Anonymous wrote:Not really, no.

Americans Are Getting Married Older Than Ever

https://www.statista.com/chart/7031/americans-are-tying-the-knot-older-than-ever/

I guess the others in this thread don’t like facts.

This basically ends the conversation.

I’m very confused about why being married makes it impossible to go to graduate school or have a good job? I found it much easier to achieve things in life with a spouse as support.

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Anonymous wrote:Millie Bobbie Brown and a whole swath of young Hollywood getting married before 25 is setting the trend. I think it is definitely in response to the Millennials who have held out forever and for too long. They are now in their 30's and it's looking bleak. Gen Z tends to roll their eyes at the Millennials so not surprised that they would go the other way.

This. I think they also learned from us Gen Xers who mostly waited to get married, lots of us either had problems having children or couldn't.

Literally all my GenX friends (and me) were married between around 26-28…the last one at 30.

Don’t blame GenX.

You must be on the older end of Gen X. I'm on the younger end and me and most of my friends were married in our early 30s. We all went to grad school though, maybe that's why?

Bingo.

People who are less focused on school/career are more likely to get married young.

1972 GenX, very few college/grad school peers married <30.

Financial hurdles and commitment phobias are bigger factors than focus on careers. Mythical broad brush of 'all 20's marriage bad and all 30's and 40's marriages good', plays a significant role in people aimlessly wandering from relationship to relationship, avoiding commitment.

No one mentions that after 35, they'll be settling quickly for whatever is leftover and facing issues driven by incompatibility, infertility and relationship baggage collected over a decade.

Anonymous wrote:Women who got married in their 30s will act like that was their plan all along, but we all know they wanted to get that done before 30 but couldn't find a man their age willing to commit. The newer generations of young men are not afraid of marriage like their fathers were.

This. The young men these days are sick of hookup culture, which they saw in the generation ahead of them. They are relationship driven

Women who got married in their 30s will act like that was their plan all along, but we all know they wanted to get that done before 30 but couldn't find a man their age willing to commit. The newer generations of young men are not afraid of marriage like their fathers were.

I doubt its a trend, more like refusal to follow the trend.

It’s a trend, yes. The ones doing it for that reason won’t last.

>25% of 40 year olds have never been married

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/06/28/a-record-high-share-of-40-year-olds-in-the-us-have-never-been-married/

Anonymous wrote:Almost half of my niece's cohort in dental school is already committed, engaged or married.

Again...those aren't numbers comporting with anyone doing something unusually young. I assume the %age married is quite low...but that means that 40%ish of the ages of 21/22 - 24/25 are committed or engaged and will marry at 25 - 26...and that 50% of the class probably won't find a SO and get married until like 30ish.

Almost half of my niece's cohort in dental school is already committed, engaged or married.

Anonymous wrote:Also, the younger generation doesn't seem as career motivated as my generation seems to be. I get it. Again, they see older generations who prioritized work, preached its supremacy over all else, and they aren't buying it. Probably not that impressed with their own parents approach and aren't focused on pursuing the same paths.

I was career motivated, so was my spouse. We got married when I finished college (he'd finished 2 years earlier). Same career path, ended up at same company. Focused on our careers for 7 years then had kids. 30+ years strong.

But I'll admit we are both unusually mature and focused. Getting married that young is not for everyone.

Recently attended a wedding of my 23 year old niece. (High school sweethearts who went to the same college.) I’m in my late 40s and every single one of my college friends who married before age 25 is divorced, so we’ll see.

I don’t know anyone that married in their 30s that was in a serious relationship in their early 20s and then broke up with their SO at the time because pop-culture I guess told them they should.

It was because they hadn’t found someone yet and yes you focus on a career in your 20s.

Every example provided above is of people finding someone in college and getting married…none are single 21 year olds finding someone post-college and then marrying at 22.

There were always the college couples that stayed together and married young. I don’t think the overall statistics are much different anecdotes aside.

Not really, no.

Americans Are Getting Married Older Than Ever

https://www.statista.com/chart/7031/americans-are-tying-the-knot-older-than-ever/