Anonymous wrote:Your decision to divorce should be independent from your consideration of what else is out there.

Yep.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

I’m dying to see the online profile of this poster who always brags about looking better than 30 yo !

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Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine just snagged a divorced man who owns his own company and has hundreds of million in net worth. One kid who is out of college and not very present in his life (she’s happy about this). He is in his early 50s, very fit and active, and is engaging and fun. The “catch” is he is Indian, short, and bald. My friend doesn’t mind - he is spoiling her to the moon and she’s desperate to have kids, and with him she is set financially for life. But I think a lot of American women in this demographic on DCUM may rule him out due to his ethnicity and/or looks. So depends on how picky you are I suppose!

Did he propose or they are just dating ? I dated couple Indian men of this type: they were extremely conservative and relied on their moms’ and friends’ opinions about who they should marry.

They are getting married. He exited a traditional Indian arranged marriage and definitely did not want that again. And he is not conservative.

What’s the age difference?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all.

Anonymous wrote:Late thirties childless is not the same as late thirties childless but wants a kid... That is a much bigger ask because you need a guy who also wants kids, and is presumably your age. Most men by their late thirties either don't want kids or already have them. So yes, slim pickings. If you really want a kid you may want to explore alternatives that don't require a man. I wouldn't suggest having one with your current husband since you sound miserable.

I do agree it will be slim pickings if you want a childless man who wants children. By late thirties, these men will already have children. The divorced men who already have kids may not want more children.

We are in our forties and our divorced male friends have dated women in mid-late thirties. One married a woman in her late thirties. I assume they are trying for a child. He already has 2 from prior marriage. Another divorced dad we know married a late thirties women and they had a baby right away. They ended up divorced so now he has 3 kids and divorced twice. Another single dad we know dated a woman for a few years and told her he didn’t want to remarry and have more kids. They broke up.

A single man in his mid late thirties may opt for the younger 28 year old vs the 38 year old divorced version.

There is a big difference between 35 and 39. I have a friend who got divorced at 35 and dated a ton. There was no shortage of men who wanted to date her. She met a fellow childless divorced man and she got remarried at 39. They both wanted to have kids but she did not get pregnant. He decided he did not want to go through fertility treatments and they got divorced. I think they rushed into the marriage because of her age. Maybe if she got pregnant right away, things may have turned out differently for her.

I am in my mid forties. I have friends in their forties who can date easily. They already have children and don’t want or are too old to have more children.

Your problem is your age. You need to find someone who wants to get married and have a kid right away. It is possible.

Late 30s women even if very attractive are not that big of a catch unless the man is older. Of course they would be a catch to guys over 45. Guys in their late 30s who are a decent catch can go after women in their early 30s who are ready to settle down and want a guy who is also ready to settle down and probably much more financially advanced in their career than guys their own age.

Late thirties childless is not the same as late thirties childless but wants a kid... That is a much bigger ask because you need a guy who also wants kids, and is presumably your age. Most men by their late thirties either don't want kids or already have them. So yes, slim pickings. If you really want a kid you may want to explore alternatives that don't require a man. I wouldn't suggest having one with your current husband since you sound miserable.

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Anonymous wrote:Your decision to divorce should be independent from your consideration of what else is out there.

My cousin is a 10. Her mom modeled. Cousin is a knockout. She’s not in the DMV, but she got divorced in her 40s. She gets dates all the time, but can’t find a decent guy. She’d tell you to consider divorce assuming you’ll never get married again. The best ones are usually taken by now.

Sorry, but a 10 woman is one of a 5 million people. Brook Shields, Adriana Lima, Jennifer Connelly. She surely doesn't have the looks of these women.

Anonymous wrote:Your decision to divorce should be independent from your consideration of what else is out there.

My cousin is a 10. Her mom modeled. Cousin is a knockout. She’s not in the DMV, but she got divorced in her 40s. She gets dates all the time, but can’t find a decent guy. She’d tell you to consider divorce assuming you’ll never get married again. The best ones are usually taken by now.

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Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine just snagged a divorced man who owns his own company and has hundreds of million in net worth. One kid who is out of college and not very present in his life (she’s happy about this). He is in his early 50s, very fit and active, and is engaging and fun. The “catch” is he is Indian, short, and bald. My friend doesn’t mind - he is spoiling her to the moon and she’s desperate to have kids, and with him she is set financially for life. But I think a lot of American women in this demographic on DCUM may rule him out due to his ethnicity and/or looks. So depends on how picky you are I suppose!

Did he propose or they are just dating ? I dated couple Indian men of this type: they were extremely conservative and relied on their moms’ and friends’ opinions about who they should marry.

They are getting married. He exited a traditional Indian arranged marriage and definitely did not want that again. And he is not conservative.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.

I guess congrats. For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children? Are you paying for everything?

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them.

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do women who opt for plastic surgery past a certain age opt for enhancement that make them appear younger? I think there are more women insecure about their appearance as they age compared to men.

Of course, because it’s the women who give birth and then need their tummies or tits surgically fixed. I have small breast implants and I did it for myself, to get them to pre-pregnancy shape, not for men.

I will just add that most dads, husbands, boyfriends will not stop finding their wives/baby mamas less attractive after they gave them children. I workout 5 days a week and lift very heavy. However at 56 my body still shows signs of aging and that's okay. If I were into younger women I highly doubt they would find my wrinkly pouch or wrinkly balls attractive. People who are endlessly shallow are not partners anyone wants to be involved with anyways.

Anonymous wrote:Why do women who opt for plastic surgery past a certain age opt for enhancement that make them appear younger? I think there are more women insecure about their appearance as they age compared to men.

Of course, because it’s the women who give birth and then need their tummies or tits surgically fixed. I have small breast implants and I did it for myself, to get them to pre-pregnancy shape, not for men.

Anonymous wrote:Spouses are boring. Birth or adopt a child on your own -- you will never be bored.

--SMC, 49, adopted my daughter at 37 and never missed a beat on the dating scene wanted I to date.

Spouses are not boring, but if you want to chase your slut factors into your old age, have at it. Sorry no one wanted to marry you.