Anonymous wrote:I would never do something just to piss off my spouse.

I also would never do an adult’s laundry. Why do you treat him like a child?

But he's working to earn money yo support our family! That's not fair!

If yourl can't grow up, just divorce instead of ruining your life.

OP, you shouldn't be working, pregnant, and doing all the cooking and laundry for a family.

Go buy yourself a push present and drop the laundry and cooking, except for the kids.

Also, sign up for regular childcare if you possibly can. I know it's hard around DC to find part time options but it sounds like the place you use now may be open to it.

And she’s an idiot. Doing this may make her feel better for a few minutes. But it doesn’t get her what she wants, does it? She is still stuck in the same situation. Not too bright, this one.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I threw out my husbands favorite running shoes and his toothbrush on Tuesday (trash day) because he was mean to me in the morning about forgetting one of his agreed upon weekly chores that I reminded him of (to see if i would need to do it as default) and he bit my head off and stormed off to work.

No regrets. Married 16 years and I hope a lot more. He hasn’t asked about either item yet hahah

You sound 12 years old.

I have no remorse. I instantly feel better and it absolves the need for ongoing fights and hard feelings. I’ll do it again.
He still hasn’t asked about that stuff btw.

You threw out your husbands shoes because he was mean to you? And you have no remorse? My children have a better moral compass than you do.

My dog has a better one. She's horrid.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I threw out my husbands favorite running shoes and his toothbrush on Tuesday (trash day) because he was mean to me in the morning about forgetting one of his agreed upon weekly chores that I reminded him of (to see if i would need to do it as default) and he bit my head off and stormed off to work.

No regrets. Married 16 years and I hope a lot more. He hasn’t asked about either item yet hahah

You sound 12 years old.

I have no remorse. I instantly feel better and it absolves the need for ongoing fights and hard feelings. I’ll do it again.
He still hasn’t asked about that stuff btw.

You threw out your husbands shoes because he was mean to you? And you have no remorse? My children have a better moral compass than you do.

Yeah, no, don't do that because it's making you look like the bad guy.

I know it's very unfair, but when one spouse doesn't pull their weight in the relationship, the other has to act like the adult: explain why the situation is not working, propose solutions and decide on a graduated series of *rational* consequences if the other person doesn't follow-through.

Hiding underwear is not on the list. You can say explain that his lack of attention and planning are stressing you out and you can't do his laundry, his meals or lift a finger for him, on top of all the worries you have.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I threw out my husbands favorite running shoes and his toothbrush on Tuesday (trash day) because he was mean to me in the morning about forgetting one of his agreed upon weekly chores that I reminded him of (to see if i would need to do it as default) and he bit my head off and stormed off to work.

No regrets. Married 16 years and I hope a lot more. He hasn’t asked about either item yet hahah

You sound 12 years old.

I have no remorse. I instantly feel better and it absolves the need for ongoing fights and hard feelings. I’ll do it again.
He still hasn’t asked about that stuff btw.

You should have an abortion and not tell him.

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Anonymous wrote:How does OP work FT with only 4 days of daycare per month?

Because her child is in preschool for 3 days. Plenty of people work ft from home without ANY childcare. I know it’s a big deal on here but there are people who can’t pay for childcare because they work lowering paying jobs. It’s normal in health insurance work from home jobs. Plenty of my neighbors do it and they have good IT jobs. Some people make it work with no childcare or half day.

It’s it’s so easy and normal, why is she having such a fit about backup childcare? None of this makes sense. What did these people do for childcare before 2020?

Anonymous wrote:1. Hide his toothbrush
2. Hide his car keys
3. Flatten his tire. Do it twice.
4. Add ingredient to his food that’ll make it nasty.
5. Put pebble in his shoe
6. Place small object underneath sheets on his side of bed
7. Pretend to forget his name
8. Break a glass where he might step on it

I mean, if you are going to be mean, be mean.
1) drop his toothbrush in the toilet ... then put it back.
2) Throw the car keys as far as you can into the back yard.
3) Put a nail in front of each of his tires so he drives over them and hopefully gets at lest one slow leak, hopefully all 4
4) If he's allergic to nuts add peanuts to his lunch (hide the epi-pen!)
5) put a hornet in each shoe, then shake the shoe before giving it to spouse to put on.
6) Put legos blocks on his side of the bed after he falls asleep so he steps on them when he wakes.
7) Call him another name while having sex.
8) break the neck of a wine bottle and slash him.

WTF.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s misusing. They have the benefits so use it. If the daycare had a problem with it then they will let them know. A reason could simply be you don’t have childcare coverage because your spouse needs a break, medical leave etc. They make the deal with care.com and pay an annual fee for this benefits to be given to employees. It’s a way to make the company family friendly.

It's a backup child are benefit. Under the terms, you may be expected to have childcare to begin with, and it's for when that falls thru due to closure, illness, etc. Not that you're too cheap to pay for FT care and you're piecing together various backup days.

Yeah whatever. It’s there for a reason. No one is investigating what she’s doing for her care.com benefit. It’s not the same as a expense credit card. She’s paying a co pay for each day they use daycare. Some people don’t have childcare and use it only for meetings at my work. Employers give it for all sorts of reasons.

Anonymous wrote:How does OP work FT with only 4 days of daycare per month?

Because her child is in preschool for 3 days. Plenty of people work ft from home without ANY childcare. I know it’s a big deal on here but there are people who can’t pay for childcare because they work lowering paying jobs. It’s normal in health insurance work from home jobs. Plenty of my neighbors do it and they have good IT jobs. Some people make it work with no childcare or half day.

I would look the other way when our toddler would grab H’s toothbrush that he left laying around and scrub the toilet with it.

“Sorry, babe, no, I wasn’t watching DC because I was busy doing the dishes you forgot to do last night. Maybe try putting your toothbrush away instead of leaving it on the tub? Or you can watch DC instead of playing on your phone”.

Use his email on lendingtree.com to shop for a loan. He will be getting spammy emails from now until forever.