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Anonymous wrote:I feel like them asking how many IS them being polite - many people either have a sign or state openly "take 1/2/handful, whatever." Them *asking* is them being polite.

Agree. I think that child was being polite The other stuff was rude, but that's the culture now at least in DCUM land expecting anything from kids at any time is taboo, Expecting kids to wear costumes, say please, thank you, or trick or treat, happy Halloween is al taboo and means you are an ogre.

I guess next year hand the candy to them and ignore the rest.

Our neighborhood had a mom who wanted everyone to set up a table so the “kids wouldn’t have to walk so far”. You gotta be kidding me. Why not just have the kids sit on their own porch like the Pope and have ppl bring the candy to them? /s

Speshful snowflakes who are overwhelmed with TOT perhaps we should cancel the whole thing seems it's too much for Gen alpha

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Anonymous wrote:My preschooler never says thank you. She has a nut allergy and is always trying to figure out if what she has been handed will be safe for her. We are working on "thank you" but I don't push it now because the first thing is teaching her how to be safe around food.

Just sharing this because we all have unique circumstances. I hope people don't think we are rude but it is less important to me than teaching my kid food safety.

Never ever, or just during T&T?

Just during Trick or Treating. It is very chaotic and crowded and just a lot for her to remember TY after looking at the candy and then getting pushed aside by crowds of kids. I don't think it's helpful to nag her about "TY" when she is doing the right thing by checking her food. It is a lot for a 4 year old in that context.

Teach her the fun of collecting and being polite in the moment. Look at the candy at home and make decisions on what she can have then. If she cant have it does she hand it back? I cant understand the point of teaching "safety" in this moment if shes not eating it immediately.

I do check it at home but she is learning how to keep herself safe. Yes she hands it back if she can't have it so they can give it to another child and then they graciously give her something she can eat.

We will keep doing what we are doing. It's fine if not everyone can understand.

It's possible to say Thank you and hand it back.

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Anonymous wrote:My preschooler never says thank you. She has a nut allergy and is always trying to figure out if what she has been handed will be safe for her. We are working on "thank you" but I don't push it now because the first thing is teaching her how to be safe around food.

Just sharing this because we all have unique circumstances. I hope people don't think we are rude but it is less important to me than teaching my kid food safety.

Never ever, or just during T&T?

Just during Trick or Treating. It is very chaotic and crowded and just a lot for her to remember TY after looking at the candy and then getting pushed aside by crowds of kids. I don't think it's helpful to nag her about "TY" when she is doing the right thing by checking her food. It is a lot for a 4 year old in that context.

Teach her the fun of collecting and being polite in the moment. Look at the candy at home and make decisions on what she can have then. If she cant have it does she hand it back? I cant understand the point of teaching "safety" in this moment if shes not eating it immediately.

I do check it at home but she is learning how to keep herself safe. Yes she hands it back if she can't have it so they can give it to another child and then they graciously give her something she can eat.

We will keep doing what we are doing. It's fine if not everyone can understand.

It's overwhelming for an excited kid to grab a piece of candy - paralyzed by their need to quickly evaluate which is their favorite, what might they already have, is there anything new in this bucket, etc. Just hand out the candy yourself. It's weird and awkward to make a kid choose.

Anonymous wrote:This was our first year trick or treating (almost 2 year old) and I loved how many houses had non-food options- pokemon cards, glow sticks... He didnt know what any of it was but loved collecting all his "presents". He did not say thank you (just seemed overwhealmed/scared) and tried to go inside numerous houses... we'll have to practice more next year.

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Anonymous wrote:My preschooler never says thank you. She has a nut allergy and is always trying to figure out if what she has been handed will be safe for her. We are working on "thank you" but I don't push it now because the first thing is teaching her how to be safe around food.

Just sharing this because we all have unique circumstances. I hope people don't think we are rude but it is less important to me than teaching my kid food safety.

Never ever, or just during T&T?

Just during Trick or Treating. It is very chaotic and crowded and just a lot for her to remember TY after looking at the candy and then getting pushed aside by crowds of kids. I don't think it's helpful to nag her about "TY" when she is doing the right thing by checking her food. It is a lot for a 4 year old in that context.

Teach her the fun of collecting and being polite in the moment. Look at the candy at home and make decisions on what she can have then. If she cant have it does she hand it back? I cant understand the point of teaching "safety" in this moment if shes not eating it immediately.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like them asking how many IS them being polite - many people either have a sign or state openly "take 1/2/handful, whatever." Them *asking* is them being polite.

Agree. I think that child was being polite The other stuff was rude, but that's the culture now at least in DCUM land expecting anything from kids at any time is taboo, Expecting kids to wear costumes, say please, thank you, or trick or treat, happy Halloween is al taboo and means you are an ogre.

I guess next year hand the candy to them and ignore the rest.

Our neighborhood had a mom who wanted everyone to set up a table so the “kids wouldn’t have to walk so far”. You gotta be kidding me. Why not just have the kids sit on their own porch like the Pope and have ppl bring the candy to them? /s

Who are you jerks insisting that children take one piece of candy? LOL!

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Anonymous wrote:My preschooler never says thank you. She has a nut allergy and is always trying to figure out if what she has been handed will be safe for her. We are working on "thank you" but I don't push it now because the first thing is teaching her how to be safe around food.

Just sharing this because we all have unique circumstances. I hope people don't think we are rude but it is less important to me than teaching my kid food safety.

Never ever, or just during T&T?

Just during Trick or Treating. It is very chaotic and crowded and just a lot for her to remember TY after looking at the candy and then getting pushed aside by crowds of kids. I don't think it's helpful to nag her about "TY" when she is doing the right thing by checking her food. It is a lot for a 4 year old in that context.

Anonymous wrote:My preschooler never says thank you. She has a nut allergy and is always trying to figure out if what she has been handed will be safe for her. We are working on "thank you" but I don't push it now because the first thing is teaching her how to be safe around food.

Just sharing this because we all have unique circumstances. I hope people don't think we are rude but it is less important to me than teaching my kid food safety.

Never ever, or just during T&T?

I give full size bars too. Op, don't listen to the people saying to do otherwise. My house is that house and kids like visiting at halloween.

I always let the kids choose ehat they want. We are an allergy house so if I gave a kid a full size snickers and they have a nut allergy it would be a waste. I just lay out the tray and say grab one. Kids with allergies go for the hershey bars, Starburst or lifesaver gummies. Kids without allergies grab whatever. Most kids say thank you, I don't judge the kids who don't.

“You may have one, and happy Halloween to you!”

My preschooler never says thank you. She has a nut allergy and is always trying to figure out if what she has been handed will be safe for her. We are working on "thank you" but I don't push it now because the first thing is teaching her how to be safe around food.

Just sharing this because we all have unique circumstances. I hope people don't think we are rude but it is less important to me than teaching my kid food safety.

So strange. We had a huge amount of kids and not one incident like this. Maybe it’s your neighbourhood? Or you?

How is asking how many they can have anything other than polite? You are the problem, OP.