Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Connected with someone on a dating app. Talked about meeting in person and he asked if I have a car since he doesn't have one, because he just moved here from overseas
The area he lives in isn't really walkable. I don't know how anyone could live there without a car. I understand he's brand new in town, but who'd go out on dates before even settling down?
Maybe I'm being judgy or overthinking, but this starts to feel odd to me. I don't want a stranger in my car.
Anyone has run into the same issue?

I wouldn't even go on the date, OP.

Neither would I!!
Your safety could be at risk.

Also this guy should get more settled in before venturing out on dates imo.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want to give positive examples here of dates with men who didn’t drive. One was very attractive, 2 years younger than me and a director at tech company. He worked remote, and was very pro environmental. Only biked around, living in Arlington.
The second was a lawyer with a rare eye decease .
None of them asked for rides; both took me on really nice first dates

The difference is that OP’s date lives in a place where a car is needed.

DP. While I still think OP needs to tell the guy to meet her, and should not give him rides:

I'd note that one person's idea of "a car is essential in this place!" is not necessarily how another person might view the same location.

My Dh is from another country, and has lived in places I, as a car-centric American, might think of as places where I'd need a car. But he and others from there would shrug and say, I can manage fine on public transportation. He's also lived in places in the US where I'd want a car, but he would say, no real need. So I take with a grain of salt OP's assertion that the guy "needs" a car. But still -- he shouldn't be asking for rides and she shouldn't give him one. He's a stranger.