Anonymous
12/10/2024 21:09
Subject: Twins creating separate lives
I'm an identical twin. My parents did a really good job raising us as individuals (didn't call us "the twins", didn't dress us matching, acknowledged our different personalities, etc). We have always been each other's best friends. We went to different colleges and then lived 600 miles away from each other for two years, and decided we hated it. Now we live 1.5 blocks from each other and work at the same place. We are both married and have other friends and relationships but we still finish each other's sentences. I agree with the PP who said being an identical twin is unlike anything else.
Anonymous
12/10/2024 18:30
Subject: Re:Twins creating separate lives
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t have twins, but my sister is married to an identical twin. The twins went to the same college; where my sister met her husband. They married right after college. The other brother had a brief marriage, but basically is a third wheel to my sister’s family. He is at their house most weekends or during the week. Sometimes they all vacation together, or the vacation alone. The other brother sometimes joins our side of the family for the holidays. The brothers are a matched set and we all accept that.
Your BIL and his twins should have found a pair of identical twin women to marry.
https://youtu.be/9tSi4pkwAjM?si=0cmss5Y7GMA2pA4H
One couple's divorce could've been a strain on other.
But that didn't happen.
https://armenianweekly.com/2023/04/06/in-memory-of-sylvia-barmakian/
Good. Now all twins must marry other twins. By the way female twins have higher chances of having twins which can makes pregnancy, postpartum and breastfeeding, as well as infant/toddler care twice as difficult.
Anonymous
12/10/2024 17:07
Subject: Re:Twins creating separate lives
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t have twins, but my sister is married to an identical twin. The twins went to the same college; where my sister met her husband. They married right after college. The other brother had a brief marriage, but basically is a third wheel to my sister’s family. He is at their house most weekends or during the week. Sometimes they all vacation together, or the vacation alone. The other brother sometimes joins our side of the family for the holidays. The brothers are a matched set and we all accept that.
Your BIL and his twins should have found a pair of identical twin women to marry.
https://youtu.be/9tSi4pkwAjM?si=0cmss5Y7GMA2pA4H
One couple's divorce could've been a strain on other.
But that didn't happen.
https://armenianweekly.com/2023/04/06/in-memory-of-sylvia-barmakian/
Anonymous
12/10/2024 14:10
Subject: Re:Twins creating separate lives
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t have twins, but my sister is married to an identical twin. The twins went to the same college; where my sister met her husband. They married right after college. The other brother had a brief marriage, but basically is a third wheel to my sister’s family. He is at their house most weekends or during the week. Sometimes they all vacation together, or the vacation alone. The other brother sometimes joins our side of the family for the holidays. The brothers are a matched set and we all accept that.
Your BIL and his twins should have found a pair of identical twin women to marry.
https://youtu.be/9tSi4pkwAjM?si=0cmss5Y7GMA2pA4H
One couple's divorce could've been a strain on other.
Anonymous
12/10/2024 13:52
Subject: Re:Twins creating separate lives
Anonymous wrote:I don’t have twins, but my sister is married to an identical twin. The twins went to the same college; where my sister met her husband. They married right after college. The other brother had a brief marriage, but basically is a third wheel to my sister’s family. He is at their house most weekends or during the week. Sometimes they all vacation together, or the vacation alone. The other brother sometimes joins our side of the family for the holidays. The brothers are a matched set and we all accept that.
Your BIL and his twins should have found a pair of identical twin women to marry.
https://youtu.be/9tSi4pkwAjM?si=0cmss5Y7GMA2pA4H
Anonymous
12/10/2024 13:42
Subject: Twins creating separate lives
Anonymous wrote:Twins are really fascinating, and the rest of us just should have no say as to how this plays out in life. It's biology.
But we do, specially parents and grandparents, trying to artificially keep them in same box, with similar names, clothes, schools,colleges, activities, towns, professions etc. They are two siblings born and raised together, doesn't mean they owe each other their first born or something. Let them be independent individuals and experience their lives as they prefer, not as a codependent duo. They don't have to buy two of everything to keep a strong bond.
