Yes, I clean it. Sometimes DH does. We aren’t comfortable with hiring cleaning help given our budget.

Not sure what this “says about me” lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I hate cleaning so I don't. Also I live in a large house and it would take hours to properly clean. I can afford to have someone come in weekly and for me that is money well spent. Obviously if someone has a blowout we clean up but that doesn't seem to happen in our household on a regular basis. I do laundry though.

Hiring help isn't the issue, thinking of them as inferior being is.

What a wildly inaccurate take.

Do you look down on everybody you hire to do work?

It’s mind blowing but people do look down on hired help, everyone from housekeepers, childcare workers to plumbers. Just read some related threads.

I don’t, it doesn’t seem like you do, but unfortunately, plenty of people do.

Still it’s not just about toilets … they are terrible about everything.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I hate cleaning so I don't. Also I live in a large house and it would take hours to properly clean. I can afford to have someone come in weekly and for me that is money well spent. Obviously if someone has a blowout we clean up but that doesn't seem to happen in our household on a regular basis. I do laundry though.

Hiring help isn't the issue, thinking of them as inferior being is.

What a wildly inaccurate take.

Do you look down on everybody you hire to do work?

It’s mind blowing but people do look down on hired help, everyone from housekeepers, childcare workers to plumbers. Just read some related threads.

I don’t, it doesn’t seem like you do, but unfortunately, plenty of people do.

Highly educated, highly paid, not afraid of my own bathroom in my own home.

I have my kids do it as a chore unless an extraordinary mess has been made while ill or something.

I clean my whole house myself and yes, that includes the toilets. We make a good income but I don’t like having strange people in my home so we only outsource yard work on a regular basis.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I hate cleaning so I don't. Also I live in a large house and it would take hours to properly clean. I can afford to have someone come in weekly and for me that is money well spent. Obviously if someone has a blowout we clean up but that doesn't seem to happen in our household on a regular basis. I do laundry though.

Hiring help isn't the issue, thinking of them as inferior being is.

What a wildly inaccurate take.

Do you look down on everybody you hire to do work?

The PP isn't saying that everyone who hires housecleaners thinks they are inferior. Their point is that the issue we are talking about is whether or not some people view themselves as "above" tasks like cleaning a toilet. As the responses in the thread show there is a range of attitude on this and some people outsource housecleaning but have no issue cleaning a toilet themselves when needed. A few people have said outright that they don't think they should have to clean toilets because of their education level or income status.

So if you hire housecleaners but don't think they are beneath you then just say that. It's an open-ended question. You don't have to get angry or defensive at the stuff other people say.

I clean my own house, including the toilets. I can afford to hire housecleaners, but I don't. I have seen how housecleaning services do things, and it grosses me out. Not so much re: the toilets, but re: other things. I freely admit i am a germaphobe and I know no one else will clean my house to my satisfaction, so I do it my damn self.

There also is a part of me that thinks you should clean up your own messes. I suppose if I was a person with a really huge home, I might think differently, but I can manage my house.

And now I have teenagers to help, and I believe they should know how to do these things themselves.

Anonymous wrote:I think it's also crucial to teach your kids to have these skills. We all knew the person in the dorm who couldn't do their own laundry or couldn't do basic sewing or ironing. And I think many of us have found excuses to leave when confronted with a date or friend's filthy apartment

How hard do you think it is to clean a toilet? Or frankly do laundry?

I never cleaned growing up. We had a maid who came every day. I never did laundry and I didn't even make my bed because she did. When I got to college I was fully able to make my bed and do my laundry. And I was also able to clean a toilet when I moved into my first apartment. These are not difficult skills.

We have a weekly cleaning service. I do not clean my toilets (unless something happens the day after they come and it needs it). What it says about me: I'm fortunate enough to contract out this particular chore. It's not a statement on my morals.

I pay someone else to clean because its convenient, not because I'm too high almighty who is above cleaning her own mess.

Not in the normal course of things. We have a housekeeper who comes twice a week. After cleaning toilets (and everything else) mostly myself for many months during the pandemic, I remembered why we hired her all those years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:I do agree with hiring help to spread the money in community and to save time to use it for things cleaning crew can't do for you like spending quality time with your kids, working out, relaxing with your spouse, getting a high paying side gig to earn more money etc.

I do all that and clean my toilets, too.

NP. I'm sure you do. But having cleaners means I have more time to do those things.

I don't. I never did growing up either. My kids never have and may never. I've always prioritized having a housecleaner.

Anonymous wrote:Good life rule: Clean up your own messes (if you can).

I hate this every man for himself mentality.

I cook someone else cleans.

I like a clean car so my H cleans it on Sunday because he is kind.

My kids help clean the garage even though they didn’t mess it up.

My MIL will iron everyone’s clothes when she comes over because she likes to and she feels good doing it.

We are a team and it’s not an every man for himself world in my family.