Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Question says it all. I have been hearing all of my friends who are federal government workers saying their kids are not eligible for financial aid. But I don't think this is enough $ in income to afford $70K in college costs per kid per year. And it's not as though these families had extra income before their kids went to college - in this area, a mortgage, saving for retirement, and cost of raising kids will eat up all of that income. Where does the extra $ come from if they don't get financial aid?
They have been saving in 529s since their children were newborns, idiot. And they aren’t sending them to schools that cost $70k annually. What kind of dumbass, tone-deaf question is this.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We make less, we save starting at birth, make savings a priority, no vacations, etc. and state school.
Yep. Started saving when we were TRYING to have our first. Opened a 529 with monthly contributions of $25. Neither of us are "rich" but we are doing fine. Lived in the same house for 24 years. Only the past couple of years do we have combined salaries in excess of $250k. Limited our two children to $50K/yr each which pretty much limits them to public.
There are a lot of private schools where merit can bring the price down to $50k or lower. Just have to look beyond T30ish
True but they are usually well below T50 for top easy attainable merit. Why pursue it if the publics in question are UVA and Wiilliam&Mary?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. So, for all of the haters that say that I am 'stupid', have you considered that I am possibly just busy? Sandwich generation with kid and aging parents with problems. So.....perhaps that I haven't had time to think about this much yet and also wanted to hear thoughts from a wide range of people?
I really appreciate all of the honest answers here on what people are doing to make this work. A couple of insights have been particularly helpful. One, my friends who are doing this sometimes have $400K salaries because they are both Feds and we are actually one Fed+one non profit. Two, they have been saving since birth. As have we. We have $136K in the 529 and kid is a rising 7th grader. Three, we are actually doing the 15 year mortgage thing and mortgage will be done by the time that kid is 19. I wasn't thinking of that in terms of college but of course it will help. Four, number of kids matters. We actually have just one and cost has been a huge factor in that decision all along the way. Five, you at least get to stop shelling out costs for tutoring, activities, etc when they go to school. So that's good. Maybe we can move to a less expensive place to live?
I went to an Ivy league school and my network here is largely people who went there and are very very advantaged. But many chose not-the-highest-paying careers b/c they were passionate about health, the environment, etc. So I am just trying to see how people make it work....(cue the Ivy haters)....and to get opinions outside of my biased privileged circle. I have been surprised that so many of my friends are sending their kids to top name schools and don't know how they afford it, particularly since all have at least two kids. My husband has always said MC-->UMD is what the path should be or perhaps his home country which has a decent university system.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP. Sorry people have been rude. You ask a good question. With what feels like a lot of schools costing $70k+, it feels crippling. I know I have saved a little but our income didn't grow enough to save more until the kids were teens. And earlier I was trying to squirrel away money for my retirement.
With kids that are 14 and 16, it feels like this mountain in my future.
It's not a good question. It was quite possibly one of the stupidest questions ever posted on DCUM.
It actually was a fair question. But you are quite possibly one of the most trash people on DCUM.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP. Sorry people have been rude. You ask a good question. With what feels like a lot of schools costing $70k+, it feels crippling. I know I have saved a little but our income didn't grow enough to save more until the kids were teens. And earlier I was trying to squirrel away money for my retirement.
With kids that are 14 and 16, it feels like this mountain in my future.
It's not a good question. It was quite possibly one of the stupidest questions ever posted on DCUM.
It actually was a fair question. But you are quite possibly one of the most trash people on DCUM.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have 1 kid that will go 4 yrs in state. The other is doing HS DE and will finish his last 2 yrs in state. I think where they go for grad school is more important than where they go for undergrad.
Why waste $$$s on grad school? It’s usually a terrible investment.
Never understand this thinking.
Med school pays itself off easily. All our close friends did full loans and paid off within 15 yrs. Law school pays off for most. PhD’s worth getting are fully funded (ie tuition plus stipend to live on, yes even in humanities): they are Free!
Only terminal masters can be a $ suck, but some of them, depending on field, pay off well.
"Pay off easily" and "15 years" are not anywhere close to synonymous in my head. That's a debilitating wait to have freedom from just school debt.