Anonymous
12/10/2024 13:36
Subject: Twins creating separate lives
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The fascinating stories are when twins marry twins. Their lives and their spouse's lives are forever entwined in ways the rest of us cannot comprehend.
A rather stupid idea on so many levels. If one marriage fails, it taints other couple's lives forever.
Anonymous
12/10/2024 13:35
Subject: Twins creating separate lives
Anonymous wrote:The fascinating stories are when twins marry twins. Their lives and their spouse's lives are forever entwined in ways the rest of us cannot comprehend.
A rather stupid idea on so many levels. If one marriage fails, it taints other couple's lives forever.
Anonymous
12/10/2024 12:31
Subject: Twins creating separate lives
The fascinating stories are when twins marry twins. Their lives and their spouse's lives are forever entwined in ways the rest of us cannot comprehend.
The only argument I would have regarding shared lives such as OP's issue and something like this is in the event of death. I can't see the other half functioning at all due to the symbiotic nature of the relationship. That might be a reason to force some separation. I know a twin who lost her twin suddenly. They were identical twins, but for the most part lived separately after high school, however still close. One twin died of a sudden heart issue at 45, unexpected, not hereditary either- a reaction to a medication, and of course the remaining twin was devastated, required therapy and lots of time, but she said at the time the fact that they didn't live near each other and had separate lives helped her probably more than had they chosen to live parallel lives.
The only argument I would have regarding shared lives such as OP's issue and something like this is in the event of death. I can't see the other half functioning at all due to the symbiotic nature of the relationship. That might be a reason to force some separation. I know a twin who lost her twin suddenly. They were identical twins, but for the most part lived separately after high school, however still close. One twin died of a sudden heart issue at 45, unexpected, not hereditary either- a reaction to a medication, and of course the remaining twin was devastated, required therapy and lots of time, but she said at the time the fact that they didn't live near each other and had separate lives helped her probably more than had they chosen to live parallel lives.
Anonymous
12/10/2024 12:22
Subject: Twins creating separate lives
Twins are really fascinating, and the rest of us just should have no say as to how this plays out in life. It's biology.
Anonymous
12/09/2024 23:31
Subject: Twins creating separate lives
Anonymous wrote:I have twins in college. They go to school in different states. Year 1 they talked to each other, now they barely do.
When the graduate one wants to go to grad school on the west coast. The other wants to come back to the DMV.
My twins with separate lives make me sad. Be careful what you wish for.
You prefer them to limit their lives to tag along to each other? If you want them to have good relations, instead of wanting them to keep changing their paths to stay together, gift them air tickets to visit each other's world yearly and keep a strong bond.
Anonymous
12/09/2024 22:04
Subject: Twins creating separate lives
Works for the Winklevosses. Why change something that is working?
Anonymous
12/06/2024 08:43
Subject: Twins creating separate lives
I have twins in college. They go to school in different states. Year 1 they talked to each other, now they barely do.
When the graduate one wants to go to grad school on the west coast. The other wants to come back to the DMV.
My twins with separate lives make me sad. Be careful what you wish for.
When the graduate one wants to go to grad school on the west coast. The other wants to come back to the DMV.
My twins with separate lives make me sad. Be careful what you wish for.
Anonymous
12/03/2024 10:38
Subject: Twins creating separate lives
Anonymous wrote:Identical twins are a special case. It's hard for those of us who were singletons, or even fraternal twins, to imagine what it's like to have a genetically identical sibling. So be careful with the judgment.
I've knowm identical that were similar in style, interest, etc. Others not at all similar. Some fraternal whether it's M/F or F/F or M/M
have a close bond as siblings but there is a range like any other siblings. Imagine same preschool class and they don't play with each other or in a group together. I had fraternal twins - now adults.
Twins or sibs buying a property together? Smart use of resources and likely got something better [if anything] than they coiild get individually. Also a trusted partner /co-owner in the investment.