny separate loads.

I weep for our environment.

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Anonymous wrote:Isn;t laundry part of the household management?

Not in our house

^^^ it’s part of personal responsibility.

Anonymous wrote:I wah ft and do all laundry. Yes, I think it's odd you exclude his!

You do your teenagers laundry?

Anonymous wrote:Isn;t laundry part of the household management?

Not in our house