Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 18:29     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
What’s sad is the mental disorder was never diagnosed and/or treated. Too many times it’s a family secret by the matriarch.

Oh well, uncle Jim is still living at home. Oh he’s helping his now elderly parents out. Yeah.

Nevermind that his mother still does all the cooking, cleaning, appointments, his taxes from freelancing, buys him stuff and even rental properties.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 18:26     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Will it be normal for 36-year-old to live at home and has no plans to move out, and have no plans to ever find a boyfriend or girlfriends or even a friend to move in with?

Works and makes okay money about 60,000 a year, but she just doesn't want to spend any money and want to save it all...


Not normal. This is failure to launch and usually involves mental illness of some sort.


+1
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 09:28     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:Will it be normal for 36-year-old to live at home and has no plans to move out, and have no plans to ever find a boyfriend or girlfriends or even a friend to move in with?

Works and makes okay money about 60,000 a year, but she just doesn't want to spend any money and want to save it all...


Not normal. This is failure to launch and usually involves mental illness of some sort.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 09:26     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:Then one day, parents in old age might want one if their kids living with/near them to take care of them...


Especially if they’re. Or doing anything else in life
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2024 08:34     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I live in a place where housing is extremely expensive and culturally people take care of their seniors so intergenerational living is the norm.

The younger generational singles contribute and help take care of the household and elderly and nieces/nephews, etc. They have friends and travel and volunteer and have hobbies.

So I'd say it's okay if the 36 year old is mature and participating in life like one would expect. If they are living at home but still behaving like a teenager and being taken care of, then no, that isn't typical.


I guess OP is not part of your "culture" so no, not normal for a 36yr. old to live at home.

I'm surprised you are living somewhere "very expensive" and still trying to maintain those old generational norms...

We broke those barriers, when we came to US!


When my immigrant relatives came here, they continued the "old generational norms." LOL that you think people here don't do this. How provincial.

It's also sad that you view toughing it out on your own, w/o family support in home or nearby, as some sort of badge of honor. (Which, to be clear, I've done that for reasons that are no one's business, frankly. It's not).


A family who lives in my neighborhood is multigenerational Hispanic. Had the adults in the home moved out and bought their own places, back in 2016 when we first moved here, they’d be much further ahead considering what real estate has done.

The could afford it, at least some of them.

Now they are all living in a house that is getting more and more cramped because their extended family and friends from back home keep trickling in.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2024 16:08     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I live in a place where housing is extremely expensive and culturally people take care of their seniors so intergenerational living is the norm.

The younger generational singles contribute and help take care of the household and elderly and nieces/nephews, etc. They have friends and travel and volunteer and have hobbies.

So I'd say it's okay if the 36 year old is mature and participating in life like one would expect. If they are living at home but still behaving like a teenager and being taken care of, then no, that isn't typical.


I guess OP is not part of your "culture" so no, not normal for a 36yr. old to live at home.

I'm surprised you are living somewhere "very expensive" and still trying to maintain those old generational norms...

We broke those barriers, when we came to US!


When my immigrant relatives came here, they continued the "old generational norms." LOL that you think people here don't do this. How provincial.

It's also sad that you view toughing it out on your own, w/o family support in home or nearby, as some sort of badge of honor. (Which, to be clear, I've done that for reasons that are no one's business, frankly. It's not).
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2024 14:40     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Then one day, parents in old age might want one if their kids living with/near them to take care of them...
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2024 14:19     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I live in a place where housing is extremely expensive and culturally people take care of their seniors so intergenerational living is the norm.

The younger generational singles contribute and help take care of the household and elderly and nieces/nephews, etc. They have friends and travel and volunteer and have hobbies.

So I'd say it's okay if the 36 year old is mature and participating in life like one would expect. If they are living at home but still behaving like a teenager and being taken care of, then no, that isn't typical.


I guess OP is not part of your "culture" so no, not normal for a 36yr. old to live at home.

I'm surprised you are living somewhere "very expensive" and still trying to maintain those old generational norms...

We broke those barriers, when we came to US!


Actually young adults with parents from joint family cultures are more likely to not take advantage of saving money by living with parents because they don't want people judging them. My 22-32 nieces and nephews buy/rent and maintain their own places even if they hang out at family homes half of the time if they aren't at work, gym, asleep or socializing.


Living in Multigenerational homes is a lot more than just saving money, that's why many do not want to follow these old generational "traditions"...

Anonymous
Post 09/04/2024 14:03     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I live in a place where housing is extremely expensive and culturally people take care of their seniors so intergenerational living is the norm.

The younger generational singles contribute and help take care of the household and elderly and nieces/nephews, etc. They have friends and travel and volunteer and have hobbies.

So I'd say it's okay if the 36 year old is mature and participating in life like one would expect. If they are living at home but still behaving like a teenager and being taken care of, then no, that isn't typical.


I guess OP is not part of your "culture" so no, not normal for a 36yr. old to live at home.

I'm surprised you are living somewhere "very expensive" and still trying to maintain those old generational norms...

We broke those barriers, when we came to US!


Actually young adults with parents from joint family cultures are more likely to not take advantage of saving money by living with parents because they don't want people judging them. My 22-32 nieces and nephews buy/rent and maintain their own places even if they hang out at family homes half of the time if they aren't at work, gym, asleep or socializing.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2024 10:50     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:I live in a place where housing is extremely expensive and culturally people take care of their seniors so intergenerational living is the norm.

The younger generational singles contribute and help take care of the household and elderly and nieces/nephews, etc. They have friends and travel and volunteer and have hobbies.

So I'd say it's okay if the 36 year old is mature and participating in life like one would expect. If they are living at home but still behaving like a teenager and being taken care of, then no, that isn't typical.


I guess OP is not part of your "culture" so no, not normal for a 36yr. old to live at home.

I'm surprised you are living somewhere "very expensive" and still trying to maintain those old generational norms...

We broke those barriers, when we came to US!
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2024 16:45     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Will it be normal for 36-year-old to live at home and has no plans to move out, and have no plans to ever find a boyfriend or girlfriends or even a friend to move in with?

Works and makes okay money about 60,000 a year, but she just doesn't want to spend any money and want to save it all...


Save for...what? Die old and lonely and wealthy?


+1
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2024 20:04     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
Anonymous wrote:If everyone gets along well and have their own life going, there is no harm to in inter generational cohabitation. Sharing money and chores can make life easier.


I tend to agree with this. I have heard the term co-dependency. Assuming it means that you don’t want either depending on the other for the arrangement? As long nobody feels stuck and without choice I think it’s fine.
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2024 10:06     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
I'm from a joint family culture but it wouldn't work for me.
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2024 10:04     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
If everyone gets along well and have their own life going, there is no harm to in inter generational cohabitation. Sharing money and chores can make life easier.
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2024 00:06     Subject: Will it be normal for 36 year old to Still live at home
I live in a place where housing is extremely expensive and culturally people take care of their seniors so intergenerational living is the norm.

The younger generational singles contribute and help take care of the household and elderly and nieces/nephews, etc. They have friends and travel and volunteer and have hobbies.

So I'd say it's okay if the 36 year old is mature and participating in life like one would expect. If they are living at home but still behaving like a teenager and being taken care of, then no, that isn't typical.