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Anonymous wrote:End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.

OP here. I asked as soon as short season started in 5th. My DD is going into 7th (we are FCPS so, this will be the start of MS) in a couple of weeks and has not asked.

My rising 7th grade daughter also hasn't asked. I just don't think it bothers her, and I'm not planning to bring it up unless she asks.

Anonymous wrote:Are there really moms TEACHING their daughters that this is normal hygiene. Come on. Do better. If they ask and choose, fine. But to tell girls you need to do this to fit into a society? Ick

Disagree. We shave our legs and armpits the same as we trim our fingernails and hair. Moms teaching their kids its fine to skip these things are doing the disservice.

Are there really moms TEACHING their daughters that this is normal hygiene. Come on. Do better. If they ask and choose, fine. But to tell girls you need to do this to fit into a society? Ick

My Grandmom thinks it disgusting for woman to wear any skirts or dresses without having on a slip and pantyhose?

We all agree with that too, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I just asked my 16 yo if she knows literally anyone who doesn’t shave and she said no. And she looked at me like my question was weird.

Does she know anyone not literally?

Teens can be very self focused. When they say "everyone" they mean everyone they know in their circle of friends or adjacent.

Literally.

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Anonymous wrote:I just asked my 16 yo if she knows literally anyone who doesn’t shave and she said no. And she looked at me like my question was weird.

Does she know anyone not literally?

Teens can be very self focused. When they say "everyone" they mean everyone they know in their circle of friends or adjacent.

Anonymous wrote:My teen has never shaven their legs. And like another poster said. None of them care, judge, or talk about it.

This is a GOOD thing. I mean at one point woman had to always shave, wear dresses, make-up, and heels. Let's be real. Shaving was started by MEN.

Before stockings, women "had" to use leg make-up. Now THAT's weird and not normal!

My teen has never shaven their legs. And like another poster said. None of them care, judge, or talk about it.

This is a GOOD thing. I mean at one point woman had to always shave, wear dresses, make-up, and heels. Let's be real. Shaving was started by MEN.

My teen has never shaven her legs. She does shave her bikini line in summer and armpits like once a week. It’s not a big to do. She’s had a BF for 18 months. I know they having sex. So it didn’t change in that regard either.

After I saw this question I started thinking about all of her friends and I don’t remember any of them talking about shaving. Maybe some do but it certainly isn’t a thing for girls to do or talk about in high school

Anonymous wrote:I just asked my 16 yo if she knows literally anyone who doesn’t shave and she said no. And she looked at me like my question was weird.

Does she know anyone not literally?

Anonymous wrote:I have a hard time taking someone who thinks underarm hair visible on a girl is 'gross' but has nothing to say about all the boy underarm hair in the pool. Ridiculous.

Also, of course the swim club shaves. Males who compete in swim often shave. Using that as your metric of 'everyone shaves' is not very aware.

DP here. I’m very aware, and thankful I don’t live somewhere that this is a trend for teenage girls.

Anonymous wrote:I have a hard time taking someone who thinks underarm hair visible on a girl is 'gross' but has nothing to say about all the boy underarm hair in the pool. Ridiculous.

Also, of course the swim club shaves. Males who compete in swim often shave. Using that as your metric of 'everyone shaves' is not very aware.

*seriously

I have a hard time taking someone who thinks underarm hair visible on a girl is 'gross' but has nothing to say about all the boy underarm hair in the pool. Ridiculous.

Also, of course the swim club shaves. Males who compete in swim often shave. Using that as your metric of 'everyone shaves' is not very aware.

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Anonymous wrote:I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.

People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.

It is normal now not to shave, also normal to shave. I’m not sure if I could say “most” to either choice because seems common now

Um, I believe you may want to review the definition of the word “normal.” You don't seem to understand what it means.

Um, perhaps you should consider "normal" being what the body naturally does, which includes growing hair on women's legs and underarms. Abnormal would be no hair there.

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Anonymous wrote:End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.

OP here. I asked as soon as short season started in 5th. My DD is going into 7th (we are FCPS so, this will be the start of MS) in a couple of weeks and has not asked.

Maybe the hair doesn't bother her. A way to bring it up casually if you watch TV and see a shaving ad could say "if you want to shave you can but if you don't want to that's totally okay, lots of girls and women don't shave." Then don't bring it up agsin unless she does.
Or if you’re watching a movie where there's a shaving scene. Could say above after the movie is over, especially if you talk about the movie after.

Lots don’t shave?? Just wrong. I don’t know a single teen or woman that doesn’t shave.

DP. I do, and I see more and more out and about all the time. Was on a college campus recently and saw a girl in a pretty sundress holding her boyfriend’s hand, walking around with hairy legs. I agree it looks shocking to us middle aged ladies, but it’s not that a big a deal for the teens and young adults.

This is my daughter. I hate the look but not my decision.

Mine, too. Me, too.