Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 22:00     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
Anonymous wrote:Please help me know if I should do this or not.
A close family member's adult child is getting married. Everyone involved is well off (me, the least relatively speaking but this isn't really about $$) My idea would be more about time and effort vs $$.
I could give a nice check but I really want to knit a fun throw blanket using the wedding colors which are bold and striking. I will do a nice job, use good yarn, and wrap it beautifully.
Is this tacky? Too crafty? Weird?
I am known for knitting family gifts: hats, scarves, wraps, etc.
I am a really good knitter.
Fire away. Thanks!


I would like it!
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 21:57     Subject: Re:Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
OP can you share a pic of the type of throw you are thinking of? What are the wedding colors
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 21:56     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
I would have loved to get something like this. But also check with someone who actually saw your knitting and is honest with you.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 21:54     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It will be much more appreciated than some gift card or low budget item they could buy themselves. Someone gave us nice - but not insanely nice - monogrammed blankets and we use them far more than the very expensive espresso maker.



I would not appreciate such a blanket because I already have picked out my bed linens but would definitely like an espresso maker. Different strokes. Ask the bride-to-be before you go through the trouble and expense of knitting the blanket.


Drink less espresso, appreciate the people around you and their gifts more. You’ll be happier.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 21:53     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
Anonymous wrote:I think it sounds nice. That being said, my mom’s friend made us a nice stained glass box thing in our wedding colors for our wedding. I thought it was lovely and appreciated the gesture, but it is currently in a closet somewhere. Though same can prob can be said for many of our registry gifts.


Right - I couldn’t tell you where most of my registry gifts are. The quilt that several family members collaborated on is literally on my feet right now.

If you don’t have room in your house for a thoughtful handmade gift what kind of cold yuppie s-hole do you live in?

Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 20:09     Subject: Re:Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
Check.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 20:04     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
Anonymous wrote:Op, do something handmade -only- if you: are able to NOT care if they never use it, know they might pass it on to someone else or donate it, show no special appreciation for it. Do not expect anything from this act. Do not expect that your project gets shown off to others. Do not expect it to become a keepsake or be special to them.

Because you just can't know. If there is something special you'd like to make them, sure. Just be cautious and have expectations.


Yeah, they’ll treasure those ugly plates… for as long as 2 years until they go out of fashion.

If you can’t appreciate someone putting their heart into something for you when they afford your tacky registry stuff… I dunno. You’re right they probably shouldn’t bother with you.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 19:43     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
Op, do something handmade -only- if you: are able to NOT care if they never use it, know they might pass it on to someone else or donate it, show no special appreciation for it. Do not expect anything from this act. Do not expect that your project gets shown off to others. Do not expect it to become a keepsake or be special to them.

Because you just can't know. If there is something special you'd like to make them, sure. Just be cautious and have expectations.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 19:35     Subject: Re:Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
I would absolutely hate this as a gift. I wouldn’t want it and would feel guilty about getting rid of it knowing someone spent time on it. I really hate crafty crap.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 19:26     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
I'd like to receive a gift like that.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 19:17     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
DH's great aunt gave him a handmade throw. We never used it but have it. If he dies first, I will have them wrap him in it for cremation.
I have my wool baby buggy blanket for me.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 19:03     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
19:02 again reading your post again, I’d rather have the hat and scarves in fun good wedding colors. I think those along with a thoughtful card would be an excellent gift. You don’t have to spend a lot and they are more likely to be used.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 19:02     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
I wouldn’t like this as a gift. We received several hand made things like this and I’m sure they took a ton of time. Most were when our kids were born, knitted blankets or quilts. I never donated because I felt bad but they are packed away somewhere in the house. I don’t like other people decorating my house and we didn’t need another blanket, quilt, photo album etc. I would have rather had a nice hand written card. I kept those and they don’t make me feel bad that they aren’t being used.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 18:58     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a knitter, so I get how much goes into a gift like that. I think it's a lovely idea, although I would personally choose a neutral color rather than the wedding colors.


I'm a knitter too, and would love to receive a blanket like this.

HOWEVER - knowing what "nice yarn" requires in order to washed and dried properly, are they the types to follow those instructions so it doesn't get ruined? I think its a wonderful idea - but be very careful to select yarn that is easy to care for (not all superwash wool will go through the washer/dryer very well) and will stay beautiful. I've done beautiful baby blankets in hand wash only yarns, but they're small enough that they can lie flat on top of the washing machine to dry.




Ugh. I knit blankets for my friend’s babies but always in a washable yarn. One baby puke and that hand wash blanket is done.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2024 18:51     Subject: Hand-made wedding gift, yes or no?
Anonymous wrote:I was also going to say hard NO. But after reading, go for it. Full size, enough to decoratively lay at the foot of a king bed.

Do think about how/when you’re going to give it.


One of my aunts made me a throw in a fairly neutral pastel color. That was a shower gift and I do wish it was cream. But full size? Decorating their bedroom is a no. Small elegant throw that can go in the washer is great.