Anonymous wrote:Several people mention marketing as not being a major. I don't understand this. Marketing is a major/concentration/focus in most undergrad business programs (and is increasingly data-focused).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have a good counselor? She might have a red flag somewhere or isn’t tailoring for fit to school?

Sara H is doing transfer application counseling now
https://shop.saraharberson.com/products/transfer-package

Or
Transfer goat is all over r/transfertoT25
https://transfergoat.com/

Get professional advice.

Anonymous wrote:Do you have a good counselor? She might have a red flag somewhere or isn’t tailoring for fit to school?

Sara H is doing transfer application counseling now
https://shop.saraharberson.com/products/transfer-package

Or
Transfer goat is all over r/transfertoT25
https://transfergoat.com/

Anonymous wrote:Long time lurker needing to vent. DD (20 years old, finishing her sophomore year) has applied to more competitive schools three times (two times as a college student one time as a high schooler) and gotten rejected all times. She’s currently at a private I never wanted her at in the first place.

Back in high school, she was a decent student (mostly B’s, a few A’s, not a good test taker) but not great, so I knew the Ivies and top-tier schools would be a stretch. But I thought for sure she could work her way up once in college. She’s poured her heart into her first two years at this lower place, taking challenging classes, getting decent grades, volunteering, clubs, etc.

Yet every single “higher” school she applied to has shot her down. Northeastern, Georgetown, UCLA, Tulane, UVA, Wake Forest, William and Mary, USC (dream school), UCSD, Irvine, UT Austin, UFlorida, Georgia, BostonU, BostonC, etc. She has one more chance to apply to transfer before she hits the credit limit that makes transferring impractical not to mention the additional semesters of tuition it would cost us. If this last try doesn’t work out, she’ll be stuck finishing at the same no-name place. This feels like the end of the road for her future possibilities, and I’m heartbroken, and honestly, kind of furious.

I understand maybe this is just “how it is,” but I see other kids in her high school class who breezed into brand-name colleges left and right. We spent thousands of dollars on tutoring, SAT prep, extracurricular camps, you name it. She’s a bright kid but apparently not bright enough for the pretentious and sadistic admissions committees.

Has anyone else gone through a situation like this? I’m trying to figure out if we have any last-ditch strategies, or if I just have to come to terms with the fact that my daughter may have to remain at a school that, in my heart, I believe is beneath her potential. I just want honest opinions and some glimmer of hope. Thanks for reading, everyone.

Anonymous wrote:Long time lurker needing to vent. DD (20 years old, finishing her sophomore year) has applied to more competitive schools three times (two times as a college student one time as a high schooler) and gotten rejected all times. She’s currently at a private I never wanted her at in the first place.

Back in high school, she was a decent student (mostly B’s, a few A’s, not a good test taker) but not great, so I knew the Ivies and top-tier schools would be a stretch. But I thought for sure she could work her way up once in college. She’s poured her heart into her first two years at this lower place, taking challenging classes, getting decent grades, volunteering, clubs, etc.

Yet every single “higher” school she applied to has shot her down. Northeastern, Georgetown, UCLA, Tulane, UVA, Wake Forest, William and Mary, USC (dream school), UCSD, Irvine, UT Austin, UFlorida, Georgia, BostonU, BostonC, etc. She has one more chance to apply to transfer before she hits the credit limit that makes transferring impractical not to mention the additional semesters of tuition it would cost us. If this last try doesn’t work out, she’ll be stuck finishing at the same no-name place. This feels like the end of the road for her future possibilities, and I’m heartbroken, and honestly, kind of furious.

I understand maybe this is just “how it is,” but I see other kids in her high school class who breezed into brand-name colleges left and right. We spent thousands of dollars on tutoring, SAT prep, extracurricular camps, you name it. She’s a bright kid but apparently not bright enough for the pretentious and sadistic admissions committees.

Has anyone else gone through a situation like this? I’m trying to figure out if we have any last-ditch strategies, or if I just have to come to terms with the fact that my daughter may have to remain at a school that, in my heart, I believe is beneath her potential. I just want honest opinions and some glimmer of hope. Thanks for reading, everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:This feels like an average athlete striving to go pro… I also note the psychological game here. She concedes the girl is not HPYSM material but then makes it sound reasonable to frame her as Georgetown level. The truth is that Georgetown level is basically the same as HYPSM, maybe slightly less but not really since half or more of HYPSM is there for sports, diversity or wealth. Her daughter is nowhere close to any of this. By definition not everyone can be above average, let alone exceptional!

Exactly. OP (if they’re not a troll) had the audacity to name Ivies as a reach when they weren’t even in the stratosphere. The real reaches were UGA, W&M, UF, Tulane, etc. OP’s mistake was not having decent targets and safeties.

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Anonymous wrote:- I know you don’t want to doxx your daughter, but could you find an equivalent school (maybe by using the Niche.com equivalent school list) so we can tell what kind of private college you’re talking about. If it’s a school like Hollins or Goucher, for example, and you can afford it, learn to love the one you’re with.

- If the school is truly the no-name Jesuit school down the street: I still think your daughter would be better learning to love it than trying to transfer. I think that most of the value people get from selective private schools comes from the freshman dorm. Moving to a a second private college after the first eight weeks might make sense if the original school is closing down, or if a student hates the first school or needs resources available only at the second school, but the second school will never really be a perfect networking home. I think a typical student will get a lot more networking value from sticking with a place like Hollins, Goucher or Creighton for four years than from moving to Tulane from Creighton for the sake of prestige. And, for any student at a school below about the top 30, getting good grades, having good activities and having good recommendations matters a lot more than the name of the college. Hardly anyone away from DCUM knows much about colleges other than HYPSM, the nearest big public universities and a few schools with good football teams. Knowing what Oberlin is, for example, is pretty weird.

What school does this refer to?

Anonymous wrote:This feels like an average athlete striving to go pro… I also note the psychological game here. She concedes the girl is not HPYSM material but then makes it sound reasonable to frame her as Georgetown level. The truth is that Georgetown level is basically the same as HYPSM, maybe slightly less but not really since half or more of HYPSM is there for sports, diversity or wealth. Her daughter is nowhere close to any of this. By definition not everyone can be above average, let alone exceptional!

Anonymous wrote:- I know you don’t want to doxx your daughter, but could you find an equivalent school (maybe by using the Niche.com equivalent school list) so we can tell what kind of private college you’re talking about. If it’s a school like Hollins or Goucher, for example, and you can afford it, learn to love the one you’re with.

- If the school is truly the no-name Jesuit school down the street: I still think your daughter would be better learning to love it than trying to transfer. I think that most of the value people get from selective private schools comes from the freshman dorm. Moving to a a second private college after the first eight weeks might make sense if the original school is closing down, or if a student hates the first school or needs resources available only at the second school, but the second school will never really be a perfect networking home. I think a typical student will get a lot more networking value from sticking with a place like Hollins, Goucher or Creighton for four years than from moving to Tulane from Creighton for the sake of prestige. And, for any student at a school below about the top 30, getting good grades, having good activities and having good recommendations matters a lot more than the name of the college. Hardly anyone away from DCUM knows much about colleges other than HYPSM, the nearest big public universities and a few schools with good football teams. Knowing what Oberlin is, for example, is pretty weird.